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RE: Inaccessible - 3/15/2010 5:00:00 PM

Drifa

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I'm submissive, yet a lot of people find me intimidating. I think it's because I am fairly tall, and very self-confident.

If I had a nickel for every submissive male who has come to me over the years assuming I am a domme because of my confidence, I would be able to purchase a dream home by now. This was worse when I was actively participating in martial arts. For some reason, men assume that if you can kick ass in the dojo, you long to do nothing but kick ass everywhere. I just laugh.

I really think that some people find confident women intimidating.

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/15/2010 5:00:07 PM

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I'm sure somewhere in Elan's filthy little mind . . . . ;-)

No, I won't have that, LA. While Elan's mind may well be profoundly disgusting in many ways, it's not a small mind.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
But yeah, I know all about the vulnerability. Remember that thread? ;-) Sometimes it works in our favour, sometimes it doesn't. Some guys find me too vulnerable to be a Domme, some too cold to be a woman. You boys are so annoyingly picky!! ;-)

I think the key word is 'brittle'. It's when a femdom comes across as so 'cold' and 'hard' that she might one day suddenly shatter, it's very unnerving and quite uncomfortable to see. I think, 'Oh come on. You just cannot be like that all the time. You really don't need to be, either.'

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/15/2010 5:21:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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I'm sure somewhere in Elan's filthy little mind . . . . ;-)

No, I won't have that, LA. While Elan's mind may well be profoundly disgusting in many ways, it's not a small mind.

I used little as a term of endearment. There is no way I meant it any other way.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
But yeah, I know all about the vulnerability. Remember that thread? ;-)Sometimes it works in our favour, sometimes it doesn't. Some guys find me too vulnerable to be a Domme, some too cold to be a woman. You boys are so annoyingly picky!! ;-)

I think the key word is 'brittle'. It's when a femdom comes across as so 'cold' and 'hard' that she might one day suddenly shatter, it's very unnerving and quite uncomfortable to see. I think, 'Oh come on. You just cannot be like that all the time. You really don't need to be, either.'

Agreed. One has much more fun when they are flexible.

- LA

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/15/2010 5:32:41 PM

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Agreed. One has much more fun when they are flexible.

- LA

Said the gymnast to the Bishop.

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/15/2010 5:55:02 PM

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I'm sure somewhere in Elan's filthy little mind . . . . ;-)

No, I won't have that, LA. While Elan's mind may well be profoundly disgusting in many ways, it's not a small mind.

I used little as a term of endearment. There is no way I meant it any other way.

I know, LA. No worries. ;-)

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/15/2010 6:06:23 PM

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Agreed. One has much more fun when they are flexible.

- LA

Said the gymnast to the Bishop.

Another filthy little mind ;-)

- LA

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/16/2010 7:43:20 PM

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People frequently tell me that I'm very approachable and friendly, but a lot of men (especially submissive ones) have been intimidated by me. I'm not sure whether it has to do with their personality, or the slightly predatory vibe they sparked from me.

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/16/2010 8:17:25 PM

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i have never had a problen in aproaching someone new im not bashfull in the least. as my Mistress has stated She is a very aproachable and socal person but i understan what the op is saying in that some feel that they are not in there league and above the notice of simple submissives. in a public play setting if They didnt want to meet you then They wouldnt have come out.

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RE: Inaccessible - 3/17/2010 7:32:43 AM

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Last week, a friend of mine told me that he felt that I was inaccessible (I'm translating directly from French, so maybe I can say hard to approach? but I'm not sure).

Chuckles ... Laughs ... and thinks this is funny.

Lady A ... forgive me, for laughing ... but i have ALWAYS thought quite the opposite about You!

And while i do not know the context or location of the conversation You shared with Your friend ... i can't imagine You as anything other than friendly and accessible ... as well as a skilled writer and conversationalist ...

well, when You are using English ... of course! ;-)

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