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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 4:40:18 PM   
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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 4:42:53 PM   
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Sorry if our sympathies are more with your wife, but that's the way it is dude. You have a choice now. Move on, get over it, accept it for what it is and realize we are women with some honor and ethics.


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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 4:46:02 PM   
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AshleyMadison.com and OnlineBootyCall.com seem like the obvious choices. 


OMG, is there really a ONLINEBOOTYCALL.com ?! LOL, I have to go google it... har har!


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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 4:47:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: discreetsubnyc

I don't really understand why everyone is rushing to judgment here. I was not asking for your ethical commentary, nor do I understand why you feel entitled to give it. I was simply asking if anyone knows of any resources that I might use to find what I am looking for. Thank you to those of you who answered this question conscientiously.


I was asking you a question...if you took it as passing judgement that's your problem.

I'm also curious why you think folks here would be willing to offer advice on how to find a bdsm fuck buddy.  If you had used the search feature, you would have been able to get a better understanding of how your question would have been taken. 

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 4:47:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the onus is on you to explain why ethical considerations aren't relevant to the world of BDSM, discreetsub.

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 4:54:05 PM   
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OMG, is there really a ONLINEBOOTYCALL.com ?! LOL, I have to go google it... har har!

Heh.  Yeah, I did too.  Looks like a junior AFF.  Did you know AFF is one of the top 50 most heavily trafficked sites on the internet?  That's the OP's problem right there.  Kink is a niche.  He's the going from massive numbers of people interested in vanilla flings -- where no matter how low your standards are, someone else's are even lower -- to the world of hen's teeth called kinky online dating.

Do you have money, and can you afford a monthly allowance?  That's how you should be thinking, discreetsub.  I just don't see you garnering much interest otherwise.  Why on earth should a femdom beat on you, for any reason?


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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 5:08:11 PM   
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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 5:35:53 PM   
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Thanks for the smile Jen, if not the spilt drink.  

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 5:39:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

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Thanks for the smile Jen, if not the spilt drink.  


Awww... was it your coffee? I am so darn sad about that if it was! See what happens when you won't share and treat people without coffee poorly by drinking in front of them and make a point of it! I'm told that's karma.


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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 5:42:51 PM   
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Awww... was it your coffee? I am so darn sad about that if it was! See what happens when you won't share and treat people without coffee poorly by drinking in front of them and make a point of it! I'm told that's karma.



I look on the bright side. It isnt half empty, its half full.  Mind you, I have a damp patch on my jeans...

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 5:44:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL Polite... um... is that a new thing?

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:12:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		     I don't think you're on the wrong site so much as that you don't realize the rarity of what you seek. There are many things about your post and your profile that are narrowing your choices considerably.Many Dommes ask for tribute because there is more demand than supply.  This allows men who simply want a kink  explored or satisfied to have that without strings, and with relative discretion. From the looks of your profile, a well established pro Domme might be your best option.
  Alternately, if you are as  genuine as you say, you might be able to get a little play in your local BDSM group. I'm sure that it exists in your area. Check Fetlife, as many people who know each other in real life post there.  Then again, if you do have something to hide, you probably won't take this option.
  Although I cannot speak for all dominant women, I know that as a woman not asking for pay by the hour, I am far more demanding about the quality of the boy and what he can offer me.  Is he single and available? Is he attractive ? (I will need a picture, and not his typed opinion of himself to catch my eye)  Is he genuine, humble and willing to work to please me? Does he have more interest in me than  as the vehicle to meet his fetish for free and without commitment or compensation of any kind ? Do I enjoy his company ?  Does he have integrity ?
  I may be misjudging you, but to a domme not looking for pay, your profile is highly unappealing. And yes.  It sounds like you're married.
  That and while I cannot speak for most dominants, D/s takes place in every room of the house, and if the boy is in the bedroom, its because either a)we are in a longterm committed relationship, or b) my clothes need folding.
A lot of boys are offering their asses up.  Very few are offering anything a lifestyle dominant can actually use.
 

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:13:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: discreetsubnyc

I don't really understand why everyone is rushing to judgment here. I was not asking for your ethical commentary, nor do I understand why you feel entitled to give it. I was simply asking if anyone knows of any resources that I might use to find what I am looking for. Thank you to those of you who answered this question conscientiously.


Of course you don't understand. Because you, in your infinite wisdom, believed that because this qualifies as a "kinky sex" dating site, that the people here are without morals or understanding the value of commitment.

What you have successfully done, since your "wisdom" has missed it, is to openly announce to everyone that you really have no idea what being "submissive" means, and that you are only interested in some kinky sex. You seem to think that simply the pure joy of beating your ass and looking at your (what you believe to be) impressive cock is enough for any dominant woman on this site to jump at the opportunity.

You want some kinky sex from a dominant woman? Here's and interesting newsflash....if you actually found a dominant woman, you wouldn't be happy at all. She is going to beat your ass with whatever she finds interesting (which will get that dick of yours hard), she might engage in some cock and ball torture (which will make you even hornier), she might decide she wants to shove something very large up your cherry little ass and fuck you with it for all your worth (and do everything within her power, which is mighty by the way, to make sure you do NOT get release from that). What she is NOT going to be likely to do is to suck your pathetic cock or spread her gorgeous legs for you. You aren't likely to get to touch a single solitary part of her body unless it is licking the street slime off her shoes. Then she will send you on your way still without release, so you can stop in a gas station bathroom on the way home to your wife and jerk off by yourself.

Now does that sound the least bit like what you are looking for? Because you aren't bringing ANYTHING to the table even for a woman who is married and looking to play around on HER husband. You are what the dominant women on this site call a "do me sub," and about the only thing less appealling are sex offenders in prison.

So NOW do you understand WHY people have given you the ethical commentary? Is there something MORE explicit that might make it clear to you?

By the way, you live in NEW YORK FUCKING CITY and you have not been able to google sex clubs like Paddles? Seems to me that you aren't the sharpest tool in the shed, a couple cans short of a sixpack.

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:14:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

You're here, no need to seek elsewhere. But, being your age you are running into a lot of younger women who think that being a dominant means extra spending money for calling a man online a worm or something like that.



Lockit, you mean to tell me that I can make some spending money just for calling some poor son of a bitch a worm?

Why ya been holdin out on me girl?

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:19:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady
You want some kinky sex from a dominant woman? Here's and interesting newsflash....if you actually found a dominant woman, you wouldn't be happy at all. She is going to beat your ass with whatever she finds interesting (which will get that dick of yours hard), she might engage in some cock and ball torture (which will make you even hornier), she might decide she wants to shove something very large up your cherry little ass and fuck you with it for all your worth (and do everything within her power, which is mighty by the way, to make sure you do NOT get release from that). What she is NOT going to be likely to do is to suck your pathetic cock or spread her gorgeous legs for you. You aren't likely to get to touch a single solitary part of her body unless it is licking the street slime off her shoes. Then she will send you on your way still without release, so you can stop in a gas station bathroom on the way home to your wife and jerk off by yourself.


I'm not sure that paragraph will have the effect you intended, LL.  Just saying.

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:22:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well LL... to be perfectly honest () I had to do a make up class at the dominant university and just found that one out. I was all caught up in the ginger root class as we did have subjects to work with and missed the darn class! It was worth it. 

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:30:53 PM   
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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 6:45:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

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Thanks for the smile Jen, if not the spilt drink.  


Don't give me that, PS.  I can see right here on your avatar that no drink was spilled.


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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 8:01:37 PM   
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I'm not sure that paragraph will have the effect you intended, LL.  Just saying.


My gut instinct tells me that this guy's idea of a "bedroom" domme has him having lots of orgasms and being ordered to do all kinds of things HE enjoys.

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RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? - 3/15/2010 8:07:04 PM   
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Well LL... to be perfectly honest () I had to do a make up class at the dominant university and just found that one out. I was all caught up in the ginger root class as we did have subjects to work with and missed the darn class! It was worth it. 


Aw, c'mon Lockit, I was basically trying to point out to the guy that any woman he actually found to "do him" would be a grave disappointment and likely leave him bruised in ways he couldn't explain, unable to shit comfortably for days (which is no less than he deserves) and at no point would he be getting his dick sucked or get to put it anywhere, which I'm pretty sure he believes would be the culmination of his little "excursion."

Now, one of two things is going to happen. He is either going to be VERY pissed off, more so than by the relatively "polite" chastisement he has already gotten, come here and really go batshit over the ethical judgement, which will make him even less desirable (hee hee) or he will stick his little tail between his legs and go away realizing that he isn't going to find what he is looking for among a group of classy dominant woman as you all are.

Oh yea, and the fact that he says he lives in New York City and has no idea where to go? That struck me as truly bizarre.

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