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Lockit -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (3/16/2010 10:34:22 PM)

FR

Hey, don't give the site or dominant's a bad rap because some domina's won't play with someone who breaks a code of honor/ethic's/moral's/vow's/whatever. The site has nothing to do with it. Those of us who will insist on honesty and openness and will expect a married man to be both with all parties and may want a bit more than play time with someone, should not be condemned because we are not in the cheater's opinion, open minded, excepting and willing to get a married man's cock a smilin and limp.

At least we are honest about what we will or will not do. You can't say that for the cheating spouse.

To continually insult or imply we are prudes/whatever because we won't do a cheater is rather silly. To continuously pour out sour wine on the boards because we want honesty and consent of all parties is ignorant.



WyldHrt -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (3/16/2010 11:39:00 PM)

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When the foundation for most of this is trust-cheaters have it hard-since they are liars by default. How would you expect to be treated any different than they do a primary partner?

The only thing that really amazes me is the self deceit they propogate on THEMSELVES in thinking any different. The vast majority here think they are whaleshit.

Nicely said.
Az- your problem isn't that you are married, it is that you are running around on your wife and lying to her about it (yes, simply not telling her is lying). As many here have said, WIITWD takes trust, first and foremost. Why on earth would a woman trust you when proof that you are willing to lie and deceive someone that you supposedly love is right there in front of her? That doesn't make her a prude, it simply means that she isn't thick enough to believe someone who is living a lie.
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guys like me that want something besides sterile married sex.

This tells me that your wife is still having sex with you, which means that you are putting her health and life at risk. And you really can't understand why none of the Dommes here are interested in you?



LadyDelilahDeb -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (3/17/2010 12:26:41 AM)

FR: I am certain that there is such a resource. However, you will probably have to step outside your comfort zone to find it! Look up non-profit BDSM sites (off hand on this coast I can think of the Society of Janus, the Portland Leather Alliance, and the Center for Sex-Positive Culture…I think the Black Rose Society is on the uptight I mean right coast), look up the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom site, look for BDSM club sites in NYC since you state that you're there. Sheesh, go to a munch and ask! (They probably have a munch per block in Manhattan.)

Basically, do your own research. Doesn't anyone else remember how to use a library?



perhapsthistime -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (2/15/2011 11:24:23 AM)

so.. being new to this sight, i am married, she does not know i am like this. just went thru 6 mos chemo, and well it changed my life. And yet i dont want a divorvce, but the urge to please, is well over whelming. i've been and going to a pro Domme still, but was looking to be a day time house boy for a few days week/month for a Domme, think i should stay with the Pro? Your answers above seem pretty clear. thanks



LadyPact -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (2/15/2011 11:44:44 AM)

Dude, the thread is eleven months old.  You might want to start a new thread on the topic, though you might not be thrilled with some of the answers that you get.



LadyNTrainer -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (2/15/2011 12:45:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: discreetsubnyc

I have been checking out collarme from time to time, occasionally emailing dominant women who strike my fancy. Time and again, I find out that these people are pros or else expect "tribute." I am really looking for someone who enjoys dominating men as a casual bedroom activity, not as a source of livelihood.


Translation: I want somebody to fuck in a kinky way whenever I feel like it, but they have to exist as my dirty little secret and I am not willing to invite them into my life as a partner or be seen with them in public. 

Yeah, good luck with that.  No, this is not the free drive-through McDomme's.  Relationships with human beings are complicated, especially sexual ones, and they take more than just shopping for women who strike your fancy and expecting those women to cater to your desires without regard for their own. 





VideoAdminRho -> RE: Resources for finding a bedroom domme? (2/15/2011 4:19:00 PM)

Please do not 'necro' old threads. If a thread is months old, and you wish to discuss the topic, please start a new thread and link to the old one.
Thank you.
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