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matterb50 -> Financial Domination (3/16/2010 10:52:49 AM)
Could you please explain how financial domination works. Considering I'm not a cash cow what is a reasonable amount? Is there any benefit tofinancial domination versus tributes for sessions? I'm totally in the dark and could use a little illumination on the subject. Thanks!!

joether -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 11:13:12 AM)
Others may have a different view point. I've often equated finacial domination to tributes. I personally do not like it, as it undermines a Domme. A Domme is essentially "One whom holds mastery of control". If I, the sub, pay for a Domme, I, am the one that controls what happens. Basically the Domme would have little to no say in the matter. I feel this goes against the passion of doing this. I have no problem helping a Lady. I would rather help pay to repair her deck, because it makes her happy in life. I would go get take out, because she doesn't feel like going to a resturant, but, wants something good to eat. I'd pay, and then craft the posts because she wants a dungeon. The act of paying, is not to gain something for myself (a selfish act), but give as one way of showing love, respect, and admiration, for someone I really wish to see happy in life. I dont have a problem with Dommes that get pay, to do what they do. I guess I was just taught/trained, never to do that by Owners in my past.

matterb50 -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 11:20:33 AM)
Thanks for the reply and I agree with you. However, a Domme is asking about financial domination of which I had no idea what she was talking about.

DarkSteven -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 11:25:56 AM)
Okay. You're a submissive, That means that you serve. Tribute is simply a method of serving that happens to be financial. That said, I would be very leery of a Domme demanding tribute right off the bat. If she is just in it for the money and doesn't care what kind of person you are, kick her to the curb.

stef -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 11:46:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: matterb50 Thanks for the reply and I agree with you. However, a Domme is asking about financial domination of which I had no idea what she was talking about. Did you ask her to elaborate on the topic? It seems that it makes more sense to get the info directly from the source than from random strangers, doesn't it? ~stef

matterb50 -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 11:55:26 AM)
Good thought! I did pose the question but have not received an answer. I'm trying to get other peoples input so I will have a better understanding of the concept from a group instead of an individual. Thanks for helping and you are not a Stranger!

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 1:08:58 PM)
Financial domination means many things. For some, it means tribute (but tribute can also mean a gift given and not monetary). For some it means a ProDomme session. For others it means, dictating how the money is spent when in a relationship. Me personally, I control the finances in my home, so any sub or slave who enters my home for a full time relationship would be subjected to me controlling how their money is spent/saved. However, their money would be spent the same way I spend my own, pay bills, buy groceries, have some fun stuff to do, put some away in savings. Sadly, here on CM, often when you see financial domination it means, bilking you out of your money and scamming you. So please, be careful. However, if you are speaking to a professional domina of good reputation, you may find yourself very happy if you can afford her sessions. You will get to experience many of your kinky requests and you won't be required to have a commited relationship with her. So, for people who just want to get their kinky buttons pushed without having to commit to a deeper relationship, I encourage them to visit reputable pros. Good luck.

lobodomslavery -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 4:30:57 PM)
My advice to the OP. Only give what you can afford or are willingly able to lose. Dont leave yourself destitute for a Domme Kevin

MissBeautiful2U -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 4:50:09 PM)
What the others said... Financial domination is a tricky proposition. I understand that there are some who get off on sending a beautiful Lady money, but they seem to be like unicorns. I haven't had one real life person acknowledge that this is their kink. I've known some online who have sent tribute to Mistresses who engaged them in play online. The fact that they were making a Lady who was interested in them happy made them happy. Subtle difference, but what the ones I have spoken to who have done this and enjoyed it got play/control back in return. I'm a little on the fence with this. If I were to take a slave full-time, in my home, financial domination would be a part of the equation since his earnings would go to the household. That said, I've never offered anyone the opportunity to move in with me. That would require a chemistry and commitment that I have yet to find. In regards to professionals, that is a great way (in my opinion) to experience a variety of your fantasies and know what you like and don't like if you are unable to find a real-time Mistress and do not mind paying for the privilege of serving. I am curious, how did the topic of financial domination arise? Have you met in person? What are you comfortable in providing?

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Financial Domination (3/16/2010 5:03:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery My advice to the OP. Only give what you can afford or are willingly able to lose. Dont leave yourself destitute for a Domme Kevin While I typically disagree with Kevin, he has a valid point with this comment. However, one thing you should be aware of (no Kevin, this is not directed to you), is that a professional dominatrix will likely have a fixed price for sessions and mostly likely will not negotiate that price. It is possible she might, if you provide her something else in return for her services, but if I were you, I certainly wouldn't count on it happening. Since I'm not a pro, I cannot tell you what a 'good' price is. However, from what I've read, reputable pros charge from $150/hr upwards - depending on how in demand they are or their specialized skillsets. As far as tributes are concerned, in my personal opinion, that is where things get trickier. I am of the mindset that a tribute is a gift, in honor of the person you wish to serve, a trinket which comes from the heart. In that instance, I see nothing wrong with giving a dominant woman a gift because you want to please her. Others opinions will vary. One thing you should be aware of, is those seeking tribute just to get to know you, are probably scamming you. Personally, if I were a submissive male, I would not 'tribute' anyone who demanded tribute.

MsStarlett -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 4:37:31 AM)
OP - If "financial domination" is all that 'she' wants. Move along. There is a strong possibility that person is not a Domme and may not even be female. That person is most likely just a scammer trying to take your money and giving real Dommes a bad name. I personally do have one sub who enjoys a touch of "Financial Domination" as in he gets a kick out of being TOLD to buy me things. However, we both agreed from the beginning that he always has the 'right' to refuse. Case in point, I told him to buy me a $250 corset that I saw on line and liked. He said he didn't have that much money available right then. That was fine, I didn't actually require that he get it for me. A few months later, the corset arrived on my doorstep. We are currently discussing a nice pair of $150-$300 English riding boots. He was actually the first one to suggest that I needed them to properly kick and trample him. His choice. IF you do not ENJOY financial domination, then don't do it! If that is the only thing that you are getting out of the 'relationship' RUN!

matterb50 -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 8:57:01 AM)
Thanks for your thoughts! I have not met her yet and no she won't get anything until we meet. I'm trying to prepare myself when it comes up. I can do stupid things under pressure!!

matterb50 -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 8:59:44 AM)
It's nice to know there are some sane dommes out there! lol Your approach is right on in my book. Thanks for your help!!!

matterb50 -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 9:02:12 AM)
Are you comparing Dommes to gambling?

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 9:52:25 AM)
As others have said, financial domination means different things to different people. i don't consider paying tribute to a Domme to be "financial domination" if you are actually spending time with her on a regular basis. After all, her time is worth something. Similarly, pro dommes are in it for the money, so of course there is a financial aspect to that. But once again, you are getting something for your money, so i don't consider that to be financial domination either. My definition of "financial domination" is any interaction with a Domme that encompasses only financial contributions. Typically, "financial dommes" will be younger (20-25 years old), and will have hot pictures in their profile or website. They will often be wearing a bikini. Their intro will say something like "Which one of you worms want to be my piggy bank? I'll suck your bank account dry, and your sorry ass will like it". They will often send you unsolicited e-mails, even though they've never looked at your profile. A disproportionate number of them live in Ghana, Nigeria, or California. A large percentage of them are also total scams. Some subs are actually into having their bank account drained. So i'm not going to judge someone else's kink. If You fall into that category, then i also serve as a financial Dom, and accept Visa, Mastercard, and Discover. i can provide bikini pics if you like. [:D]

BoiJen -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 10:01:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: joether Others may have a different view point. I've often equated finacial domination to tributes. I personally do not like it, as it undermines a Domme. A Domme is essentially "One whom holds mastery of control". If I, the sub, pay for a Domme, I, am the one that controls what happens. Alright...wrap your head around this really quickly please... Cash = control according to you....If you're giving up the cash to the Domme, you're giving up the control to the Domme..... Did ya catch that one? It's very subtle and some people don't so this is me checking in. boi

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 10:31:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 i can provide bikini pics if you like. [:D] ahem I like... [8D]

Madame4a -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 12:51:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: matterb50 Could you please explain how financial domination works. Considering I'm not a cash cow what is a reasonable amount? Is there any benefit tofinancial domination versus tributes for sessions? I'm totally in the dark and could use a little illumination on the subject. Thanks!! financial domination = putting someone else in control of your resources.. money... a little or a lot... your choice... in my mind, not a good idea for the most part.. that said.. I think everyone needs a little independence.. .I think one is better off simply paying for services rendered (and there are some damned good ones out there) rather than pretending its something else...

MrRodgers -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 1:09:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz Financial domination means many things. For some, it means tribute (but tribute can also mean a gift given and not monetary). For some it means a ProDomme session. For others it means, dictating how the money is spent when in a relationship. Me personally, I control the finances in my home, so any sub or slave who enters my home for a full time relationship would be subjected to me controlling how their money is spent/saved. However, their money would be spent the same way I spend my own, pay bills, buy groceries, have some fun stuff to do, put some away in savings. Sadly, here on CM, often when you see financial domination it means, bilking you out of your money and scamming you. So please, be careful. However, if you are speaking to a professional domina of good reputation, you may find yourself very happy if you can afford her sessions. You will get to experience many of your kinky requests and you won't be required to have a commited relationship with her. So, for people who just want to get their kinky buttons pushed without having to commit to a deeper relationship, I encourage them to visit reputable pros. Good luck. Exactly, as I feel that 'they' don't need money...they have me. Their income and spending is obviously...under my control. Part of discipline is in their...their financial discipline. They are much better off with me because of it. I don't feel myself a master...if I 'need' their money. Who could ?

MsHValentine -> RE: Financial Domination (3/17/2010 2:25:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: matterb50 Could you please explain how financial domination works. Considering I'm not a cash cow what is a reasonable amount? Is there any benefit tofinancial domination versus tributes for sessions? I'm totally in the dark and could use a little illumination on the subject. Thanks!! A man likes being used by a young, beautiful woman who uses her looks and charm to get him to pay her money. What's the benefit? The attention of the pretty girl he never got while in high school and the humiliation of being used. It arouses him. Instead of hating her for her beauty and charms, he accepts the female power she holds over him and gives in to it, so to speak. Not all women can pull off financial domination. There has to be some level of intelligence, imagination and charm or else it fizzles out as quickly as it started. Any domme can ask for money, sure, but she won't ever get into long-term financial domination play with the same man if she's not creative, charming, etc. Another form of domination takes place in D-s or M-s relationships wherein the slave gives over control of his money. This is different from tribute. Tribute is a gift, money or otherwise, a man gives a woman for a session. I imagine some men get tributes too.

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