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attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 11:11:16 AM

MistressDevina

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I recently met a so called sub who shared with me whenever he attended dungeon affairs with a Mistress Domme he would wear leather pants a black shirt and boots. What? I was appalled to say the least. No sub of mine would ever get to wear a leather get up like this. Tell me your thoughts about leather attire for a submissive male?

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 11:39:45 AM

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Was he a "so called sub" because he wore leather or was it something else that led you to that conclusion?

What someone wears has nothing to do with whether they are dominant/submissive/whatever.

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 11:54:22 AM

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I guess I'm not quite understanding what you mean? What was wrong with what he was wearing and why does it make him not a submissive?

I'm not trying to flame, I am lifestyle but I don't go to clubs or anything, although I did want to go as a "tourist" when mine returns and we can go together, so I was just curious of the rules

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:02:23 PM

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What does it matter what he's wearing, so long as it pleases his Mistress?

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:04:12 PM

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I think you're nuts!

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:18:29 PM

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I suspect making the sub dress as the worst cliche in 'so-called' doms is all part of some humiliation play. I'd certainly be embarrassed on his behalf, although he'd cause a problem for our running tote on how many dimdoms in leather waitcoats/pants we spot - would we count him, even though he's a sub? Would he score a half point? He should be more considerate and be dressed in sackcloth and ball 'n' chain so we know exactly where he stands!

But seriously. How ridiculous. People wear what the hell they like (or what the hell they're told, if that is their dynamic). Personally I expect any sub accompanying me to a public event to be stunningly attired, and make me proud! I don't care if they 'look' sub, as look as they look GOOD! If I'm going to beat them, the clothes are coming off anyway ;)

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:27:17 PM

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Yep. Too many people get caught up in the dumbest of shit.

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:39:32 PM

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It's going to depend on the situation. If you're attending a service oriented event, some of them will specifically request a standard, such as white (shirt, corset, whatever) for the person's top half of their body and black (pants, skirt, whatever) for the bottom half. If you're just talking about a regular dungeon party, there isn't anything wrong with the outfit that he's describing. It isn't just Tops alone that wear such things. Many male bottoms in the scene will wear leather pants.

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:45:27 PM

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Oh so it's the pants that she has a problem with? I see, well actually I don't...lol I guess that's why I never went to a club I don't think I would fit in...lol I've seen all in this lifestyle and out wearing leather pants...I just don't understand the uproar...oh well

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 12:47:07 PM

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When I go to a dungeon I like to dress kinda like June Cleaver. Heels and an A-line dress. No one ever kicked me out for "wrong attire".

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 1:06:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDevina

What? I was appalled to say the least. No sub of mine would ever get to wear a leather get up like this.

I am mighty curious: What DO you think is appropriate attire for a submissive male? What would you have yours wear?

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 1:06:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Oh so it's the pants that she has a problem with? I see, well actually I don't...lol I guess that's why I never went to a club I don't think I would fit in...lol I've seen all in this lifestyle and out wearing leather pants...I just don't understand the uproar...oh well

Thanks for answering me LP since she won't

You're welcome, of course. What I do tend to suggest to folks is, if you are planning to attend a club or an event, take the time to research the club's website or speak to someone prior to going. This can help with dress code, dungeon rules, and all kinds of other things you'll probably want to know.

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 1:13:16 PM

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Good idea, thanks again LP.

I was just going to have both of us go nicely dressed, but nothing special...I had no idea

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 1:50:48 PM

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What was wrong with what he was wearing? Second question why did it bother you so much? As long at the attire is not outside the norm people should not really bother with what others are wearing. As long as he is wearing what his Domme told him too, and it was pleasing to her that is all that matters. If SHE had a problem with his attire he would not be wearing that.

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 1:57:33 PM

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for me sneakers , jeans and a t shirt, for her , well i think nature outfitted her well enough

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 1:59:05 PM

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WoW osf you really go all out with your attire. I hope you have a cleaner pair of sneakers then the one you had on your avatar

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 2:11:23 PM

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i'm just asked to dress nicely and look presentable

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 2:27:49 PM

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Leather pants = reserved for dominants... check
Leather boots = reserved for dominants... check

I'm unclear though, on the status of the black shirt. Is that another piece of the domly dom ensemble? Or is it a subbly sub thing? Or does it carry an orientation of heteroflexible? These are very important questions, yanno.

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 2:42:54 PM

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Leather pants = reserved for dominants... check
Leather boots = reserved for dominants... check

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RE: attire for attending dungeon affairs - 3/16/2010 2:45:08 PM

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Leather pants = reserved for Jim Morrison, who no longer needs them

Leather boots = ........aren't all boots made of leather?.... is it a color thing? Doms wear black boots, subs wear brown?

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