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Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 3/31/2006 9:33:46 PM   
SxySubSarah


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Status: offline 		I have a couple of specific questions regarding sex.  I am very inexperinced when it comes to anal, but very much wanting to experiance more of it.  Also, I would love to learn how to give great deep-throat oral, but i have a problem with the gag reflex.  Any pointers?  Any help would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks! 
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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 3/31/2006 9:45:45 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Anal is easy, get on all fours *grin*..use some kinda lube.

I never thought I had a problem with gag reflex until Master..but it probably has something to do with this size of his (insert that thing i cannot mention here). Relaxing helps.

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 3/31/2006 10:00:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Re Anal: Perhaps you'd like to try out a butt plug first to get yourself accustomed to the feeling?  Make sure there's lots of  lube!!
Re deep throat:  You can use a visualization and imagine yourself taking it without gagging.  If you become nervous it won't work.  Men get turned on though even just touching the back of your throat without penetrating it too deeply  so my guess is that you won't have to work at it for too long.  There's nothing wrong with giving the sign that it is too much.

Oops this was ask a submissive.  Oh well.  Those lessons were learned during my submissive days anyway.


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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 3/31/2006 10:59:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Anal:  i agree with the idea of using plugs to become accustomed to the feeling.  Play with it while it is in there...twist it around a bit, tap on it, push it in and out...

Deep throat: Relax.  Breathe methodically.  Focus on your throat opening.  In the beginning, the slower he goes, the easier it will be to adapt.  Practice with a dildo. 

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 3/31/2006 11:36:45 PM   
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Also, I would love to learn how to give great deep-throat oral, but i have a problem with the gag reflex.  Any pointers?  Any help would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks! 


These two threads might help:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_216972/mpage_1/key_deep%252Cthroating/tm.htm#216972

http://www.collarchat.com/m_45922/mpage_1/key_deep%252Cthroating/tm.htm#45922

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 12:18:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anal - aye, plenty of lube and relax. If your Master has difficulty penetrating you, push a little, like you wanted a poo. i find that helps.
 
Deep Throat. Practice is wot worked for me. i used to practice with a hairbrush handle (living at home and not owning any expensive toys). Don't be afraid to gag and just keep going for as long as you can. my Master used to say that although He prefered success in wot i did, failure didn't matter too much, as long as i tried my best.
 
Hope this helps.

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 12:36:22 AM   
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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 6:44:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: slavejali

I never thought I had a problem with gag reflex until Master..but it probably has something to do with this size of his (insert that thing i cannot mention here). Relaxing helps.


I never did either! Then....well.....ok.....,hmmmm.....lol,

Was collared by ScooterTrash and ShiftedJewel ( who ever said size does not count?)

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 7:43:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		How, exactly do popsicles help? (Seriously, I really want to know!) Do they numb the throat before actually trying to deep throat or do they just give something to pratice with?

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 7:48:49 AM   
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How, exactly do popsicles help? (Seriously, I really want to know!) Do they numb the throat before actually trying to deep throat or do they just give something to pratice with?


A) Yes they do indeed numb the area

B) Think of it as a warm up, to work your muscles in the right places

C)  Can give you practice with something safe to try and start swallowing and desensitize the gag reflex

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 7:53:09 AM   
SparklyAltoGirl


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Status: offline 		Hm. *Makes mental note to pick up some sugar free popsicles* That might help, thanks!

Now if I could figure out how to get my jaw from aching so much...


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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 7:59:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Besides the cold to numb...you have desirable fruit flavors that just by instinct you want to lick and suck that are too firm to bite. It's also easier to have something where you can control the depth until you get past the gag reflex. You'll soon discover that you really like popcicles.

Jaw ache is just like working on any other muscle. Make sure that you talk to doctor and don't have TMJ.

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 10:12:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		My own experience is that being spanked greatly reduces both my gag reflex and my inhibitions.  Apparently that's true for a lot of women, you hear jokes about the "extra benefits" all the time on spanking forums.

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 10:38:31 AM   
starymists


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Status: offline 		Some additional resources on learning to deep throat :)
 
http://www.bigsextoys.com/hugedildo/19793.html
http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html
http://www.asstr.org/~Kristen/learning/blowjob.htm
http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/ghaos.html

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 11:19:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		I learned to deep throat by learnign to chug beer (the whole can) - it helps one open the throat.  Other than that, one too big can cause the gag reflex (I did have that happen recently with one, tho I don't really know why).  I think he and I were both surprised, and embarassed as I was, he still liked it.  So, try chugging a beer (one swallow to a can).

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 12:12:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well i can answer the question about anal for some reason never had a problem with deep throating.  With anal you have to be stretched gently  butt plugs anal beads can help with this, also my Master and i found anal ezee works wonders.  Ther will be some discomfort when maybe even a little pain when he enters but that should ease as soon as he is inside.  I forget who said it but pushing back like you want to take a poo also helps.  You may want to try the side by side position first that is a bit eaiser.  And like others said A LOT of lube.

Best of luck.

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 12:36:01 PM   
NickInSLC


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Status: offline 		The problem with anal eaze and similar products is they dull pain.  Pain is natures way of telling you that you're being damaged.  A broken rectum or colon is bad news.

A better strategy is to use a water based lube, relax, go slow, and stop pushing if it hurts.  Your anus is made of two seperate sphincters, the outer one we can conciously control, the inner one however, is automatic and reacts to stress by clenching all the tighter.  

If the only way you can get a cock in your ass is anal eaze, perhaps it's time to review your technique.  When it's done properly, anal sex does not hurt.  Jack Morin PHD is the author of a great book titled "Anal Pleasure and Health".  Anybody interested in anal sex would be well served by reading it.

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 7:27:44 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		All very good responses to your questions..As far as deep throat is concerned you might try using something like chloroseptic spray to help numb a little..and as he inserts more you may also try to swallow as he goes along..of course he must go slowly for you to do this...and of course practise will help you to ease that gag reflex..less nerves..less gag....be well...tempting

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 8:11:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		On anal, I would sugest NOT trying it on all fours first. Rather, lie spoon style side by side and try it that way. I swore I wasn't able to do anal but we tried it that way and it worked really well. Hell, last night we managed dual penetration with him and a toy!

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RE: Tips on sexually pleasing a Dom - 4/1/2006 8:22:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I actually do have TMJ (more in the right side than the left, if that can happen) plus a small mouth, and the gag reflex as well...makes it interesting. Daddy generally lets me go at it on my own but it's difficult when he decides to take control and pushes hard. The gagging, while annoying, I can deal with. The aching jaw is more of the problem. I've tried taking pain relievers before hand, icing it down afterwards...


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