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LadyPact -> RE: Shopping and the Male Sub - A cautionary tale? (3/17/2010 1:51:35 PM)
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Agreed with Madame4a. You did pretty good in the concept department, but you didn't do your leg work. Rather than sending your husband to the shop with the note, you would have been better off going to this particular store and speaking to the clerk prior to putting your plan into practice. What you could have done was visit the store during the non peak hours (a Wednesday afternoon, for example) so you could speak to someone there yourself to see if they would consent to joining in your little game. If/when you find someone who is willing to play along, find out when that person is working and specifically send your husband during those times and specifically to her/him. That's the difference between having an accomplice (which your husband never knows, because you make that first visit without him) and involving a third party who hasn't consented to be a part of all this.
You might be interested in this thread http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2792576&key=purse where the same subject came up. Here's the post that I contributed to that thread, which goes into a little more detail.
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
All of the above is why you don't want to go about this in this way. Here's a page out of the Dominant's Handbook. This is the part that happens behind the scenes that the boys who enjoy these kinds of humiliation games that they don't know until someone tells them.
When it comes to things like lingerie shopping, toy shopping, or any other situation that could be used to set up these little things, I tend to go to the same business over and over. I get to know the sales people. In the beginning, I'll drop a little hint that I happen to be a kinky person. This is usually pretty easy with the famous purse that looks like a stiletto boot bottom that has the chains on it. I see how that is received (most people love that thing) and go on from there. If they aren't receptive, I wish them a good day.
If they are receptive, I may discuss an idea a little more and I *ask* them if they would be willing to be a part of it. Some will and some won't. When I find those that will, I find out what days they work and what hours would be good to pull something like what I have in mind off. My little game shouldn't be done during their high customer hours, because I have no right to drive their business away. Before I leave, and this is important, I tip them and I tip them well.
All of this happens before the boy has ever stepped one foot inside the lingerie shop or the toy store to buy that dildo. I've already done the set up and he doesn't have a clue. I'm not involving someone behind the counter that doesn't want to be. Sometimes, you get really lucky and find someone who actually enjoys being a part of all this.
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