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Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 5:24:54 PM   
SexySea


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Status: offline 		I need some advice please.......  Sitting around waiting for a Dom to happen upon my profile and perhaps send me a message seems like a very passive way to introduce myself to Masters on this site who are searching for someone like me.  Is there a way that I could possibily introduce myself other then sending out 7,000 intoductory hello's

SexySea

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 5:32:15 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Yes.  It's called the "Introduce Yourself" section.

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 6:49:43 PM   
Wolf2Bear


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Status: offline 		Sorry but dominants don't just fall into anyone's lap. You have to put for some effort on your part too. 

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 7:22:50 PM   
antipode


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Is there a way that I could possibily introduce myself


Weird angle pictures with dogs means issues

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 8:13:22 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Go to munches in your area to meet local people. Search for dominants in your area, read their profiles and send the ones who interest you an email. No different than in the real world in that sitting at home alone isn't going to bring you your knight in shining (or tarnished) armor.

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 9:56:18 PM   
WyldHrt


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Sorry but dominants don't just fall into anyone's lap.

They seem to fall into mine for some reason

OP- the above posts are right on. Post in the introduction forum, write to Doms whose posts or profiles interest you, and check out your local BDSM community's munches and events. No need to sit around waiting for your perfect Dom to find his needle in your haystack.... hmm, that sounded kinda kinky....


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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/19/2010 9:56:47 PM   
Musicmystery


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Status: offline 		Pretty much like anything else....

Pull up a chair, join the conversation, let people get to know you.


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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/20/2010 6:37:44 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I've always thought the concept of waiting around for the right person to notice you seemed a bit silly...then you're stuck with whoever may happen upon your profile. It takes some work to find a partner and I never found it troublesome to get out there and do it since in the end I'd reap the benefits. There really isn't a way to get around putting some time into your search if you want quality results.

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/20/2010 10:00:19 AM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		There's nothing wrong with msging people who's profile interest you.  Most of the time, even viewing their profile, which registered as "who's viewing me" is enough to spark a conversation, but sometimes the additional step is needed. I met a LOT of Doms that way, and not one told me it was "unsublike" of me to msg them first, most were flattered. 

And please avoid that "Good morning Sir this slave wished to introduce her lowly self to your miraculous self" tone.  Sets everything off on a bad note IMO.


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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 8:29:39 AM   
DomBlade64


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SexySea

I need some advice please.......  Sitting around waiting for a Dom to happen upon my profile and perhaps send me a message seems like a very passive way to introduce myself to Masters on this site who are searching for someone like me.  Is there a way that I could possibily introduce myself other then sending out 7,000 intoductory hello's

SexySea

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Even though you are cute, Im into human females only. Im surprised you can type all of that with your paws.



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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 10:49:58 AM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		I agree that you should email doms you like.  There is nothing wrong with it.

In general, I advice you to:
  1. Distinguish yourself from spammers.   Be specific, be polite, don't ask for contact outside of collarme.com in the first email, and make sure your profile is consistent with itself and your email.
  2. Avoid making them same mistakes that others do.  You get ONE physical characteristic as a primary rejection., and another that you need you be flexible about.   If you are looking for a tall, 35 year old, black, bald, in great shape man, then tough luck, while he does exist, he's not interested in you.    If you are on the other hand looking for a 35 year old, dark skinned man, preferably but not required to be bald, and in good shape, then you might find someone.   Perhaps an Indian (hindu), or maybe he's not bald but is in great shape, etc. etc.   People over-estimate how specific they can be and still find someone they like.  (Note, if you are looking for short, overweight but not fat men you can probably find a ton of them without any problem - really nice ones too.)

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 11:18:31 AM   
myotherself


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I would add - don't be in a hurry to take the first to offer. I met with quite a few guys for coffee, and then afterwards kept things slow. That allowed me to find out a little more about them...in the majority of cases it allowed me to find out why they may not be what I wanted/needed (in no particular order they were married/alcoholic/drug users/shag monsters).

Funnily enough, the guy I initially rejected because he didn't tick enough of my 'boxes', but remained an online friend for six months nevertheless, may well be the person I'm looking for

Just keep on trying....you'll find the person you need, even if at first you don't think it's the person you want!

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 11:27:59 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: myotherself
in no particular order they were married/alcoholic/drug users/shag monsters

Pardon me, but what's a shag monster?  A man who really really needs a Brazilian?


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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 11:39:38 AM   
DWCskitten


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ORIGINAL: Wolf2Bear

Sorry but dominants don't just fall into anyone's lap.

Wow. For some reason, as soon as i put my first profile up, They were all over me and continued to find me when i changed my name. lol i had to work at it to keep them from writing to me and i'm also plus-sized and a little bit older than you.

That being said, i would say try the "Introduce Yourself" forum and put an attractive picture of yourself on your profile rather than your dog, however cute he/she may be.

~kitten~

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 12:39:35 PM   
osf


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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 6:36:45 PM   
beej


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself
in no particular order they were married/alcoholic/drug users/shag monsters

Pardon me, but what's a shag monster?  A man who really really needs a Brazilian?



lmfao.

OP, definitely advise you to change your photo. primary picture is like your handshake with strangers. it should say that you are cute not that you have a cute dog; make Fluffy your secondary picture. no matter what size you are, prospective Doms would like some idea of what you look like or what you are like. if nothing else, hit 'em with a headshot and some cleavage. cleavage goes a LONG way around here, i've found. :)

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/21/2010 6:47:47 PM   
lally2


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Status: offline 		i dunno, it might just be me - but ive just read youre profile and that bit about being tested regularly for std's - well, its kinda suggesting that youre shagging around an awful lot with no protection.  that might be whats putting them off.  but again, it might just be me.

btw, im not making any comment about youre personal life at all, just i think that bit might not be working so well for you.

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/22/2010 1:20:20 AM   
myotherself


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself
in no particular order they were married/alcoholic/drug users/shag monsters

Pardon me, but what's a shag monster?  A man who really really needs a Brazilian?




*giggles*

noooooo!! It's a man who needs a padlock on his zipper and corrective spectacles that allow him to focus on my face, not just my tits

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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/22/2010 7:55:28 AM   
DarlingSavage


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ORIGINAL: osf

The gosling gets more mail than I do


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RE: Advice on how to find someone??? - 3/22/2010 8:59:59 AM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage


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ORIGINAL: osf

The gosling gets more mail than I do


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believe it or not I have had Miss cillie in the back seat while i Drove and she has this fascination with mammal fur and hair and kept trying to pull mine out by the bill full

to say the least it was distracting

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