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RE: Long Distance - 3/27/2010 6:59:36 PM

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well things have come to an abrupt and temporary halt, seems that kpua had a doctors appt and there were some "shadows found" non cancer but tumors none the less. she goes in for the surgery(hysterectomy) on the 29th. yes she has a good support system there and will be fine. and its weird....seems everytime I went to the feild or deployed the kids were the ones having broken arms and stuff, this stuff never happens when I'm home

Allow me to join LadyPact in thanking you for serving our country to maintain my freedom. I don't have any great suggestions to offer you, but wanted to congratulate you and your wife on 29 years of marriage. I imagine that over the years, being apart has never been simple and embarking on this new lifestyle and then deploying so soon after must be a little "head spinning" at best.

Since you are both new to this, I would say that a lot of discussion about what you each expect will help to pass the time and develop the "routine" that you both want to follow.

In the meantime, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife for her upcoming surgery.

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RE: Long Distance - 3/28/2010 8:57:03 PM

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well things have come to an abrupt and temporary halt, seems that kpua had a doctors appt and there were some "shadows found" non cancer but tumors none the less. she goes in for the surgery(hysterectomy) on the 29th. yes she has a good support system there and will be fine. and its weird....seems everytime I went to the feild or deployed the kids were the ones having broken arms and stuff, this stuff never happens when I'm home

Rest assured that every military spouse knows about the gremlins that always come out to throw a wrench into home appliances or find a way to cause medical issues. These gremlins only seem to come out when the military member of the family is away from home. Normally, gremlins are very docile creatures. They don't feel the need to pull their tricks nearly as often as when the family is all under the same roof. However, when the military member of the family is gone due to the job, gremlins get sneaky and pull all kinds of mischievous things.

(I'm not making light of the situation. The above is just a military wife's tongue in cheek way of saying that I know the feeling. Literally, once it was a water heater that exploded less than 48 hours after My other half left for 13 weeks of training in another state. My then non adults of the household learned a new definition of what constitutes an emergency when Mom was at work.)

Even though your plans are temporarily interrupted (and may be for a while due to post surgery/medical issues) this is still a good time for you to research and enjoy reading material. If the two of you still want to move in this direction, it's still a very viable option.

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RE: Long Distance - 3/30/2010 10:57:28 AM

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surgery went well shes resting in the hospital befor being released. And Yes LP I am reading and researching even have a few more books on the way, and I do agree with You about the "gremlins". and Yes it is a little different starting tis after 29 yrs and thankyou fro the well wishes.

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RE: Long Distance - 4/27/2010 2:24:11 PM

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There are things to do online. Start with directing her, like "take off your clothes (requires web cam). Tell her to touch herself here and there, squeeze, etc. She will follow your directions and become engaged in the process. You can get her very excited, then not let her come untill she's begged for release to your satisfaction. I use hypnosis to enhance this process. You might want to investigate this.

Of course, once you're home, it gets simple and you've practiced the roles. Being a Dom is great!

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RE: Long Distance - 4/29/2010 6:31:26 AM

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Dragon, I would love to be able to this, but being deployed and having a roommate its not possible( my roomie would think it a little wierd)and I would not be comfortable with the people I work with knowing about the M/s situation.

As for everything else, the girl is well on her way to being fully recovered from her surgery and will be all better(healed up) when I take my mid-tour leave in a couple of weeks (YAY!!!). Ive gotten a few more books to read and I am getting my self more "into" being the Master she needs.

Be well,
Kapena

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RE: Long Distance - 5/12/2010 1:55:07 PM

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Going on R&R in a couple of days, lots of reading done. I know since it'll be "the first time" I need to go slow. Frankly I'm a little overwhelmed with all the info I've read and absorbed, any SERIOUS suggestions for a first experience? Keep in mind that W/we have been married for awhile and there is already somewhat of a routine, so my gut feeling is to start off with what is known and go from there, but where? Thanks

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RE: Long Distance - 5/12/2010 2:17:23 PM

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I salute you and your dedication to the knowledge that freedom has a very high price. Keep your powder dry

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RE: Long Distance - 5/12/2010 3:11:05 PM

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Going on R&R in a couple of days, lots of reading done. I know since it'll be "the first time" I need to go slow. Frankly I'm a little overwhelmed with all the info I've read and absorbed, any SERIOUS suggestions for a first experience? Keep in mind that W/we have been married for awhile and there is already somewhat of a routine, so my gut feeling is to start off with what is known and go from there, but where? Thanks

Here's a serious suggestion. It sounds like the two of you have a wonderful, caring relationship. D/s doesn't change that. Relax, have fun, play, be you and let her be her. Neither of those things have changed either. Go wherever you feel is good for both of you. The possiblities are endless and only the two of you can really know what fits for both of you. Sit down and talk about...well that is after you do some serious catching up! And as everyone else has said, thank you for your service.

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RE: Long Distance - 5/12/2010 3:44:55 PM

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Going on R&R in a couple of days, lots of reading done. I know since it'll be "the first time" I need to go slow. Frankly I'm a little overwhelmed with all the info I've read and absorbed, any SERIOUS suggestions for a first experience? Keep in mind that W/we have been married for awhile and there is already somewhat of a routine, so my gut feeling is to start off with what is known and go from there, but where? Thanks

Here's a serious suggestion. It sounds like the two of you have a wonderful, caring relationship. D/s doesn't change that. Relax, have fun, play, be you and let her be her. Neither of those things have changed either. Go wherever you feel is good for both of you. The possiblities are endless and only the two of you can really know what fits for both of you. Sit down and talk about...well that is after you do some serious catching up! And as everyone else has said, thank you for your service.

Rockin advice.

To the OP - I'd like to join the others who've thanked you for your service, I'm not a US citizen, but I appreciate the sacrificee that US and British troops are making for us.

The other point I'd make is that my first impression on reading your op was "Man, you'll have no worries" - Like laurell3 I got the impression that you have a wonderful relationship, and the fact that you communicate so often is a really strong sign.

For what it's worth, sure - read, chat to people, etc - But I reckon you'll do fine, trusting your own instincts.

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RE: Long Distance - 6/4/2010 6:17:33 PM

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To all who have posted to my Kapena -

Thank you so VERY much!!

i have secretly harbored this desire since my teenage years. my shame, and my loving respect for my Husband, prevented me from ever saying anything. it wasn't until a marriage breaker happened that opened my eyes. i know now how much i can trust him and he has shown me in so many ways how much he loves me. Together for 30 years, and it feels like we're newlyweds. i'm not good at keeping journals and reading is difficult (dyslexic), but i do manage a few pages a week. i am currently reading "The New Bottoming Book". i was raised old school (seen and not heard) so the mind set of serving has been engrained. although injuries prevent me from kneeling, i am allowed a pillow to sit upon. my deepest desire is for my Kapena to not only know, but see the devotion. i love being under His hand, so strong yet gentle. He is my perfect Master.

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Greetings, The above was written by My girl after she had read all the postings and replies. I'm currently in the middle of my R&R leave, and will fly back next week. The past week has gone so fast and yet W/we have done alot in that time, as a matter of fact W/we just returned from Home Depot...... going to be a good weekend! thanks to all who gave input, and I will be lurking around in a few days, and then again when I get "re-settled" back in the "sand-box".

Sincerly, Kapena

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