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Abortion


I'm against ALL abortions
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I'm for allowing abortion in ANY circumstance
  26% (38)
I'm against it, unless the LIFE of the mother is at risk
  6% (10)
I'm for it being legal, but I hate it
  23% (34)
I'm against it, unless the general health of the mom is at risk
  4% (6)
Keep it legal, only if rape, incest or the mom's life is involved
  6% (10)
I don't care one way or the other
  3% (5)
I believe there is life at conception
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I believe life begins between 3 and 9 months
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I believe life only begins after birth
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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 12:04:16 AM   
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Personally, I think the entire issue of abortion is temporary, and secondary:

1. Premature babies are viable earlier and earlier, as we come up with better and better "incubator" technology.
2. In vitro fertilization can be done later and later, as we come up with better and better ways of keeping embryos viable for transplant.
3. Cryopreservation of embryos can be done at later and later stages, as we come up with better and better cryotechnology.

The problem is going to solve itself soon enough. Eventually, there will be no need for abortions - if you don't want a baby and you manage to get pregnant despite whatever contraceptive technology you were using, we can simply surgically remove the embryo at whatever stage it's at when we discover the pregnancy, freeze it, and wait until someone who does want a child agrees to take care of it.

Problem solved.
Well one would think that given that sort of advancements in medical technology.....they might have come across with a foolproof and harmless contraception method?
I mean as long as we are moving forward lets do so in the right direction....your medical advancements would in no way address the issue of whether or not a given person wants their off-spring sitting around waiting for someone else to want a child.


I think that this is the most profitable way to spend our time and energy, making abortion less and less necessary until the necessity for it ceases to exist... another way is to create equal pay for equal work. Create economic equality between women and men and a larger social net for working (single) mothers. Economics and loss of career advancement are a major portion of the decision making process when it comes to abortion


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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 12:07:06 AM   
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I'm hoping what you think is a good way to spend our time and energies is a better contraceptive...and not Ialdabaoth's scary futuristic baby bank....that's just creepy.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 1:31:44 AM   
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I'm hoping what you think is a good way to spend our time and energies is a better contraceptive...and not Ialdabaoth's scary futuristic baby bank....that's just creepy.


It's no creepier than the old-people-waiting-to-die banks we have today.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 2:05:23 AM   
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Pro sexual education, contraception, access to reproductive care, sterilization and pro-choice on abortion.


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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 2:26:37 AM   
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Did I miss something, is there a country in which sex is seen as a contract?  

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 3:02:04 AM   
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“Homicide is a leading cause of pregnancy-associated injury deaths,” Jeani Chang and colleagues wrote in the latest issue of the American Journal of Public Health. They investigated the deaths of women who died while pregnant or within a year of being pregnant between 1991 and 1999 and found 1,993 that were caused by injury, compared with 4,200 that were directly related to pregnancy complications. Of the injury-related deaths, 617 or 31 percent were ruled homicide, making murder the second most common cause of injury-related death for pregnant women after car accidents. The homicide rate for pregnant black women was more than triple that for white women, the researchers said.

http://www.jrrobertssecurity.com/security-news/security-crime-news0043.htm

Pregnancy itself is a risk that can, and has, lead to many deaths. Its a woman's body. No one has the right to tell her what she can do with her own body.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 3:33:34 AM   
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You're right, it is a very imperfect analogy

I admitted it was.
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I didn't do anything to cause the child to need the kidney.

What if it was your child, given up for adoption at birth years before, or kept by the mother against your wishes? Should you be forced to cough up a kidney against your will, then? General question, btw, which I am VERY interested in your answer to.

That said, you most likely weren't involved in the conception of a fetus that might be aborted either, but you still judge it as wrong and want to impose your morals on something that has nothing to do with you personally.
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It is almost for certain that the woman did not use protection, or insist the man do so (which she shouldn't need to do). Yes, accidents happen, but generally, no protection was used. So, am I wanting her "punished" for having sex? Nope. But there are consequences to our actions. It is tragic, it is sad.

How is it "almost certain"? Do women submbitting pics/dna from broken condoms get a break? Apparently not. She's screwed.

As for the whole idea of forcing women to have babies they don't want, that worked pretty well before Roe vs Wade, didn't it? Unless you advocate locking them up, the ones who want to abort will not capitulate to your morals, and many will die. But hey, you didn't get them pregnant.

Apologies for the snark, but this issue just pisses me off to no end. 


No again, to the kidney excursion.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 4:29:34 AM   
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juliaoceania, your deal about poverty is one of the most stupidest arguments around. This thread is about abortion -- not finding a cure for every problem in the WORLD. And i hope if abortion ever becomes illegal you are prosecuted because it doesn't sound like its the WOMAN you care about at all but your agenda. To me people like you are what is dangerous when you are willing to risk the lives of these women if its illegal abortion just to prove your agenda. I can hear you now, "ohh come on i can get you an abortion, aren't sure you really want one, ohh come on get one its your body you have a right to have an abortion, you really do want one so you can prove you have a right to do with your body what you will." Yeah -- dangerous.

I doubt you even understand what the concept of NO RIGHTS is, and it seems you are willing to take RIGHTS away from the fathers in order to justify abortions. Even now you bring in deadbeat dad concepts when you believe its ONLY THE RIGHT of the MOTHER TO DETERMINE if she is having an abortion. Funny, why should a Man have to pay for a child he didn't want and the mother decides she does? You are a hypocrit because you want to give the woman a choice and her choice alone but stamp your foot and say hey the responsibility is the fathers because the father doesn't get a choice.

SECONDLY, have you even bothered TO READ MOST OF THE REPLIES IN THIS THREAD? VERY FEW are anti-choice. But i guess for you to actually acknowledge that you would lose a lot of your argument because MANY of the posts are pro-choice but they are also based upon conditions. But that wouldn't suit your argument.

You have no concept of what right to privacy is as you have been expounding upon, as i said your right to privacy. To me, its people like you who are way over dramatic who cause this lack of cooperation when coming to a decision on abortion. The fact you call this an anti-choice thread when MOST OF THE POSTS are about pro-choice -- shows how irrational you are.

As i stated earlier -- you are off on what you believe the Constitution states. It gives you a right to privacy as to your records but it does not give the right to do whatever you want with your own body. And secondly, the product of sex the woman carries is NOT only hers -- it is the 50/50 combination of two people. It utterly amazes me you are sitting here whining about deadbeat dads but don't believe the Man has a right to say whether the fetus should be aborted or not. Seems you want to PUNISH MEN, not fight for rights of women.

And finally, abortion as it stands right now is legal in most cases, the woman doesn't have to even consult the father and yet all of your social issues still exist EVEN MORE SO than it did prior to abortions being legal.


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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 4:35:32 AM   
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GoddesRedCat, i don't know if you fast replied or not but i never said having sex was a contract.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:08:20 AM   
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juliaoceania, your deal about poverty is one of the most stupidest arguments around. This thread is about abortion -- not finding a cure for every problem in the WORLD. And i hope if abortion ever becomes illegal you are prosecuted because it doesn't sound like its the WOMAN you care about at all but your agenda. To me people like you are what is dangerous when you are willing to risk the lives of these women if its illegal abortion just to prove your agenda. I can hear you now, "ohh come on i can get you an abortion, aren't sure you really want one, ohh come on get one its your body you have a right to have an abortion, you really do want one so you can prove you have a right to do with your body what you will." Yeah -- dangerous.

I doubt you even understand what the concept of NO RIGHTS is, and it seems you are willing to take RIGHTS away from the fathers in order to justify abortions. Even now you bring in deadbeat dad concepts when you believe its ONLY THE RIGHT of the MOTHER TO DETERMINE if she is having an abortion. Funny, why should a Man have to pay for a child he didn't want and the mother decides she does? You are a hypocrit because you want to give the woman a choice and her choice alone but stamp your foot and say hey the responsibility is the fathers because the father doesn't get a choice.

SECONDLY, have you even bothered TO READ MOST OF THE REPLIES IN THIS THREAD? VERY FEW are anti-choice. But i guess for you to actually acknowledge that you would lose a lot of your argument because MANY of the posts are pro-choice but they are also based upon conditions. But that wouldn't suit your argument.

You have no concept of what right to privacy is as you have been expounding upon, as i said your right to privacy. To me, its people like you who are way over dramatic who cause this lack of cooperation when coming to a decision on abortion. The fact you call this an anti-choice thread when MOST OF THE POSTS are about pro-choice -- shows how irrational you are.

As i stated earlier -- you are off on what you believe the Constitution states. It gives you a right to privacy as to your records but it does not give the right to do whatever you want with your own body. And secondly, the product of sex the woman carries is NOT only hers -- it is the 50/50 combination of two people. It utterly amazes me you are sitting here whining about deadbeat dads but don't believe the Man has a right to say whether the fetus should be aborted or not. Seems you want to PUNISH MEN, not fight for rights of women.

And finally, abortion as it stands right now is legal in most cases, the woman doesn't have to even consult the father and yet all of your social issues still exist EVEN MORE SO than it did prior to abortions being legal.


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My ex was a deadbeat dad.  I raised a child beneath the poverty line. It was extraordinarily difficult thing to do. Because of my gender I made 30 cents on the dollar less than my male counterparts. I was denied employment because I was a single mom and companies always asked questions like "What do you do about childcare?" at interviews... this isn't an agenda, this was my life experience. This is what it is to be a single mom without the support of a man in this country. It is even worse for young women today because we have less of a safety net today than we did when I was a single mother. Now to you this subject may all come down to a man sticking his dick in a woman and calling himself a father, but not all men are worthy of that title and not all women are ready to be mothers... that is the facts...

Our society does a lot of lip service to loving kids, but we consistently show with our tax dollars how little we value wee ones...

Now please go back to bashing me, honey, I have been places and done things as a single mom I do not want other women to experience... some of them humiliating. I do not want that world for my grand daughters....


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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:15:56 AM   
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You know, I was just thinking about this thread, and it amazes me that both sides are saying the same thing.

Government doesn't have the right to prevent me from having an abortion.

Government doesn't have the right to force me to pay tax that supports abortion.

Now I know there's not a distinct line drawn, there are people who feel that abortion should be legal but not taxpayer funded, but in general that's how it goes. Both sides are all about "government stay out of it" unless government is supporting their side, in which case they're all for government being involved.

It's kinda mind blowing, really.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:19:58 AM   
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As i stated earlier -- you are off on what you believe the Constitution states. It gives you a right to privacy as to your records but it does not give the right to do whatever you want with your own body. And secondly, the product of sex the woman carries is NOT only hers -- it is the 50/50 combination of two people. It utterly amazes me you are sitting here whining about deadbeat dads but don't believe the Man has a right to say whether the fetus should be aborted or not. Seems you want to PUNISH MEN, not fight for rights of women.


A man should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What he SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birth control. Until he does this he has no rights over the body carrying the fetus. And just because he doesnt want the resulting baby and didnt have a say doesnt mean he shouldnt be responsible for the product.

It utterly amazes me that you expect men to have rights when the ability to protect themselves through putting a condom on or vasectomy but they shirk that responsibility. Where are all the drugs for men to prevent pregnancy?


Men have plenty of rights and control.


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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:21:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

I'm hoping what you think is a good way to spend our time and energies is a better contraceptive...and not Ialdabaoth's scary futuristic baby bank....that's just creepy.


I think that it is lovely when people consensually give up their DNA so that others may reproduce. I do not find what he proposes to be very consensual...


My sister adopted a baby girl from a Mexican farm worker who came up here specifically to have her baby and give it up for adoption. My sister used to be militantly anti choice as a woman that cannot have biological children. Her perspective has changed. She has decided through the experience of raising this child who she adopted out of political turmoil and poverty that she wants a world where women do not have to give a way their children because of poverty. It was an open adoption, and meeting this young woman and knowing the sacrifices she made to bring her baby to the US my sister had a huge growing experience.

If we want babies to be healthy and happy and loved (which to me should be the goal) then it shouldn't matter what country they come from. When people bring up abortion I can't help but think of all the babies that are born without proper food, medical care, and in war zones....and even in this country poverty and abortion are linked....

Doing away with unplanned pregnancy would go a long way GLOBALLY to furthering children's rights... which is what those who are anti-choice are supposed to care about, the children.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:24:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

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You know, I was just thinking about this thread, and it amazes me that both sides are saying the same thing.

Government doesn't have the right to prevent me from having an abortion.

Government doesn't have the right to force me to pay tax that supports abortion.

Now I know there's not a distinct line drawn, there are people who feel that abortion should be legal but not taxpayer funded, but in general that's how it goes. Both sides are all about "government stay out of it" unless government is supporting their side, in which case they're all for government being involved.

It's kinda mind blowing, really.


Where did I ever post that I wanted the federal government to support abortion with their tax dollar? Since this post is supposed to be in reply to me, I would really like you to find the post where I even once stated this...

Edited to say I see it was fast reply....




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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:26:23 AM   
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A man should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What he SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birth control. Until he does this he has no rights over the body carrying the fetus. And just because he doesnt want the resulting baby and didnt have a say doesnt mean he shouldnt be responsible for the product.

It utterly amazes me that you expect men to have rights when the ability to protect themselves through putting a condom on or vasectomy but they shirk that responsibility. Where are all the drugs for men to prevent pregnancy?

Men have plenty of rights and control.



A woman should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What she SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birthcontrol. Until she does this she has no rights over the fetus. And just because she doesnt want the resulting baby and didnt have a say in whether or not she was able to abort doesnt mean she shouldnt be responsible for the product.

It utterly amazes me that you expect woman to have rights when the ability to protect themselves through taking the pill or tubal ligation but they shirk that responsibility. Where are all the drugs for women to prevent pregnancy?

Women have plenty of rights and control.

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I do agree that men shouldn't be able to force or prevent an abortion but as far as the rest goes, it's pure and simple sexism. If a woman has the right to abdicate motherhood, a man should have the equal right to abdicate fatherhood, and saying "s/he should have used birth control" just doesn't cut it.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:26:50 AM   
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A man should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What he SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birth control.


So let's be clear, you believe that because a pregnancy occurs during sex a MAN shouldn't have a say whether the fetus is aborted because the accident of such may have been his. BUT a woman SHOULD have sole say in aborting or having the fetus because she was irresponsible in HER HALF of the birth control? Are you for real?

I mean you have just give pro-lifer's the PERFECT tag line -- the woman should have taken taking HER HALF of responsibility in birth control.

I love women who blame men for everything and then say they have no say in the results. Yeah, we all know WOMEN always take the pill dead on accurately, we know women always say hey put this condom on before we have sex. Unfucking believable that people here actually are implying that the MAN should have NO SAY in abortion due to his opps, but a woman should have ALL SAY due to hers?

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:31:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

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A man should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What he SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birth control. Until he does this he has no rights over the body carrying the fetus. And just because he doesnt want the resulting baby and didnt have a say doesnt mean he shouldnt be responsible for the product.

It utterly amazes me that you expect men to have rights when the ability to protect themselves through putting a condom on or vasectomy but they shirk that responsibility. Where are all the drugs for men to prevent pregnancy?

Men have plenty of rights and control.



A woman should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What she SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birthcontrol. Until she does this she has no rights over the fetus. And just because she doesnt want the resulting baby and didnt have a say in whether or not she was able to abort doesnt mean she shouldnt be responsible for the product.

It utterly amazes me that you expect woman to have rights when the ability to protect themselves through taking the pill or tubal ligation but they shirk that responsibility. Where are all the drugs for women to prevent pregnancy?

Women have plenty of rights and control.

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I do agree that men shouldn't be able to force or prevent an abortion but as far as the rest goes, it's pure and simple sexism. If a woman has the right to abdicate motherhood, a man should have the equal right to abdicate fatherhood, and saying "s/he should have used birth control" just doesn't cut it.



Half of men are in arrears on their child support at any given time in the USA, and there is very little consistent child support enforcement in this country and it even gets even harder to enforce across state lines. Men will do things like work under the table to hide assets, etc, to get out of paying for their children.... often these children were born in the context of marriage. So, you see, there are a lot of fathers out there that are abdicating their responsibilities in this country... the child pays for it.

This is the deal, in debates like this I have very little patience for people who bring up parental rights... it isn't about the parents... it is about the kids. Life ain't fair to either gender. It is unfair to women and it is unfair to men... just in different ways.


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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:35:39 AM   
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A man should not have the right to say that a fetus should or shouldnt be aborted. What he SHOULD have done is taken half the responsibility of birth control.


So let's be clear, you believe that because a pregnancy occurs during sex a MAN shouldn't have a say whether the fetus is aborted because the accident of such may have been his. BUT a woman SHOULD have sole say in aborting or having the fetus because she was irresponsible in HER HALF of the birth control? Are you for real?

I mean you have just give pro-lifer's the PERFECT tag line -- the woman should have taken taking HER HALF of responsibility in birth control.

I love women who blame men for everything and then say they have no say in the results. Yeah, we all know WOMEN always take the pill dead on accurately, we know women always say hey put this condom on before we have sex. Unfucking believable that people here actually are implying that the MAN should have NO SAY in abortion due to his opps, but a woman should have ALL SAY due to hers?

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You should be clear on who you are responding to... I did not write what you quoted.

I am saying men should have no say because the burden they bear is smaller. They do not have to carry the baby for 9 months. They do not have the societal shame that women come across if they are not the caretaker of the children, so it falls to women to be the caretakers. Women have to take time off from their careers to rear children, which takes a toll on their lifelong ability to generate income.



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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:37:41 AM   
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Half of men are in arrears on their child support at any given time in the USA, and there is very little consistent child support enforcement in this country and it even gets even harder to enforce across state lines. Men will do things like work under the table to hide assets, etc, to get out of paying for their children.... often these children were born in the context of marriage. So, you see, there are a lot of fathers out there that are abdicating their responsibilities in this country... the child pays for it.


I completely agree, my comments were referring to a previous post in which I talked about abdicating responsibility before birth. Though since it's a lot more probable for a man to not know he has a kid than for a woman, I'd say a grace period of 4 months from the date he found out he had a child - parallel to the abortion window - to legally abdicate all responsibility.

A father who doesn't do that is in the same boat as a woman who decides not to abort. They're a parent.

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This is the deal, in debates like this I have very little patience for people who bring up parental rights... it isn't about the parents... it is about the kids. Life ain't fair to either gender. It is unfair to women and it is unfair to men... just in different ways.


Yeah the "life's not fair" argument doesn't really hold water here, since the laws are supposed to be fair and just. The "it's about the kids" argument is the exact same argument used by pro-lifers. And to be honest if a woman chooses to bring a child into the world knowing that the man, from the start, does NOT want to be a father, it's up to her to take responsibility for her choice.

Using the "if you choose to have sex you are obligated to be a parent" argument for one gender but not the other falls into the category of legal gender discrimination.

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RE: Abortion - 3/22/2010 8:37:47 AM   
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juliaoceania -- WAHHHHH, your life was so hard. You were the only women ever having to deal with this type of issue. You know i have no sympathy for your life, none whatsoever. I don't believe your life means that women should have MORE say over their fetus' or children than men.

You do realize that the concept of deadbeat women are on the rise due to fathers taking the kids? But i guess that's okay huh, cause well gee a Man won't have it so easy.

You seem to me to be the complete opposite of rights and now want to strip men of same and it sounds like simply beause you are bitter over your ex and your life and men in general.

Sorry sob stories don't mean much to me, i have seen some of the most horrific things people have struggled through, and whether you agree or not, the murder of a child to someone CAN in fact devastate them for life.

angel

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