CaringandReal
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Neither. She ain't my slave till I say so, and feisty is relative. I don't take well to being told how to judge a woman, especially by the woman herself.
Gosh...good point! Whenever I see where a woman has labeled herself as feisty or 'not a doormat' it always bugged me for some reason and that's it.....she's not letting her potential Dom decide for himself.
I think some women are trying to express a style of relating or role they enjoy with that statement, something like "I'm a brat" or "I'm a SAM," just not as extreme as those two. There are dominants who like that style of submissive, too, so I think it's useful to advertise as such if that's what you prefer. It helps the right dominants find you, and, as evidenced by the responses in this thread, encourages the wrong ones to ignore you. Win-win. :D
As for the "I'm a slave who does what she's told," if you don't get all hung up in the "slave" semantics, it's also often made by people trying to communicate information about a style of submission they enjoy or feel comfortable with: the "good girl" or "good boy" role. If you enjoy being quietly obedient without a lot of fireworks and want to be with someone who appreciates that type, why the hell not say so? It's clear, honest information, IMO, and once again, adds to the possibility that you'll attract someone who is right for you. I have a very strongly worded "good girl" profile on another website. I've recieved responses to it from the type of person I really hope to hear from. It's worked, in other words.
I personally appreciate extremes in profiles, even if I don't think the writer is a fit for me. "MOR" is quite boring...plus it's easier to get run over there. :p The edges are much more interesting. Along the edges there are trees and flowers and birds and berries and interesting trash and ditches with dirty water, and sometimes even wolves in the woods! A nice change from unending, dreary asphalt, IMO. Another thing about strictly in the middle profiles that bothers is that the writes of such often seem to be trying to please all audiences at once, covering all the bases. It makes you wonder who they really are...and not trust who they say they are.
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anyway. i would think it would all be relative. As in HOW feisty or obedient. Feisty can either be a bitch on wheels, or just feisty enough to keep You on Your toes and make life interesting. Doing as she's told could either be doing what You want with a pleasant attitude, or just be dead-ass boring and drone-like. Before Master Sir owned me & i had my former username, my profile said "just a little sassy, but in a good way," and, believe me, i never had a shortage of mail in my inbox. 
but also naive - enter the SadoMachineMan complete with every known torture nipple twisting cerrated edged carbuncle known to man. id probably have to rescue her from herself. 
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