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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Actually, we had our own private workshop. The Dominant who was helping us is someone I've know for years, and he and his wife are just wonderful people. My submissive playpartner has done a lot of needleplay with him, and he has taught classes on the subject. So, my playpartner's husband, me, and my Master all stuck needles in her one at a time, after the "mentor"/instructor/whateveryawannacallhim demonstrated, with him supervising closely. Then, my Master warmed me up, and put some in me, then I put added a few more to my submissive playpartner. We all had a wonderful time - lots of joking around interesting conversation, and such to go with the needleplay. IMHO, that's how to do mentoring, not "Oh, I'm gonna teach you how to do vanilla stuff you've been doing for years, and tell you who you can date."[:'(]

In the past, when I played more casually, I did have some friends/playpartners who I could go, "Hey, suspension bondage sounds like fun, I'd like to try bottoming to that. Can you come to the Knotty Boys class with me in a couple of weeks?" or "Ooh, you just got a new set of canes, and I've been intrigued by them since I read this post about them. Would you be willing to show me how they feel?" They didn't accuse me of topping from the bottom, and if for some reason, they weren't interested, we just didn't do it. Usually, they were happy to work with me. I had a couple of friends who were couples, who were willing to allow me to co-top, and show me things more in the context of a natural scene rather than a classroom environment. It's a great way to learn toppy-type stuff.

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

The best part about being a mentor is all of the free pussy.

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ORIGINAL: MstrDark1



Speaking My Peace........This was written a few years ago. see what you all think! May 5, 2007 9:09 am

Taking someone down this journey of life and fulfillment is not any easy thing to do. After searching for a long time to find some one worthy isn't easy either.You look.....you talk...you encourage....you look...you find.....
Everything looks good. All the matches are there.
Likes and dislikes are there. So you send an e-mail.....no answer.....you send to others hopefully you will receive the one you wanted it.
Ah it finally comes..very nicely written.
An invitation to her friends network and an invitation to her chatroom of local friends in the life. And also willing to chat to find out where we are going. An e-mail sent back and now it
starts.Phone numbers exchanged and the talk begins.She had it bad with other Dom's...Listening to what she had to say....Then she listening to what I had to say. She sees something different in me that was very different then others. We decide to focus on each other and each talk in im's each e-mail each phone conversation......getting better and better. The focus seeming better and better and the ideas of a future together getting closer to a meet.
Everything perfect.....I would think so....
not quite...She has mentors... and they see her
starting something and being happy about it..so they check me out...visited my profile...visited my blogs..I'm receiving great e-mails from her. Everything still on the up and up...So one night when we were suppose to talk when she came home from work.....she was no where to be found.
so I left the morning e-mail of which I always got an answer from.......this time no answer...
Now mind you things are going very well supposedly, in my eyes we had a start to really have a good relationship.....so I catch her in I'm's and then I get told she accepted a collar from her mentors.....what she dreamt about. So I said congrats against my better judgement. And let go. If that's what she wanted then who am I to say no or cause a scene. It's already done.
You started to get your head caught up in a situation that you thought was good. And then get the door slammed in your face. You know you feel something for her or your talking wouldn't have stressed a loving D/S relationship long term...just what she wanted.
All those nice e-mails were saved and the I'm's too....and you go in to your file cabinet and one by one you delete all these nice things that were said to you.........now they don't mean anything and no reason to save them. Took her off the hot list and took her off the friends list...
so now she becomes lost in the Internet garbage can. A place where shit piles up. A beautiful being ,a beautiful heart and probably a great submissive.....for them....fine...they got a treasure.....and I'm still trying to get the door off of my face........I guess you don't chase what you can't catch!I'm a Dominant..I don't take things lightly...I'm just very Disappointed.............and very skeptical of the next submissive that says "yes Sir"! To my way of thinking they over stepped their bounds by interfering....what say you guys??

MstrDark1 owner of Wisdomtogive

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

Mentors = red flags.....

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

Mentors = red flags.....

A mentor would change your mind!

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

You are a mean ass bitch!  That's why I like you.

Mentor Me?

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

A mentor would change your mind!

Jefffffff....i wanted to ask you to be my mentor, but am going to ask Ron instead. He doesn't whine...yanno?

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

A mentor would change your mind!

Jefffffff....i wanted to ask you to be my mentor, but am going to ask Ron instead. He doesn't whine...yanno?

Plus, having an anteater for a mentor would violate TOS.

OP: I agree with Jeff here (I know! Freaky, huh?). If someone needs a formal mentorship structure (as opposed to an informal friend to go to with questions/concerns) are they in a place where you want a relationship with them?