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You've made me ashamed in my use of the term "scorn"...

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious

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First, while having a strong personality, a good education, a quick mind and ability to take charge...The last thing I want in a relationship is to be in charge...

I think most people who know me would be shocked to know that I consider myself to be submissive.

I believe there is a vast difference between submitting to a man through trust, respect and love...and some neanderthal trying to take something he hasn't earned.

I am far from a prude and have enjoyed a lively sex life that has had it's share if kink...but at this stage of my life prefer a mono, longterm relationship

I believe these traits of yours are highly desired by many on here. They were for me.

You mean there may be hope after all? I appreciate the confidence boost, Thank You.

Now show us your Spanish tits

They're Scottish tits... they only reside in Spain...

Oh.....Then never mind

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You've made me ashamed in my use of the term "scorn"...

ah, sorry! BUT i felt a kinship as soon as i started reading your post. that said, there are a lot of different opinions around here about whether you should look for having your hard edges softened by someone. some say it's unfair to expect that, or that you are not entitled to expectations because you propose to be a sub. others say, "just be careful of making your expectations too high or unreasonable, as though this is some altered universe." and there are good and reasonable intentions behind all of that advice.

still, your journey is your own and only you can know which pieces are missing from your puzzle. to come to this knowing yourself so well that you know there are places inside that you can't reach by yourself... i call that quality introspection and good material to bring to the BDSM work table, so long as you are also bringing gifts on offer. laying yourself bare, the strong parts and the soggy parts, is the beginning of yielding from within and thus the beginning of true submission to something greater than yourself. that "something greater" is formalized in a D/s relationships, but its still love or whatever you want to call it. it's not localized in the man; he is in the service of that same great thing, and to want to be a part of it with him is not weakness to admit or ask for, as long as what you ask for is a counterpoint to what you have to give.

i would advise you, in your journey, to stay on the forums. it gets rambunctious here but it will keep you sane! :)

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I joined CM about 10 days ago at the urging of a good friend and member if this site. I'm still trying to figure out if I belong here. I read so many conflicting oppinions and attitudes that I'm not really sure what is involved...perhaps if I explain a bit about myself, you can give me a bit of advice.

First, while having a strong personality, a good education, a quick mind and ability to take charge...The last thing I want in a relationship is to be in charge...yet that always seems to be where I get stuck.., which causes me to lose respect for my partner...and if I don't respect him any love I had for him is soon replaced by scorn.

I think most people who know me would be shocked to know that I consider myself to be submissive as I have no problem verbally destroying men that I consider to be controlling or abusive.

I had to smile when I read the shaving thread as I love the feeling of exposure and vulnerability being in that state allows me.

I would appreciate any opinions or suggestions you may have as to whether or not I might find what I'm looking for in a BDSM relationship. Thanks.

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I joined CM about 10 days ago at the urging of a good friend and member if this site. I'm still trying to figure out if I belong here. I read so many conflicting oppinions and attitudes that I'm not really sure what is involved...perhaps if I explain a bit about myself, you can give me a bit of advice.

First, while having a strong personality, a good education, a quick mind and ability to take charge...The last thing I want in a relationship is to be in charge...yet that always seems to be where I get stuck.., which causes me to lose respect for my partner...and if I don't respect him any love I had for him is soon replaced by scorn.

I think most people who know me would be shocked to know that I consider myself to be submissive as I have no problem verbally destroying men that I consider to be controlling or abusive.

I had to smile when I read the shaving thread as I love the feeling of exposure and vulnerability being in that state allows me.

I would appreciate any opinions or suggestions you may have as to whether or not I might find what I'm looking for in a BDSM relationship. Thanks.

I think your friend is pretty smart, even if he is an ego-maniacal, narcissistic, always got to be right bastard.






You belong where you find your self. No where else will ever be comfortable.

Hmmmmm what's that old saying about not wanting to be a member of any club that would have me?


Thanks for the shove...I think you headed me in the right direction.

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Hmmmmm what's that old saying about not wanting to be a member of any club that would have me?


Thanks for the shove...I think you headed me in the right direction.

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Hmmmmm what's that old saying about not wanting to be a member of any club that would have me?


Thanks for the shove...I think you headed me in the right direction.

I don't recall any head....


YW.

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Welcome to the madhouse. Some of the fellow inmates are rather special, but you seem to have found that already.

Give the eejits the time and attention they deserve....

Welcome, and bonne chance...

And yes it does sound like you are in the right place... AND that He's a good find.

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Welcome to the madhouse. Some of the fellow inmates are rather special, but you seem to have found that already.

Give the eejits the time and attention they deserve....

Welcome, and bonne chance...

And yes it does sound like you are in the right place... AND that He's a good find.

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First, while having a strong personality, a good education, a quick mind and ability to take charge...The last thing I want in a relationship is to be in charge...

I think most people who know me would be shocked to know that I consider myself to be submissive.

I believe there is a vast difference between submitting to a man through trust, respect and love...and some neanderthal trying to take something he hasn't earned.

I am far from a prude and have enjoyed a lively sex life that has had it's share if kink...but at this stage of my life prefer a mono, longterm relationship

I believe these traits of yours are highly desired by many on here. They were for me.

You mean there may be hope after all? I appreciate the confidence boost, Thank You.

Now show us your Spanish tits

They're Scottish tits... they only reside in Spain...

Oh.....Then never mind

What happened to "I will not stop"?