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RE: Is it about making her want to see You? - 4/11/2006 11:16:05 PM

Takethiswaltz

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cravinspankin,

I'm so glad that you have been able to make some headway with your Dom in this area. Perhaps he just needed a more definative greenlight. Who knows? They are from mars and we are from venus.
We can communicate, communicate, communicate. It doenst change the fact we are from different planets.

I wish you the best. ( I was concerned about some of the responses you were getting and looked forward to an update from you)

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RE: Is it about making her want to see You? - 4/17/2006 9:53:34 PM

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I tend to make the women pursue me. It shows me those that really are looking for a Dominant from those that are looking for a boyfriend. It's my own twisted view, I know, but it is my preference. Just like I prefer a slave over a submissive.

Your preferences are of course your own but, would this approach not attract the extremely needy/obsessive stalker types?

Also...gee whiz, it seems I have been looking for a boyfriend all this time - despite having had to turn down several offers of long-term relationships - what can be wrong with me?

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RE: Is it about making her want to see You? - 4/18/2006 4:05:35 AM

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I have never had the problem that the OP describes. Any of my dominants have made certain that I understand when I am to be with them and, at the same token, have let me know when they would be otherwise occupied. If I were "dating" an individual who suddenly had no time to spend with me, then I'd have to ask him what changed.

There are all sorts of relationships between dominants and submissives, including those that are more like bf/gf arrangements. It's not for anyone to say their way of doing things is more correct than another.

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RE: Is it about making her want to see You? - 4/18/2006 6:34:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: PenelopePitstop
Also...gee whiz, it seems I have been looking for a boyfriend all this time - despite having had to turn down several offers of long-term relationships - what can be wrong with me?

Start with your attitude and work from there, penelope. My initial post was not meant in anyway towards anyone. So if you took offense to it then you need to reconcile that with yourself, sweetheart, and not be bitchy with me.

The general norm of society (western as well as European) is that the women are the ones pursued when looking for a mate (i.e. boyfriends, husbands, lovers). I am not looking to be any of those. So I suspend those norms by having the slaves pursue me. It works well for me because I don't like to put up with people that think submission is nothing more then a label they can wake up and slap on themselves. Now if this is off putting to you then so be it.

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RE: Is it about making her want to see You? - 4/18/2006 10:59:09 PM

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Here's a book for you: "He's Just Not That Into You" by Behrendt.

It will be a cold day in hell before I am the one chasing after a man like some pathetic herd dog nipping at his heels...

you probably deserve better, but you won't get it until you stand for it. you teach the universe how to treat you.

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RE: Is it about making her want to see You? - 4/19/2006 10:26:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

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ORIGINAL: PenelopePitstop
Also...gee whiz, it seems I have been looking for a boyfriend all this time - despite having had to turn down several offers of long-term relationships - what can be wrong with me?

Start with your attitude and work from there, penelope. My initial post was not meant in anyway towards anyone. So if you took offense to it then you need to reconcile that with yourself, sweetheart, and not be bitchy with me.

The general norm of society (western as well as European) is that the women are the ones pursued when looking for a mate (i.e. boyfriends, husbands, lovers). I am not looking to be any of those. So I suspend those norms by having the slaves pursue me. It works well for me because I don't like to put up with people that think submission is nothing more then a label they can wake up and slap on themselves. Now if this is off putting to you then so be it.

Calm down, I was only seeking clarification, and reacting to your sweeping generalisation about the nature of submission. No need to get your leather studded knickers in a twist. I don't do bitchy: I do bemused.

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