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BigEyes -> Offered money?? (4/2/2006 7:53:25 PM)
I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction? Big Eyes

Misstoyou -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:02:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BigEyes I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction? Big Eyes My reaction is general annoyance. I've been offered cash, trips, shopping excursions, finders fees for an introduction service to somebody else after I've refused somebody... It's either inadequate socialization, as far as I'm concerned, or sheer laziness, cash=shortcut and no emotional investment.

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:05:38 PM)
Yes, this has happened to Me on a few occasions.. I have had subs mail Me for My "rates," or ask what "tribute" I require, etc. I attribute this to their not reading profiles thoroughly. Each time, I politely mailed back and told them I was not a pro-Domme, but if they were looking for one, there are several in the area. With the exception of one sub, they were all polite about it and did not pursue it further. The one persistent sub had a brown showers fetish. At the time, I did not know of any pro-Dommes in the area who did that and told him so. He kept upping the ante, trying to get Me interested, so I just ended up blocking him. Lady Topaz

mnottertail -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:05:44 PM)
Damn, Baby....... I thought you was kinky....... Taking money for something is kinky, ain't it? Life threatening confusion, Ron

Misstoyou -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:11:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Life threatening confusion, Damn close! lol Hugs, Ron. You always make me smile.

BigEyes -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:14:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Damn, Baby....... I thought you was kinky....... Taking money for something is kinky, ain't it? Life threatening confusion, Ron Is it though? Kink is all in the mind, and money isn't a turn on for me. I have to admit it IS very tempting, but only in a greedy, shallow way. Sorry to all the pro dommes out there, but it's just not for me..

MsDominiquenz -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:16:53 PM)
Well..jumping in here feet first as a newbie to these boards, but not a newbie to all of this. Hi Big Eyes. Why oh why is money always an issue ?..the label ProDom describes many different individuals, and a stereotype suggests someone doing the activity for profit not pleasure, and I saw a thread here on the usual ProDomme bashing..Yawn Imagine the chap wishing to be humiliated has money as a hangup ? what if he is using money on offer as a way for you to humiliate him ..understand often that Women see money as security and men see it as power.. perhaps its not about being a Pro anything, maybe its his way of relinquishing something to you? I have done fully tributed sessions/scenes, and I have played all day for a box of chocolates !! yummy. I have a gift list, and its lovely when something turns up..very special. Tributing the Domina is not all about the rip off, its not real, hookers with whips, princess 'i breathe so pay me now' attitudes. Its a sign of respect, so I would say let him tribute you, think on the power/money angle for yourself, and perhaps think on something other than money he may show respect with. If this person is thinking of buying your time, or hoping that money will sway your mind, or will allow him to offer a blueprint for activity..then yes, I see your thoughts there, mind you, even in a ProDomme situation, money will/should not guarantee anything this way. Thanks for a chance to post on an interesting point, I hope it works out for you !

BigEyes -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:17:35 PM)
Although I do need some new jeans, and then there are those irritating debts, and I've always wanted a dog... I jest - mostly!

BigEyes -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:22:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsDominiquenz If this person is thinking of buying your time, or hoping that money will sway your mind, or will allow him to offer a blueprint for activity..then yes, I see your thoughts there This is exactly the situation. If it was different as you describe there wouldn't be such an issue, but when some horny sub wants to give me money so I will do what he wants... I think not. I can see your point generally though, and thank you for the thought that went into your reply! Big Eyes

SweetDommes -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:49:21 PM)
I mentioned in a chat room once that I've been to Europe and I've been really wanting to go back for years now - but no $ for the trip ... I was almost immediately deluged with private messages offering to pay my way if I (and Holly, of course) would dominate them "for awhile" or something along those lines. We've been offered free trips, tons of cash, and told by multiple guys in various parts of the world that we could live quite well and get to travel wherever we want if we would let boys pay for it all. Personally, I'm with you - it appeals to me, but not as a part of D/s ... the pure greed "I want" side loves the idea, but the other side of me, the side that knows who and what I really am is appalled with the greedy side and regularly smacks her around for even thinking about it (that side of me is apparently a brutal sadist LOL). If I ever did it, it would not be a D/s thing for me - it would be a business transaction; sterile, unemotional, and most likely, personally unfullfilling. It would be like me trying to be happy working on an OB floor in a hospital - while I know plenty of people that love it, it's just not me.

MsDominiquenz -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:59:04 PM)
Ah ha..BigEyes..you are welcome, and you get it !! good to stay with those morals and ethics I say, they are important to me too. Never, never, never should it be ok to take money for doing what the sub wants..ever. Control.. what, who ? I am really comfortable with my stance on this in my experience, and I have turned away more than I have seen, but thats why they call me the Bitch...and thats ok too, Beauty_In_Total_Control_of_Herself. Love it. More power to you Lady !

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 8:59:04 PM)
I've had quite a few occasions where someone will contact me out of the blue offering money for play, or to be my "financial slave" or similar nonsense. Now, the real question is - how sincere are such offers? I'm going to hazard - not particularly. It's kinda like someone offering to sell you a bridge...well maybe they DO have one, but really - what are the chances? A couple specific incidents come to mind - one last fall where the individual offered me a amount of money, and I said it would most please me if he donated it to the Red Cross. I didn't hear back from him. Shocking. The other one is someone who wanted me to postal discipline him - he wanted to confess his misdeeds, and have me fine him for them and send me the money. Further discussion revealed his idea of fines were $5 to maybe $20 for something REALLY bad. Well it was good for a laugh anyway. Only one exception to this is a sub I've only ever spoken to online who has bought me (and quite a few other dommes) numerous toys over the years. His kick is the whole shopping frenzy, and he's at about 50/50 on following through and actually buying things. His is a highly unusual case in following through at all, I believe. The bottom line is what I think you can expect from such offers is prolonged online and phone discussions about what you'd do to him, blah blah blah, and see very little in return.

WorshippingYou1 -> RE: Offered money?? (4/2/2006 10:35:57 PM)
Any dommes here who'd like to "buy" me to be their boy? Wink.

GoddessAlexia -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 2:19:33 AM)
Just tell him you are not a pro and he will understand.

openmindedslave -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 6:02:16 AM)
I believe it was already mentioned earlier, but some levels of humilation can involve paying out somes of cash. To some it coan reenforce the fact that their so pathetic in life , no one would want to be with them without money being involved.. Saying that, you still have to be confortable with the realtionship. If your not don't do it But you can also look at it as a way to expeand the relationship in the form of gifts. Instead of direct money comming to you , have him bring you a new pair of jeans that you liked . Or if he wants to explore play , but you don't have the right toys yet, have him invest in them with the ida that it will be only for the both of you to play with. Maybe even start a new toy box or bag that is only for you two. If he does want to pay out , choose a non profit orgainzation for him to give to . Make him show you the receipt..

BeachMystress -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 6:27:45 AM)
I often run into men who dangle money as a carrot. Few of them have any intention of coming through with said gift. They've just found that a certain type of "domme" can be put through her paces by offering a hope of money or gifts. Sigh. I'm contacted by multiple "subs" a week, wanting to pay for humiliation. Especially if he is talking about online, it is probably a scam. You could say I'm a cynical bitch, or you could say I'm a realist who has been dealing with wankers-who-want-to-use-women-rather-than-submit-to-them for too long.

DiannaVesta -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 7:10:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BigEyes quote: ORIGINAL: MsDominiquenz If this person is thinking of buying your time, or hoping that money will sway your mind, or will allow him to offer a blueprint for activity..then yes, I see your thoughts there This is exactly the situation. If it was different as you describe there wouldn't be such an issue, but when some horny sub wants to give me money so I will do what he wants... I think not. I can see your point generally though, and thank you for the thought that went into your reply! Big Eyes I would never perform for a male because he gave me gifts or money. Some guys are just into that. Does it make them hot and excited? Maybe or maybe they feel they need to do that. Call me what you want but I would never turn it down. Why? Does it affect my moral disposition? Maybe in your eyes but certainly not in mine. In fact I love it and it turns me on. I realize this is a hard dynamic to understand and there are threads about this. It seems to create some heated debates. I look around my house and its smack full of things purchased by my slaves. Does this make me a hooker? Ok, whatever. Does it make me less dominant? Now that would be truly funny to anyone who really knows me. Do I have attitude? Damn right I do & I won’t apologize for it nor will I ever return a gift. Let him by you those jeans if he wants and you need them. DON’T allow it to come with conditions & expectations. If he does it because he adores you fine. I could go on and say some other things but I already know I’m going to hear a lot of shit for this. I don’t do this on purpose, mind you, but I also know there are other women here who feel as I do. There isn’t a damn thing wrong with being a Goddess who expects this type of adoration. If two people of like interest gets together and you consensually create this dynamic, more power to you.

openmindedslave -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 7:26:24 AM)
Reread DiannaVesta last line and it pretty much sums it up...

Angeni -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 7:35:22 AM)
Greetings :) I was once offered $100 to do nothing more than pee on someone. And I am not even a Domme/Mistress. I found it to be quite humorous at the time.

thetammyjo -> RE: Offered money?? (4/3/2006 8:47:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BigEyes I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction? Big Eyes I've never had this experience. I have had someone show up at a munch with flowers for me before saying it was to show his "devotation to me" -- this actually indicated how little he did know about me. I've had people I've trained give me gifts after the training or several weeks into it as a "thank you". I had a bottom once whom I did only knife play with (his fetish and I wanted to get practice in) who took me out for a milk shake afterwards while we talked and came down. I had a sub once come to visit and then before his train back to his home would take me out to breakfast so we could have a relaxing "goodbye". Of course I've received gifts for holidays and my birthday. The closest I've had to what you've experienced, Big Eyes, is before Fox started training he asked if I required tribute because his previous dominant did this and he'd seen discussion of tributes online so much. I explained that I did not and that what I expected was his hard work and focus on training, honesty and growth.

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