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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 2:26:12 PM   
AQuietSimpleMan


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Status: offline 		Where as I agree with most of the eye rolling sentiment, I do not discount the dominant in question.

Why do we hold different requirements for Male Dominants and Female Dominants? I mean if a Domina who was well known but out a requirement that all male subs had to apply to serve her most people wouldn't bat an eyelash.

A Male Dom does the same things and he's living in a Fantasy world.

I happen to know MANY male and female Dom/me's who use this tactic and LITERALLY MEAN APPLY.

Robert Dante the guy who wrote the bull whip section in Screw the Roses uses an Application/Interview process when he selects submissives whom will be used as demo's for his craft.

Master Len as I understand it gets all his slaves through adverts for his movies and all of them are interviewed after they apply not to be in his movies but to be his slave they don't have a choice in being in the movie once they are a slave.

Hell just about every Pro Domme I know does interviews before they take on a sub.

If I were swarmed with sub's vying for my attention and I did not have proper time address each before deciding who I was going to entertain the idea of courting then I assure you I would do the exact same thing I would make them apply and I would address exactly what I was looking for exactly HOW I was looking for it and then ask them point blank if they could do what I require. I would then select the one best suited to my needs.

Perhaps it is the word "Apply" that you dislike which is also understandable but isn't any date, any phone number kind of the application and interview process?

I believe it was Van Wilder who said "First Dates ARE Interviews."

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 2:32:19 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I think female dominants might have more reason to ask for applications, than do their male counterparts. If a male dominant was asking for applications he better be someone who is publically noteworthy. And even then I have seen a few male dominants who have even travelled the country doing demo's who still do not get a response when they ask for applications.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:09:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well see I would apply, sending hot pics, talking it up make him think I was awesome, then when I had him on the hook... I could laugh at him and tell him to go back to his porn. I sometimes do the same thing to the guys who write me saying Hi Slut or you will call me Master.

But see sometimes when I am bored I am just evil, and toying with people like that can be so much fun.

If I am busy though it is just ignore

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:14:37 PM   
cajingrl


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Status: offline 		AQuietSimpleMan.....in regards to your post, wouldn't it be just as beneficial to just put what you are seeking in your profile and let the sub decide if it is something that they are willing to do? Just an option.

cajingrl

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:26:47 PM   
AQuietSimpleMan


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Status: offline 		No, it wouldn't. Because there isn't enough Terabytes available and I would be an old old old man before I finished writing out everything that I want, however what I want isn't what always matters.

I am a Male and what I want tends to often be a mixture of wet dream, fantasy porn, and the cooking channel (Yeah I'm a foodie) but one thing a Menu can't do is see how you answer certain questions.

So I say I require Anal, You are against Anal and so you don't apply. Well it does away with the discussion you and I could have had on the subject in which you learn what I like about it and I learn what you have against it.

I would rather there be little to no discussion on what either party requires on more discussion on discussion. I really don't want what I am into to freak you out because what I am into has less to do with what I will want to do with you as it is just things that I am not against.

My profile is not who I am, My interests do not define me, most of my interests are not even mandatory. To judge me by what you read on my profile is to be as shallow as the concept of a profile is in the first place.

I would rather an application and an interview than to be judged by what you assume my profile means, because at least then I know you are judging me on Me not on the misinterpritation of what I wrote in my profile.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:30:03 PM   
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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:30:35 PM   
cajingrl


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Status: offline 		Point taken......as for myself, i prefer to communicate with someone to see if there is any type of connection without having to "apply" to speak with someone.


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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:45:23 PM   
DomImus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cajingrl
Point taken......as for myself, i prefer to communicate with someone to see if there is any type of connection without having to "apply" to speak with someone.


I would prefer to communicate with a submissive without having to woo her dominant protector beforehand but that scenario appears to happen far more often than the one you describe.


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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:59:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cajingrl
Forgive me if this has already been asked, but, what is it about doms saying that you have to "apply" to talk to them? Are we as subs applying for a job or what????

Can someone please explain this to me. I'm sorry if I have gone about this the wrong way, since this is the first time I have started a thread.

i can't explain it except, were i single and if i thought i wanted to correspond with Him that badly, i would apply. If Someone is worth it to me, i will jump through hoops.....for awhile that is. Of course, i could still back off if things didn't work out well. There's always that option, too.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 3:59:21 PM   
cajingrl


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Status: offline 		DomImus.....i understand that, but for myself, i have none of those "protectors". i think that i am smart enough to know when i am speaking to someone that is true and kind, so i don't feel the need to have a protector.


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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 4:03:12 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cajingrl

Forgive me if this has already been asked, but, what is it about doms saying that you have to "apply" to talk to them? Are we as subs applying for a job or what????

Can someone please explain this to me. I'm sorry if I have gone about this the wrong way, since this is the first time I have started a thread.

cajingrl


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First... no need to apologize...

Second to answer you question... In most cases I mark those situations up to a person having poor social intelligent skills. I suspect if you went to the interview you would find it a job with very little redeeming qualities to it and as such they are most likely still looking for applicants. Of course, there are some it is a rather well thought out and an involved process. This type of situation is not going to appeal to many... but that is the point. The person is appealing for someone particular and that particular person will find the approach appealing.


< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 4/1/2010 4:04:31 PM >

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 4:07:41 PM   
dionysianmaster


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

My day is very full. there are scheduling issues and all sorts of shit to get done.

I had to check My day planner  just to see if I had time to respond to this post/


*cheers*

Some will write novella-sized emails and in such a case, an application should be the rule

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 5:09:52 PM   
DomImus


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ORIGINAL: cajingrl
DomImus.....i understand that, but for myself, i have none of those "protectors". i think that i am smart enough to know when i am speaking to someone that is true and kind, so i don't feel the need to have a protector.


One good rant deserves another. Just sayin'.


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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 6:49:48 PM   
Andalusite


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Status: offline 		DWCskitten, I'm with you. Back when I was looking, none of the people who I contacted or who expressed an interest in me had an application process, but I have seen some Domme profiles which mentioned it. If someone had brought it up, I would have read the application with an open mind. If it was a bunch of wank fodder, wanting me to describe my favourite fantasies, send 3 nudes, one with his name, and so forth, I would have blocked/deleted him. If his questionaire had interesting, thought-provoking questions which he used to organise both our thoughts and spark further conversation, great! I would tend to assume that someone who used it in a positive way would be more formal and possibly high-protocol, so I would ask a lot of questions related to how he expected us to interact on a day-to-day basis if we were to get involved. Back when I was looking, I had a lot of specific things I needed to know, some of which could be answered verbally, others which we needed to explore together in person. I didn't set it up formally, or call it an application, but I did have a little written checklist I kept for myself so that I could make sure I didn't forget anything important.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 7:04:09 PM   
DWCskitten


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Status: offline 		Exactly, Andalusite.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 7:14:59 PM   
DWCskitten


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Status: offline 		Exactly, Andalusite. i agree.

~edited to add~
Oops. Double post.

< Message edited by DWCskitten -- 4/1/2010 7:16:27 PM >

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 7:45:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		cajingirl, I would answer you but you did not fill out your application in triplicate when you applied to make your post.  I therefore decline to bestow my munificent presence upon you.

Sucks, huh?


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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 8:14:47 PM   
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quote:

I think female dominants might have more reason to ask for applications, than do their male counterparts.


I disagree. There is no reason for having people "apply" to be your partner. You can have a discussion with them. I would expect any quality submissive man to tell me to take a flying leap if I asked them to apply. That just isn't the way people build personal relationships.

In the cases that AQS detailed, he was talking about applying for a position as a demo partner or for a production of sorts. That is different.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/1/2010 9:45:19 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		I've always been of the opinion that if we're not compatible as people first, we most likely won't be compatible as kink partners. Might just be me, but I'm not dying to get naked and freaky with people I don't like in general. I wouldn't apply for a job I didn't really want, and I won't "apply" to a Dom I don't like as a person first.

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RE: Curious about applications - 4/2/2010 12:21:02 AM   
cajingrl


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Status: offline 		yeh DS it does suck......guess i'll have to remember to fill out the required paperwork before i request to speak with a dom from now on....

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