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So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/2/2010 8:29:53 AM

OrpheusAgonistes

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I'm really enjoying getting to know people here, and there is no better way to get to know people than to find out what they think their own greatest strengths are.

So what are Your greatest strengths as Dommes? Your ability to establish set and setting? Your knack for commanding a scene with just a quiet voice and a look that speaks volumes? Your sense of humour? Strong wrists? Being able to get inside the sub/bottom's head?

The people who post here tend to be very good at what they do. I'm really just totally fascinated to learn what makes them so good, by their own estimations.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/2/2010 9:06:14 AM

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This is going to sound borderline egotistical.

I am a very well versed high protocol leather Dominant. I've been the person in authority in the power imbalance dynamic that has become part of My little poly family for a few years now. In addition to this, I'm a sadistic top who is skilled in a good number of types of play. Some of which I've even conducted demonstrations on in all kinds of settings. Everything from small groups to clubs in major cities. At the same time, I am always in pursuit of being a better top. My education about BDSM is never complete. I am always adventurous in exploring new things, going new places, and meeting new people. Thankfully, My collared slave is a great match for Me in these areas.

Socially, I'm an extrovert. I've actually found this to be an asset over the years. I have a friendly disposition that makes folks feel welcome around Me. (Probably one of the reasons that I've done so well in acquiring skills.) People feel very comfortable approaching Me and find that I'm easy to get to know. If a person is someone in My life that I care about, I'm very protective of them. I've probably got a bigger soft spot than most people think.

On a personal note, I'm honest to a fault. When people interact with Me, they know they are going to get the truth. It may not be sugar coated and it may not be what they want to hear, but they are going to get My honest assessment about anything they want My opinion on.

Pleased to meet you.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/2/2010 9:49:09 AM

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My humility. It's my most amazing quality!

On a more serious note, I'm probably the opposite of Lady P: I'm very informal, relaxed, with a calm assurance that let's people relax around me. I'm smart and I learn quickly, I'm always open to learning new things and meeting new people.

The downside of this is that my schedule fills up quickly, so I can get overcommitted quickly if I'm ntot careful.

To the OP: what about you?

To Lady P: it's not egotistical to state truth!

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/2/2010 10:08:13 AM

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A whole thread devoted to tooting our own horns... I think I like it!

Personally, I think some of my best qualities as a Dominant are my compassion and empathy. Caring about, knowing, and understanding what my sub may feel when I do or say certain things. It helps me to notice some of the subtler signals that someone who hasn't been in a similar place might not be aware of. I am considerate of the needs and desires of others. (In some cases, that last may be a fault!)

My inclination to research the heck out of a thing before attempting it doesn't hurt, either. By the time I'm trying something on my chosen victim, I've read all the tips, tricks, advice, and experiences I can get my hands on. I've probably talked to at least two different people about what I am interested in trying. The riskier the activity, the more I want to know ahead of time. If something were to go wrong, I probably already know what I'm going to do about it.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/2/2010 8:52:11 PM

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my best qualities? um well i consider myself to be a talented artist. i've been told that i'm soft spoken and very kind and friendly, so i believe that to be truth. i have a very high pain tolerance and am very open about trying new things. i am also really honest and i stand up for what i believe in and i'll defend anyone i care about as well =]

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/3/2010 10:09:35 PM

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mine is i enjoy helping being helpfull sometimes to a fault but my Mistress helps me to keep it in line

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 3:54:47 AM

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I'm irreverant and I hate groups almost as much as I hate sheep. Though lambchops are delicious and I'm fond of rack of lamb. My bestestestest quality is that I enjoy My own company. Which saves Me on many occasions from having to listen to people rattle on incessantly. What are your best qualities?

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 8:10:35 AM

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strong body
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great lover

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yeah really. basically, TOOT TOOT

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 11:15:32 AM

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quote:

So what are Your greatest strengths as Dommes?

Leadership comes naturally to me. I never have to force it or play it. I'm aware of how my dominance manifests itself. I just have to be me.

Also, I have a huge heart, a lot of empathy and am very fair and when I am in a relationship, I deeply care for my submissive male partner and accept him for who he is. I also know how to get him to shine.

As for techniques, I know how to get into someone's mind and I'm a relentless wicked tease. ;-)

- LA

< Message edited by LadyAngelika -- 4/4/2010 11:16:00 AM >

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 11:18:39 AM

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I saw this thread and moved away, not sure I wanted to go there. I realized why this morning. I can say what my strengths are and what makes me good at one thing or another, but I cannot just talk about them without the counter balance. The good or the bad without the other seems out of balance to me and not so realistic. I need realistic.

In all I think I am a great person even with my flaws. lol I am honest, forthright, reasonable (most the time), patient, can get into someone's head/heart/emotional make up, a great encourager of those not stuck in discouragement, patient, kind, funny and kind of kinky leaning more to sensual rather than sadistic. These things are my strong points and they are the stronghold in my life and are most often where I am.

However... lol... I can also be demanding, angry and too talkative! When something or someone doesn't reason out or they confuse me and I see things going to bad places, I can be stubborn and put a hold on things so that I can evaluate them. If challenged or pushed before I have a hold on the situation, I can become angry and that is not pretty when I feel my patience has been abused and it is time to let someone have it with all I have. When someone is stuck in an emotional place, looking to use me or directs me from an insincere place or simply communicates in a way I see as faulty... you would think I was a friggin monster! I say it like I see it and tough shit for the one playing games! He will never forget my anger and the lashing he gets. If I am in serious pain and things drag on and on... I am not so wonderful, but I am typically correct in my assessment of the situation.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 12:21:08 PM

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I am good at reading people. I have a high level of empathy. Both are really helpful in my friendships, my career and in the art of seduction.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 2:21:17 PM

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i was going to answer this thread, but i'm not a Domme and i don't serve a Domme, so i shied away.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 2:37:49 PM

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I don't think I'm the greatest dom. Far from it. I have a lot to learn.

I just fit well with my boy, that's all.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/4/2010 3:55:56 PM

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A couple of people asked what my own greatest strength is, which made me realize how difficult this question is to answer, in part because it's a difficult question to start with and in part because I somehow managed to make a regular pig's breakfast out of the way I phrased it.

I'm good at knowing who I click with and who I don't. This is a surprisingly rare skill. A long time ago, I learned that there is a difference between liking someone and clicking with them for play. It's possible, in fact common, for someone to be attractive, smart, funny, nice, and an all around swell person and still not be well suited as a partner. Kink is no different from vanilla in that regard--sometimes there's chemistry and sometimes someone is "just a friend" even though they're superficially almost ideal for me. I'm picky to a fault and I expect other people to be picky too. Once you have people who click, everything else tends to be much easier.

I'm also good at helping people draw out dark instincts and impulses they may not have realized they had. At least that's what a girlfriend once told me. What she said exactly was "You're such a smug, smirking jackass I want to kick you in the nuts sometimes" but I'm pretty sure that's the same thing.

But I mean, I tend to be intuitive about the direction someone wants to take things and because I tend to reserve judgment, forgive quickly, and crave inventive and wicked torments, I think partners find it easier to explore highly sadistic impulses.

There's this dynamic where some kinds of sadist (the kind I like best) want someone to really suffer, want someone to genuinely want out of a predicament, and want to have the option to keep it going despite genuine pleas and desires to the contrary. That's naturally how I'm wired--I gravitate toward the point of no return, where someone can put me into a state of helpless suffering. While I'm suffering, I'm really suffering and I really try to make it stop. When it's over, it's only in retrospect that I enjoy reliving the spectacle. While it's going on, the arousal and anguish are both absolutely genuine and so is the desire to escape.

This is an undeniably weird dynamic. Many, most, people find it confusing, enervating, and off-putting. But the people who enjoy it really enjoy it, and those are the kinds of people for whom I'm a good partner.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/14/2010 6:59:44 PM

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The OP said:
I'm also good at helping people draw out dark instincts and impulses they may not have realized they had. At least that's what a girlfriend once told me. What she said exactly was "You're such a smug, smirking jackass I want to kick you in the nuts sometimes" but I'm pretty sure that's the same thing.
Oh gosh I loved that, gave Me a much-needed laugh, thank you!

As to My best qualities, I am kind, thoughtful, willing to hear the other's side before making decisions. I encourage and value full disclosure from My sub. I have a lot of life experience and I love to use that to help others grow in their lives. I am intelligent and talented at a number of pursuits (music, crafts etc) so I am rarely, if ever, bored. I believe I am strict enough (and consistent) but not "too strict" (as in unreasonable). I am ethically driven and will not demand others contravene their ethics for Me. As a Domme, I believe one of My major assets is that i am also sub/slave to Master. I know what it is to submit, I know how hard it can be at times ... I lead by example as well as by instruction. Still looking for the sub who will appreciate these qualities though!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/14/2010 7:53:31 PM

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Well, I'm not a domme, but as a dom, I'd say that my greatest strength is that I love the bejeebers out of her and am able to make that statement be more than pretty words.

It helps a lot that I'm pretty good at leadership in general too.

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/15/2010 12:11:51 AM

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Indeed, one of the hardest questions to truely answer well at. In our culture, we try to create an 'executive summary' of the person we are. We feel that to go indepth would be to show negative aspects of ourselves. Keeping things short and to the point, is the best policy some would say. A list of no more then the number of fingers and toes a person has at the moment. For truely, can any one of us truthfully appreciate the best qualities another has, having not lived along side them, of every hour and day? Some of our best qualities are things we over look in our daily lives, but, without them, we'd feel a part of our person was 'done away with'.

And yet, some of our best qualities, were once, or still are, our worst handicaps. Every person over comes life's hurdles in surprising ways. Some jump over, walk around, dig under, and yes, even teleport pass the obstacles in life. Books are written on these people.

The ones who have already written, it would be fair to say, there's much more about them, then the mere words you've just read.

I wont try to answer this question myself. Talk to those around me, that know me. Listen to their words. I think you'll smile, cry, cheer, laugh, nod, and even wonder. There is more to me then words. Just as there're more about you, the reader, then words.

(Yes, it sounds alittle corny or so. I'm actually sleepy, so pardon my bad spelling/grammer)

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RE: So, what are Your best qualities? - 4/15/2010 3:44:11 AM

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My big fat heart. But that's really difficult to photograph.

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