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RE: Is there a protocol for initiating a relationship? - 4/4/2010 8:48:56 AM

UniqueRaven

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

What you folks seem to miss is that what we want is frequently relationship specific. I can't even remember how many slaves said they never wanted a m/s relationship until they met their master. How many people do you know who weren't looking to get married until they met Mr or Ms Right?

So if someone is presently happy and therefore isn't looking specifically to change, you will rule him or her out based on now. Which precludes any chance that the relationship will be so wonderful they become open to change.

In effect, if they're miserable where they live, then they'll be looking to move in with someone. But that's not the someone you should be looking for.

i understand that there are many M/s relationships that begin with one or both parties not sure until they meet "the right person."

However there are many who know what they seek, and are ready for it - and not because they're just "miserable where they live." i, for example, am very happy and in no huge rush to run into something - as evidenced by the time i've been on the boards, and on the site - it isn't because i haven't had offers. i'm seeking the right situation, and i would not consider a potential Owner who was just "figuring out what he wanted." At this stage i need someone who has taken the time and mental effort to create the framework in his mind for the slave that he is seeking - and he's seeking the same (and he's not miserable or desperate either, btw - none of the potential Owners i speak with are). And there are many "out there" like that.

Honestly it's just two different styles of seeking (getting to know someone vs. seeking someone specific). Like seeks like. Neither is better, or worse, than the other - it's just right for the two involved. There is nothing wrong with being clear up front about what someone is seeking, if that is their identified need, and they're not interested in "feeling it out" with someone who hasn't identified that as a need of their own yet.

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