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saltygoodness27 -> RE: Why is getting a good BDSM relationship harder than a Vanilla one? (4/4/2006 10:42:06 AM)

You've got some very specific things you're looking for.  You seem to want a size 0 bi girl who will be into the EXACT same things you are.  Hate to tell you this, but I can promise that the few women that fit that profile are taken.
It's cool that you've got standards, but they're rather high, and unless you're willing to compromise them, you're going to have a long wait. 
You've got to decide.  Do you want to stick to your guns and wait for the girl of your dreams?  Or find someone who fits most, but maybe not all, of your standards.  If you decide to go with the first option, though, kindly refrain from complaining about how hard it is to find her, since you're the only one who can set your standards as high as you have.



meatcleaver -> RE: Why is getting a good BDSM relationship harder than a Vanilla one? (4/4/2006 10:52:38 AM)

I travel regularly to Europe and there is a hell of a lot going on there. Hell women seem to walk down main street dressed in kink gear. You say you come from the UK, well there is a thriving scene in London, I was taken round by a friend and there are several clubs, munches, fairs and dungeons. As for meeting someone, I don't know, I was already with someone who I have to admit, I met in the normal run of life and not at any event.



thetammyjo -> RE: Why is getting a good BDSM relationship harder than a Vanilla one? (4/4/2006 11:23:30 AM)

Simple answers: the more specific things you are interested in, the narrow your field of potentials.

Just looking for BDSM is narrower than looking for vanilla.

Now within that narrowed field you still have to find partner(s) who match on a wide range of levels. Again, each preference you have will determine the potential range of partner(s).

Pretending not to have preferences isn't going to help really either because then you just get dragged through more test cases to find a match(es).



MistressSassy66 -> RE: Why is getting a good BDSM relationship harder than a Vanilla one? (4/4/2006 11:42:21 AM)

IMO...finding a mate for life is difficult whether its Vanilla or BDSM oriented.

Both take time and commitment to make it work.

Sure you can find a plenty of "fu&kbuddies" but to find someone more than that takes time.



cutiethebomb -> RE: Why is getting a good BDSM relationship harder than a Vanilla one? (4/4/2006 6:42:24 PM)

LoL!!!!



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