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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/11/2010 3:21:45 PM

VaguelyCurious

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I can well imagine having a 24/7 dishes-doing sub

Not me. Because then he'd want to talk.

Oh, maybe that's what gag balls are made for. Anyone have any statistics on damage caused by having a gag ball in place for 4 months? I mean I know I could feed him intravenously...

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In my last electronics lab we set up a little doodad that connected the output from a microphone with a sensor.

Wouldn't take much to whack in a signal amplifier and replace the sensor with some electropads like you get on an ECG machine.

Use a headset microphone, and it's up to you where you put the pads (...), but then it would be on *him* to stay quiet and not get electrified, and you could leave it on him while he ate.

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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/11/2010 3:33:43 PM

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I'm looking for a live-in slave. However, a 4 month stint wouldn't be sufficient. It would be sufficient to get to know you and possibly decide if I wish to keep you on for another 4 months, but, 4 months and it ends...no thank you.

Not only that, but as others have said, you would be required to have a job, have hobbies (because I'm not going to focus on you 24/7 - I DO have a boyfriend who lives with me also), and you would be required to have exceptional social skills.

So while it may be possible, it may even be safe with certain people, it has the potential to go horribly wrong. If you hop off with a random stranger, for a 4 month stint without knowing their morals, their code of conduct, you could end up dead before the 4 months are over. Yep, dead.

If you really want to explore being a live-in slave, you need to be very realistic if you want it to go well. First, much of the time will seem very vanilla, as in there are chores that need to be done and as a slave guess who gets to do the majority share? Additionally, while you claim no limits other than a few, you'd be surprised how many limits you actually have - get in touch with your inner self and not just your cock - be honest about what you are capable of enduring and that which you are not. Understand that many women do not want a complete stranger in their home, they actually - gasp- want to get to know you first so they can trust you as well.

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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/11/2010 3:41:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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I can well imagine having a 24/7 dishes-doing sub

Not me. Because then he'd want to talk.

Oh, maybe that's what gag balls are made for. Anyone have any statistics on damage caused by having a gag ball in place for 4 months? I mean I know I could feed him intravenously...

- LA

In my last electronics lab we set up a little doodad that connected the output from a microphone with a sensor.

Wouldn't take much to whack in a signal amplifier and replace the sensor with some electropads like you get on an ECG machine.

Use a headset microphone, and it's up to you where you put the pads (...), but then it would be on *him* to stay quiet and not get electrified, and you could leave it on him while he ate.

I love your wicked mind, woman!

- LA

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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/11/2010 3:44:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
In my last electronics lab we set up a little doodad that connected the output from a microphone with a sensor.

Wouldn't take much to whack in a signal amplifier and replace the sensor with some electropads like you get on an ECG machine.

Very ingenious. I once helped vend for extremerestraints.com at a convention and I have vague recollection of an adapter with a ten's unit that allowed a similar purpose.

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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/11/2010 3:55:31 PM

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OP, I would wager that any woman here would have you cleaning, doing dishes, and sweeping 90+% of the time. D/s does not only exist in the bedroom. And the dishes DO always need to be done.

Aaah yes. A domestic slave's dream.......

(Sorry, i was just fantasizing)

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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/11/2010 4:01:31 PM

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Yep, when I was looking, someone who wanted to put a time limit on things would have been automatically rejected. Some people use 24/7 only for people who stay at home, others only when they live together, and others when there is no option to "step out of role." With some partners, such a thing wouldn't be extreme at all, with others, you'd probably be completely miserable. Focusing on a good match in boundaries/expectations/requirements is far more important than whether or not you use a "safeword." My Master and I didn't get into a big list of "limits," and neither did my former submissive or my previous Dominant. My "limits" if you will are more based on degree rather than what specific toy or technique is being used, and my pain tolerance depends on things like how warmed up I am, rather than being a static checklist. The guideline I gave him was that I didn't want any deliberate permanent damage/marks without discussing and agreeing to them first, or anything that would cause a problem with my work. Of course, he could hurt me in ways that I don't like, or I love hating, or beyond what I could handle, but that is so dependent on the circumstances that I think it would be useless to try to list all of the possibilities. I just picked someone who I felt was trustworthy and cares about me. When I was with my submissive in the past, I think we had even less initial discussion of limits - we started out slowly, built from there, and addressed any issues that came up.

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RE: Is this safe? (extreme fantasy) - 4/13/2010 5:17:27 PM

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I can well imagine having a 24/7 dishes-doing sub

Not me. Because then he'd want to talk.

Oh, maybe that's what gag balls are made for. Anyone have any statistics on damage caused by having a gag ball in place for 4 months? I mean I know I could feed him intravenously...

- LA

o-ring gag plus a blender and one of those bowls with the easy pour notch, maybe a funnel. Would probably be easier/cheaper/possibly even safer than feeding him through an IV. Plus I suspect it would probably be faster and let him go back to cleaning/gardening/maintenance/etc that much faster, less time wasted that way.

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