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Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 5:54:17 PM

chicagoswitch

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While I was bored last night, I decided to perv the profiles of submissive men in my area. I noticed something interesting. At least half of the die hard submissive men also have profiles as Dominants. Granted, they have a different name, but the pictures are the same. Isn’t it hard enough to find someone compatible? Shouldn’t we be honest about our personal tastes? If you are a switch, list as one, it isn’t so bad…..trust me. Or, are these desperate men simply trying to throw out a big net hoping to catch anyone who is anatomically correct and doesn’t bother to peruse the various profiles?Personally, I was irritated for about a minute and don’t think the lot of them are worth that much time. What do you think?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 6:03:01 PM

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My theory on this, I've noticed it too, is that they are actually submissive men, not switches, who haven't been able to find dominant women.
They then put out dominant profiles and hope to get a submissive woman that they can then order to dominate them...

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 6:13:20 PM

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Yep, this has happened to me on more than a few occasions in the last 2 1/2 years on this site. I actually don't even think these men are submissive. This is about sex for most of them - which is perfectly fine - and they don't understand the difference between D/s as a lifestyle and bdsm as kink. The topic has been discussed ad nauseum on these forums in the past, so I won't. But there's my 2 cents....

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:08:42 PM

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I think they equate D/s with kinky sex and think that they get double the chances that way.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:11:30 PM

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I think there is alot of truth to that as well.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:15:53 PM

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Just because my other profile is strapsuckingsub should not detour some submissive woman from blowing me.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:20:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Just because my other profile is strapsuckingsub should not detour some submissive woman from blowing me.

And just because my other profile says anydongwilldo doesn't mean I want yours.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:21:39 PM

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Uh huh-anything to get laid-shows oodles of integrity when they do that.

The specific word "horndog" comes most immediately to mind. It's not wonder so many of the women on here have a sour attitude.

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ORIGINAL: chicagoswitch

While I was bored last night, I decided to perv the profiles of submissive men in my area. I noticed something interesting. At least half of the die hard submissive men also have profiles as Dominants. Granted, they have a different name, but the pictures are the same. Isn’t it hard enough to find someone compatible? Shouldn’t we be honest about our personal tastes? If you are a switch, list as one, it isn’t so bad…..trust me. Or, are these desperate men simply trying to throw out a big net hoping to catch anyone who is anatomically correct and doesn’t bother to peruse the various profiles?Personally, I was irritated for about a minute and don’t think the lot of them are worth that much time. What do you think?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:22:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

Uh huh-anything to get laid-shows oodles of integrity when they do that.

The specific word "horndog" comes most immediately to mind. It's not wonder so many of the women on here have a sour attitude.

Could be because they might be cunts.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:25:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

quote:

ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

Uh huh-anything to get laid-shows oodles of integrity when they do that.

The specific word "horndog" comes most immediately to mind. It's not wonder so many of the women on here have a sour attitude.

Could be because they might be cunts.

Are you bitter?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:29:58 PM

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I would say he is no more than 50 IBU's

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:40:01 PM

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There's also the undeniable fact that admitting they're switches lessens their chance of finding a submissive female. Because the majority of us are monogamous, so we aren't going to get into a situation where the guy will have other parties.

But I'm not sure if they are truly submissives. I think they're bottoms and can't find a service top. And lets be real, writing to some chicky and saying you want to be in charge, but by the way she isn't getting any fun out of it, he's going to get all of that as well as all of the power, isn't likely to garner him a fan club.

Because in exchange for me doing all I do, damn it I want to be the one who gets tied up. If he was getting all of that and having everything catered to his tastes, then what do I get that makes it worth it? What about my needs?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 7:51:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Just because my other profile is strapsuckingsub should not detour some submissive woman from blowing me.

But Domi.....I was on my knees and ready until you ran screaming that you were not worthy.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 8:37:43 PM

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I think there are just a lot of guys here that think because we are "kinky" the women will have sex with them. They don't realize we can see them a mile away. I guess when the local bar and craigslist fails they come here?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/12/2010 9:15:16 PM

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quote:

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I think there are just a lot of guys here that think because we are "kinky" the women will have sex with them. They don't realize we can see them a mile away. I guess when the local bar and craigslist fails they come here?

I agree, and I believe that many men just want to have fun "activities" and kink, and many don't give a crap what they "call themselves".

"Lord/Dominant of the universe" one day, and the next day "submissive/slave worm boy".

For many men, it is the "activities" they are after.

Dominant, submissive, switch, slave, whatever.......for a fair amount of men and women/the question is: "What do you want to do with me?"
....see jefffffs thread on the person or the activity.

Maybe, for the men in question, it is the "activity" they are after, and maybe they want BOTH/ Dominant and submissive, activities.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/13/2010 7:29:14 AM

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Who is it that has that tag.... something like....

what's it like to be on a site where hundreds of women proudly proclaim to be a slut, and you still can't get laid?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/13/2010 8:42:10 AM

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If they are as careless with thier cocks, as they are with their profiles ....

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/14/2010 9:08:20 PM

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I want to be there when some of these people who see this all as just sex and think that they can handle or try anything get way more than what they bargained for and are mentally devoured.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/15/2010 12:43:46 AM

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fast reply:

These are vanilla men, or men who want to get some kinky sex. Common, horny guys who think they can get easy, kinky sex here.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/15/2010 5:14:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chicagoswitch

While I was bored last night, I decided to perv the profiles of submissive men in my area. I noticed something interesting. At least half of the die hard submissive men also have profiles as Dominants. Granted, they have a different name, but the pictures are the same. Isn’t it hard enough to find someone compatible? Shouldn’t we be honest about our personal tastes? If you are a switch, list as one, it isn’t so bad…..trust me. Or, are these desperate men simply trying to throw out a big net hoping to catch anyone who is anatomically correct and doesn’t bother to peruse the various profiles?Personally, I was irritated for about a minute and don’t think the lot of them are worth that much time. What do you think?

I think it's pathetic myself. Sounds like a desperate attempt to grasp at whatever comes their way. These people are certainly not being true to anyone including themselves. Can't be a die-hard submissive and have a dominant profile as well and expect that they are being sincere in any case. Pitiful isn't it?

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