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Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 2:44:23 PM

jmo1990

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Was anyone here nervous about meeting their Mistress or Master the first time in real life? if so what did you do to make yourself not nervous?

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 2:45:39 PM

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Nothing, nerves are good. Behave and you will do splendidly.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 2:50:29 PM

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Even as a Dom... TBH I get slightly nervous meeting a sub for the first time. Will we click? Will it be smooth? Iv been lucky... so far online exchanges have progressed to the real world fairly well and theres been no disasters.

A good Dom will not give you time to feel nervous :) I've always given a sub something to think about and focus on fairly soon after meeting ;)

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:13:08 PM

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I got so nervous that I almost didn't go. I decided that he had gone to all this trouble of emails, and phone conversations, that I'd better show up. I walked past him twice. I was really nervous.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:16:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: HisSub1213 I decided that he had gone to all this trouble of emails, and phone conversations, that I'd better show up.

Is the correct answer :p If you hadn't gone.. and somehow persuaded Him to give you a second chance, it would be punishment-on-sight for wasting His time ;)

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:24:22 PM

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Newcastle Brown Ale.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:26:39 PM

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Made her blow me...Cut the tension and kind of took the edge off.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:27:01 PM

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Wow :p Drinking that will DEFFO take your mind off any other worries in your life :p Instead of worrying about a meet, you'll be utterly focussed on getting as far away from your mouth as possible :p

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:30:15 PM

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Being nervous can actually be fun...

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 3:47:41 PM

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I was extremely nervous. He was able to calm me down by pissing on me.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 4:31:43 PM

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I never met someone for the first time who I thought of as my Master. He was simply just another guy I was meeting and getting to know to see if there was any kind of connection for a relationship. So no I was never nervous meeting him the first time.

Now AFTER I sat down for tea with him...yeah I got nervous when I realized just how hot he is.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 4:41:59 PM

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Actually I like her being a little nervous. Shows that she is interested and has high hopes.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 5:12:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomBCGlasgow

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ORIGINAL: HisSub1213 I decided that he had gone to all this trouble of emails, and phone conversations, that I'd better show up.

Is the correct answer :p If you hadn't gone.. and somehow persuaded Him to give you a second chance, it would be punishment-on-sight for wasting His time ;)

No no no noo noono no no no

Why should a woman submit for PUNISHMENT if she is meeting for the first time even if she chickened out the first time?

Don't do it !

Submit for punishments when you are "taken" or owned.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 5:16:33 PM

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Actually I like her being a little nervous. Shows that she is interested and has high hopes.

or more realistically she has met a pile of losers off this fucking thing and is sure that she is about to be disappointed yet again.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 5:27:35 PM

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Do you consider yourself a loser domiguy?

I do agree that there are a lot of folks here on either side of the slash that aren't really what they present themselves to be, but how would you know that if you never meet. She may well miss a prince while kissing a lot of frogs.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 5:47:44 PM

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Me a loser? Sure, why not? I meet people and they often say that they have had some rather monumental disasters that have transpired off of this thang....my post had nothing to do with you Sir Russ. Probably came off poorly which was not my intention.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 6:40:12 PM

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oddly enough had my first encounter right before easter and wasn't nervous in the slightest even though I really should've been considering the circumstances.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 6:40:33 PM

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Terrified. But I didn't do anything but show up and be myself. Thankfully he liked the fact that I wasn't blase and ho-hum, that my nervousness showed how important this was to me.

He wasn't my dominant then of course. Because we hadn't met. We had developed a strong friendship but we didn't know if it would survive the meet.

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 11:31:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: DomBCGlasgow

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ORIGINAL: HisSub1213 I decided that he had gone to all this trouble of emails, and phone conversations, that I'd better show up.

Is the correct answer :p If you hadn't gone.. and somehow persuaded Him to give you a second chance, it would be punishment-on-sight for wasting His time ;)

No no no noo noono no no no

Why should a woman submit for PUNISHMENT if she is meeting for the first time even if she chickened out the first time?

Don't do it !

Submit for punishments when you are "taken" or owned.

I disagree :) If it was a D/s meeting, then the basic rules are in place. Wasting a Doms time by standing Him up and humiliating HIM should be punished.

Unless its a meeting of switches... in that case it would be mildly amusing :D

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RE: Nervous about meeting - 4/13/2010 11:36:50 PM

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I am never nervous meeting a sub/slave. If I've convinced her to meet me...sucker...then she already likes me, or is at least intrigued. (Gimme an edge, any edge. I will exploit it, utilize it, manipulate it, turn it to my advantage-yum. I adore the mental aspects of BDSM...Muuuaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh)
That little tidbit removes any worries and lets me just be me, as if I could be anyone else anyhow.

That mental foundation set firmly in stone, I approach a meeting with the crazy idea that it's her place to impress me. I mean fuck, she's a slave, I'm a dominant. Who should be impressing who?

And ya know what? Shock o'shocks, slaves and submissive's often find that attitude hot as hell.

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