LookieNoNookie -> RE: Have the boards changed you? (4/14/2010 8:08:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Hello everyone, As often happens, another thread has me wondering and thinking. Having been on these threads for about 3 years now (the first little bit under a different name), I've noticed certain things have changed about me in real life. In the past I often would not argue until it got to the point where I felt like I was a cornered animal - and then I was pretty angry and desperate. I also was scared of rejection. I often thought things like "why would anyone want to talk to ME? I'm just not good enough." I notice now that I don't do those things - not as much anyway. Here are some things that I've noticed have changed about me: I have become much more open about the negative aspects of my life and personality. I flirt for the joy of flirting without any expectations. I'm more willing to disagree with someone without fear. I still generally maintain a fairly neutal manner and don't attack people. I used to empathize with the "poor me" types. Now I call foul on them. And ooo does it irritate people! I've become a lot more curious and a lot less defensive when disagreeing with people. I'm more realistic about how things can come back and bite me in the ass and prepare myself and protect myself when possible. I tease people a lot more. I ask for what I want, knowing that I have every right to ask. I don't think the boards are the be all and end all of why this has happened. I had to be ready to make the changes, I had to be in a safe place to make them. I had to choose to make them. But I do believe that to some degree the culture we are in (in this case the internet boards) has an impact on how we experience our worlds and our inner lives. So the question to you Has being on the boards changed or refined some part of your personality? Has it made a real difference in how you interact in the world around you (not just the boards)? How? Is it a change you see for the better? Can you give an example of something that has changed? Are there things you've seen changes in other people that inspired or impressed you? Best, sunshine Okay...had you asked a very simple question...I could have dealt with that but....this is far too complex!
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