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Threefingers -> Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 3:48:39 AM)

I am a Master that have tried my hand at this. Its a slow and torturous process for a sub that is tormented through pleasure to reach heights un thought of. I have "developed" a few techniques but was hoping there might be some subs that could add from their experience about techniques preferred to experience "satisfying torment" outside of pain.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 3:51:13 AM)

I got a massage once.... ohhh heaven...



myotherself -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 3:51:38 AM)

Having my credit cards taken from me on sale day, then having them returned an hour before the stores close.

Ah, such pain, such sweet torment! [8|]



CarrieO -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 4:07:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I got a massage once.... ohhh heaven...


Mmmmmm.....I'm planning on being tortured, shiatsu style, for 90 minutes later today.  A very "satisfying torment" that I'll force myself to receive. [;)]



sunshinemiss -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 4:09:07 AM)

I'm feeling for you girl.



DarkSteven -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 5:34:14 AM)

OP, your title is misleading.  Punishment is something undesirable, to reinforce the idea that a submissive should NOT repeat certain behaviors.

I believe that you are taking about stimulating a submissive but refusing to allow him/her to orgasm?



GraciousLady -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 5:44:49 AM)

We have replaced Mr Threefingers regular internet porn with reallity. Lets see what happens shall we..................



DesFIP -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 10:27:03 AM)

Being punished through pleasure? Oh yeah, punish me. Make me eat that dark chocolate.



atractivenuisane -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 11:43:46 AM)

Am I the only one worried by the quotes? "Developed"? "Satisfying torments"? Maybe the women he described these torments to responded with air quotes?



peppermint -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 12:37:15 PM)

The one time he punished me he took my books away for 4 days.  It was agony although was not painful physically. 

Punishment and pleasure should never be done at same time.  A punishment is just that and it is NOT supposed to feel good. 

Funishments are entirely different and are done for the fun of them.  Perhaps that is what you are talking about. 



littleone35 -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 1:28:45 PM)

If a punishment feels good that is kind of defeats the purpose. You want to stop her from repating the action the led to her punishnment. If she enjoys it she is gong to be repeating the action because when she did it and was punished it felt good. When i was punished trust me i did not repeat the action that caused it. Punishment hurts it is suposed to.

Matt's littleone



windchymes -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 1:39:32 PM)

Clamping her to the wall with a Sybian jammed up between her legs and then leaving the room for half an hour oughta do it.



DarkSteven -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/16/2010 4:50:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Clamping her to the wall with a Sybian jammed up between her legs and then leaving the room for half an hour oughta do it.


If she gets turned on enough, she might be in danger of drowning then...



Threefingers -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 1:58:11 AM)

I regard a woman whom is screaming and begging not to be forced to cum again as someone also receiving a punishment. Denying orgasm could be punishment especially when allowed to "edge" multiple times before not granting the orgasm.

The old spank me baby thing seems to work for Graciouslady.... seeing that we have such brilliance in our midst why not try your hand at something out the box for a change?



lally2 -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 4:05:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Threefingers

I regard a woman whom is screaming and begging not to be forced to cum again as someone also receiving a punishment. Denying orgasm could be punishment especially when allowed to "edge" multiple times before not granting the orgasm.

The old spank me baby thing seems to work for Graciouslady.... seeing that we have such brilliance in our midst why not try your hand at something out the box for a change?


i would stop being a willing participant after a while to be honest.  id just shut down the bit that tells me i want to cum and id spare myself the wind up.  subs have brains you know.

if its for fun play purposes and my D is controlling my orgasms so we can have a great big one later then im up for that all the way.  but the psychology of punishment means anyway that the sub is going to be feeling bad that its punishment, confused because she's supposed to be enjoying herself up to a point and defeated because she knows that there will be no orgasm even if she can bypass the negative crappyness of going through some strange kink-fest punishment thang.

i think im just having a bit of a problem accepting that the psychology of denied orgasm can be worked multiply over a time - i think its suggesting to me that you have this sub thats all nerve endings, response, reaction and helpless sexual heat but doesnt have the capacity to think for herself and realise that she's being punished might be a bit confused and being wound up for orgasm (again and again) starts to get futile.

alot of sex for women is in the brain dont forget. 



Threefingers -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 4:12:20 AM)

@lally2

Each to his own



CarrieO -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 4:28:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Threefingers

I regard a woman whom is screaming and begging not to be forced to cum again as someone also receiving a punishment. Denying orgasm could be punishment especially when allowed to "edge" multiple times before not granting the orgasm.


Punishment is generally used to teach an individual not to do a certain action again.  To force a woman to "edge" many times before finally telling her all the effort was for naught will teach her what?  That pleasure is not something she can associated with feeling good, cared for and safe?  To deny a person pleasure will eventually teach them to stuff those feelings down in order to not experience the inevitable denial of completion yet again.
You teach a person to go numb or be resentful...all in my opinion, of course.

In your original question...

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I am a Master that have tried my hand at this. Its a slow and torturous process for a sub that is tormented through pleasure to reach heights un thought of. I have "developed" a few techniques but was hoping there might be some subs that could add from their experience about techniques preferred to experience "satisfying torment" outside of pain.


...what you seem to be asking for are "funishment" ideas.  Ideas for a person who wants to tease and play with their partner.  Punishment, in my opinion and experience, is not something you should have to do often with a submissive partner.
Perhaps you need to clarify what your purpose is for this punishment you mention.

edited for clarification....



lally2 -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 4:33:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Threefingers

@lally2

Each to his own


absolutely, i agree - im just trying to figure out how that would work and for me i know it wouldnt, but im sure theres someone for whom it would.

but just to say.  i used to be with a guy some years back who used to use orgasm denial as a form of control.  he never explained this to me, he'd get me close and pull out and that would be that.  as an exercise it was pointless because i was left with high sexual tension and the strong impulse to poke his eyes out, without a clue what it was he was trying to achieve by doing it.

all it did for me was make me worse to be honest



loverly -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 4:42:38 AM)

And here i thought that Most Dominants knew without a dout that if a girl was a puddle of satisfaction that the Dominant could then talk whatever He needed from her.. ie: i can go along way with a cane if i am left quivering from orgasims in the begining.. the after effects are so much more intense...i have begged for the flogger or singletail at the point where i cannot even think of having another "O" lol.. or whatever other pleasure He wishes at that point! how can i not???

and i agree.. i would think that with ADULTS.. punishment might be far and few between..We ARE grown and can be reasoned with and have things explained to us and follow thru .. and especially since we are consenting adults aiming toward the same goal of total happiness and FUN in our lives!
If we are there because we adore that person and want only OUR happiness... then why would i be bad and require punishment? ... NOT perfect by any means.. correction and patient suggestions on how to act or do something usually works with me.. i am pretty Quick! on the uptake! lol
and well.. grown.....



DarkSteven -> RE: Punishment through pleasure (4/19/2010 5:23:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Threefingers

The old spank me baby thing seems to work for Graciouslady.... seeing that we have such brilliance in our midst why not try your hand at something out the box for a change?


How sweet.  A newbie to the boards who writes confusing posts and then trash talks the regulars who try to figure it out.

Perhaps you could show some manners.  That would be undoubtedly be something out of the box for you. 



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