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Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart?

I'm very drawn to submissive men because I'm a Domme or Dom

10% (5)

I'm not drawn to submissive men in any way.

23% (11)

I am feeling neither here nor there.

6% (3)

I enjoy sub men for friends but would never be attracted to one

12% (6)

I'm a switch and at times am drawn to sub men

14% (7)

I think submissive men are yucky

12% (6)

submissive men are the Only thing that gets me Hott!

2% (1)

for reasons i will explain sub men & sub women are very different

17% (8)

Total Votes : 47

(last vote on : 4/27/2010 12:53:05 PM)
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Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/17/2010 8:49:24 PM

sweetboundesire

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Just curious how others feel on this. I feel i have nothing in common with sub men. I personally feel like we are worlds apart. While i feel attraction to Dominant men and women as well as attraction to switch and sub females. I feel no attraction to submissive men and find them a turn off. How do you feel? I'm especially curious how submissive females feel on this.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/17/2010 8:57:17 PM

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I'm a switch who leans heavily submissive, but never ever top the guys, I can't imagine such a thing. And I've never run across any one I had anything in commmon with, I don't know why. They may feel the same way about me though.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/17/2010 9:45:37 PM

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I don't have much experience at all, but from discussing this previously with 3 good female friends I have that are all submissive, we're very similar. Thing is though, we also have similar non-sexual interests as that's how we met, so I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it. Can't say I know any other male subs though, at least not that I know of.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/17/2010 10:23:17 PM

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This should be in the polls section. But as for the question I like them as good friends if they are really submissive but feel no attraction toward them. However I don't feel like many men who profess to be submissive are really sub, in the same way that women might be submissive. Those that are.. :) are wonderful men who make the best of friends.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/17/2010 10:27:37 PM

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There are VAST differences between the maledom and femdom camps, and they usually revolve around very sexist ideals.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/17/2010 10:27:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

This should be in the polls section. But as for the question I like them as good friends if they are really submissive but feel no attraction toward them. However I don't feel like many men who profess to be submissive are really sub, in the same way that women might be submissive. Those that are.. :) are wonderful men who make the best of friends.

That's probably because you manipulate them.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 3:27:20 AM

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Lol, as a straight male Dom, they're absolutely worlds apart to me. Galaxies even...!

Focus.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 4:13:14 AM

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Smart men are sexy; whatever their proclivities, they are sexy. I like sexy men.

Realistically, however, for more than a pleasant evening.... well, sorry guys. On a number of occasions on these boards (and in real life), I have been disappointed by the orientation of men here.... but I have the same problem with hot, sexy gay men.

Why doesn't the world revolve around me like it's sposed to?

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 4:43:50 AM

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Your poll selections don't match the question, they all concern male subs or switches. You may want to rephrase the question or redo the choices.

ETA The selections are also entirely to do with attraction to male subs and have nothing to do with the question; there are two subjects in this thread.

< Message edited by zephyroftheNorth -- 4/18/2010 4:46:42 AM >

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 5:37:46 AM

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There are a couple of sub males here who are incredibly smart or funny and I enjoy reading what they say very much. But that doesn't mean we would be compatible. I can just see it, neither of us able to decide where to go for dinner.

But I'm a straight sub female so of course I wouldn't be attracted to them as other than friends. Same goes for every other woman on the site or the gay males, many of whom I like very much but I'm not compatible with.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 5:40:35 AM

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I agree with zeph that your poll questions do not match the question.

That said, my answer is absolutely yes and absolutely no all at the same time. Regardless of gender, no one submissive is identical to another. That said, those who are truly submissive at heart and who are not simply fetishizing it, share many things in common, again, regardless of gender.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 6:24:25 AM

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Not to mention that the poll is highly offensive. Or op, don't you have any friends who you don't see in a sexual way? If not, must make family gatherings very weird.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 6:47:32 AM

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I´ve found that sub men, like sub women, come in all different types and personalities. Some are very in charge of their business and personal lives but like submitting to a woman. While I adore this type of male sub as a friend... they´re also the bane of my existence... because this is they type of man I wind up with time after time... We are mutually attracted to each others strength and confidence... then we both expect the other to be in charge....

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 7:40:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Not to mention that the poll is highly offensive. Or op, don't you have any friends who you don't see in a sexual way? If not, must make family gatherings very weird.

i want sincere answers. In hindsight, yes i did word things badly, perhaps changing the subject line or whatever. Of course I have non-sexual friends. Again, this is my bad in the wording, next time i wont put up a thread when i'm getting tired.

In real life things are different than on here for meeting folks. I've had a good number of submissive/slave men want to talk to me or chat. I finally blocked emails from sub men. The times i have talked with them before i've found we are so very vastly different. Seeing pictures of what a males slave is put through, and the way he talks. Overall, i base things i have discovered about submissive men, on this site where it correlates to bdsm and D/s relationships. I honestly just wonder how many others especially submissive women may feel this way. We all are here for the kink factor but to me sub men are a different animal than sub woman. All i am being is honest. I'm not saying sub men be damned just how i feel from my end.

< Message edited by sweetboundesire -- 4/18/2010 7:45:18 AM >

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 7:57:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetboundesire
Just curious how others feel on this. I feel i have nothing in common with sub men. I personally feel like we are worlds apart. While i feel attraction to Dominant men and women as well as attraction to switch and sub females. I feel no attraction to submissive men and find them a turn off. How do you feel? I'm especially curious how submissive females feel on this.

Sub men and sub women are very different.... as are sub women and sub women... and sub men and sub men. Seriously, people are very different. I prefer not to generalize people into categories and then judge the category rather than the individual. I am attracted to "good" people... one's who care about the people they interact with and generally leave them better off than before the interaction. Everything else is window dressing to me.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 8:06:25 AM

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Op.......

It's always better to drop stereotypes from the judging menu.

One ends up being an ass with this sort of viewpoint.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 8:16:31 AM

sweetboundesire

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smut,
good point. i knew this risked sounding totally stereotypical. On the forums i enjoy p.o.v.s from everyone. I've been getting personally contacted by sub men I've never had contact who seem to think we have similarities, well after a while i just got tired of it. I put up the block. Again on the messageboards, its a different pov. I prolly worded this all bad from the get go. all points here are well taken.

< Message edited by sweetboundesire -- 4/18/2010 8:17:14 AM >

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 8:20:09 AM

zephyroftheNorth

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Well maybe the thing to do is create a similar one about female subs to balance it out..........joooooooooking!

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 9:03:24 AM

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I am drawn to submissive males because I find them so damn sexy. I want a man who desires to serve me and do things to please me. I have dated a few dominate males and it ended up in battle of the wills and I am one stubborn redhead, I do not give in, so those relationships did not work for me.

In the sex department a sub male is much better suited for me as I want to do things to them that we both find enjoyable, but that make the dominate males cringe and run away crying...

So give me the submissive males any day.

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RE: Are Sub Men & Sub Women Worlds Apart? - 4/18/2010 9:16:24 AM

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I believe they are very different -- boys have a penis and girls have a vagina.

grins, yes i love that quote lol.

Men and women do think differently in many ways, so i would say their being submissive are very different simply because their perceptions as men and women are different. Its not that i don't like submissive men, i, as a woman, don't appreciate their submissiveness.

All in all, i did the poll and then realized that people would have probably answered the same about sub women lol. So the poll is a little skewed.

I am not attractive to submissive men. I can be friends with them but i think someone hit it on the head earlier -- i can manipulate them and yes, i am a dominant personality so yes, i can bully them. Sexually this turns me off, but as a dominant personality its well a concept of glee ful lol even though i would despise them for it in any other concept. I am the type of woman who will walk all over a submissive man if he lets me. Again, its not about disliking them, its about me, as a woman, not appreciating their submissiveness -- it gives me a concept of wanting them to BE MORE.

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