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Navina -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/18/2010 8:23:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OrpheusAgonistes What do you think the "you" that was there ten years ago would think of you now? What do you think of yourself ten years ago? The "me" from ten years ago would be shaking her head at my current self and wondering what the hell I think I'm doing. The person I am today would look at who I was ten years ago and retort "What the hell is taking you so long?"

GinoVega -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/18/2010 9:20:08 PM)
It's kind of hilarious when I think about it. I think my ten year old self would die from heart failure from the intense freak out over some things, but at the same time be excited about some of the cool aspects I wanted to pursue =)

PrimalConsonance -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/19/2010 11:34:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OrpheusAgonistes A friend sent me a photo in the mail a few days ago. It was from years ago, in a resort town in the southeast. We're both tan and wearing Wayfarers (mine are white, hers black). Added fact: I remember when the photo was taken being concerned about whether the ligature marks on my throat and neck would be visible in the picture. On the back, she had written "I see the boys of summer in their ruin/Lay the golden [sic] tithings barren." That phrase has been turning itself over in my mind "The boys of summer in their ruin." In my 20s, I was acutely aware that my hot youth was ticking away. When I thought of aging, I thought of losing my edge. Of selling out, buying in, resigning myself to quiet desperation and casual phoniness. It hasn't turned out that way, exactly. In my 30s, I'm not the person I assumed I'd be when I was in my 20s. In my 20s, I was not the person I thought I'd be in my teens. There's a weird disconnect in the evolution of my identity--maybe of everybody's identity--where the math doesn't quite work out. The ledgers don't balance. Even given all the facts and given a general knowledge of how personalities and personae are shaped, something quirky happens and I constantly turn out in surprising ways. I blame gremlins. What do you think the "you" that was there ten years ago would think of you now? What do you think of yourself ten years ago? Are you ever surprised by the way you've turned out? Do you think you have any surprises in store for yourself? Edit: I just woke up, and managed to post this in the wrong forum. Should have been off-topic. Sorry about that! I would say that my self of 10-years ago would be very happy on the whole of the person I am now (albeit a few minor changes). The now self would really like to have been back 10-years ago on a few items and people that the now-self has...I would have liked to have had my current situation years ago. I think I have had possibly more happiness from then to now on a certain level.

Rule -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/19/2010 12:56:07 PM)
I am getting dumber every day, is my impression - and I had lots more money then. I think that during the past ten years I have worked on three books, finished one, nearly finished two, sold none.

kiwisub12 -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/19/2010 3:15:21 PM)
It feels as if I have moved through life with no sort of plan , that things 'just happened" - until I hit 48 or so, and realised that there were things i wanted , and set out to find them - the chief being a loving relationship in a bdsm type way. Since then, my life has hit unplanned bumps, but not derailed as far as the plans go. There will always be things that happen that i will not like, but for the most part I am happier now than i have ever been, and i attribute that to knowing myself and what i want - and it isn't jewelery, and big houses and lots of furniture (though those would be nice). A happy relationship is worth more than any jewelery. Peace of mind is worth more than any house and love is worth more than anything else in this world. OK - Hallmark moment done - It took me til i hit 50 to realise that material things aren't necessary and don't make me happy. Past the basic house and clothes, there is little I actually need. There is stuff i want, but that is a different subject - lol

JstAnotherSub -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/19/2010 3:37:35 PM)
i will be 48 Friday, and i gotta say the 40's have meen my fav decade so far..... a friend used to sign his emails something like "experience is something you never need til right after you get it".....i have found that to be true....it aint a mistake, its called living life and learning......

CaringandReal -> RE: "Experience" is the name so many people give to their mistakes... (4/19/2010 4:56:15 PM)
Well, for me it's always been "mistakes are the name I give to my experience." There is no better way that I have found in life to learn. Nothing works better than fucking up. So while I don't ever intentionally set out to make them, I tend to savor my mistakes and slowly suck the lessons out of the experiences. I remember the transition into my 30s. It was a big surprise for me too, and for many of the same reasons you state. I'm very glad the me that was me 10 years ago didn't have the slightest idea of what she was going to face in the decade to come. I think the foreknowledge would have crushed her. When horror creeps upon one slowly and gradually its much easier to bear than instant sudden knowing. Maybe she wouldn't have folded, though, after all, she did make it through. I think the me of 10 years past would be baffled by the me now. I don't think she'd understand how I survive, with sanity and happiness intact, in fact. She'd need those next 10 years to figure out that one. :)

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