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RE: Dominants: Has this ever happened to you? - 4/29/2010 4:13:39 PM

sunshinemiss

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Things come up in discussions Celeste. It happens.

I really don't get why people aren't understanding this. I mean... haven't you ever learned information and changed your mind about being interested in someone / something? (the general you of course)...

Wow. He wants what he wants.... he waits till he gets it. Isn't that what a Dom does? Heck isn't that what *everybody* does?

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RE: Dominants: Has this ever happened to you? - 5/1/2010 4:24:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: DomImus

Three pages and nobody seems to grasp the crux of my post. It's not about how many kinks or who can bend the most or how to find a compromise that makes it work. It was simple question about two people with two different strategies and one of those people's arbitrary expectation that the other person automatically do it their way.

I guess this is why I often chuckle when people toss around the notion that we're all like minded just because we fall under this very big umbrella called kink.

Thanks to everyone for their participation. Interesting read.

I think I see the problem.
Let me ask you a question, What makes you a Dom? Is it your love of floggers? Nope lots of subs love floggers. Cause you dress in black? nope not that either.Perhaps you enjoy the sound of a paddle on fleash? nope thats a sadist.
So what is it? Its your love of control. Just as a true car enthuseast doesnt care what car he drives a Dom is much the same.If Im in charge thats all it takes, sure I like to tie to chain link fences but Ill have just as big a grin spanking a butt.

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RE: Dominants: Has this ever happened to you? - 5/1/2010 6:07:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Things come up in discussions Celeste. It happens.

I really don't get why people aren't understanding this. I mean... haven't you ever learned information and changed your mind about being interested in someone / something? (the general you of course)...

Wow. He wants what he wants.... he waits till he gets it. Isn't that what a Dom does? Heck isn't that what *everybody* does?

sunshine

I think what we're confused about is why when he got part of what he wanted, he no longer wanted it.

He says himself that almost everyone he meets hard limits all of the three things that are the only things he's interested in. You would imagine he would be thrilled after all those rejections to find someone with one shared interest.

This wasn't relationship potential, just a one time play date.

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