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ORIGINAL: PhoenixLM

My Mistress recently told me to plan a party for her. The details and guest list were left totally up to me. Her statement was simply you know what I like, take care of it. The problem is coming from the guest list, there is a local dom I would like to invite, however he has a slave and a friend of hers that tags along everywhere they go. This so called slave has in the recent past disrespected my Mistress' home by attending a function here and putting her feet on the furniture, which in itself is very rude, but compounded the lack of setting, forcing another person to sit on the floor.  At a munch function she was very rude and disrespectful to a dominant that is associate with my Mistress' house, and at another informed my Mistress she is a bitch (not exact words but the jest). At an even more recent function she was rude and disrespectful to the munch host. He excuses her behavior by stating "As long as she says "With all due respect" first. He seems to be a nice enough guy, just he has a lack of knowledge about protocols. On the whole we would welcome him in but not her or her friend as the other is just as rude. I have looked through etiquette books, gone through every protocol I can find or think of but can not find a way to invite him yet exclude her. I wondered if anyone here would have access to some information I lack that would enable us to not have to deal with her.

Thank you in advance

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"To learn the art of submission a slave must first give up the desires that drew him to submission in the first place." Mistress Jasmyn Jan 2005.

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Frankly if the guy accepts that behaviour of his girl then he must accept the responcibility for those actions and is as much to blame for them as the girl is. Exclude him from the event. A slave's actions reflect on the Master if he won't deal with the behaviour then you should have as much problem with him as with her.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
From your descriptions it sounds like she hasn't really don't anything major, and since he is who your dom has chosen as his partner for now, your best bet is to either not allow guests at all, or stay on top of the situation as well as possible.

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ORIGINAL: Angeni

Greetings PhoenixLM
In the past I had solved this particular dillema by sending a short list of rules that were to be followed in our house along with invitations. I would let it be known that the rules were to be respected or the person would be asked to leave. If this particular Dominant is unwilling to enforce the rules set forth on his/her slave, then simply ask them to leave. It is not disrespectful, and others who attend may find it more enjoyable because the rules are in place. I would suggest bringing this up with your Mistress as a possible solution?

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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

I'm going to (respectfully, of course) disagree with you on this point... and here is the reason: 

"At a munch function she was very rude and disrespectful to a dominant that is associate with my Mistress' house, and at another informed my Mistress she is a bitch (not exact words but the jest)." 

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
From your descriptions it sounds like she hasn't really don't anything major, and since he is who your dom has chosen as his partner for now, your best bet is to either not allow guests at all, or stay on top of the situation as well as possible.

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

If anyone was disrespectful of Master, they wouldnt be welcomed in our home...plain and simple.

Thinking about your situation, maybe you could use this opportunity to let the Dom know how his slave is effecting his relationship with his friends. Like perhaps you could send him an invitation and send a note with it saying that He is invited but due to his slave being rude and whatever you would "prefer" him not to bring her. Like really spell it out for him in a very polite way.  This would be really embaressing to him but perhaps that is what he needs considering the offenses his slave has already committed. He might even show up with a remarkably well behaved and changed slave. I think you could get away with this seeing that your Mistress has asked you to plan this without her help, if the Dom kicks up a fuss about the note, your Mistress cant be held liable and she can chastise you for being rude to him...i dunno..just playing with thoughts.

I liked the "helper" plan too, mine will get you into trouble most likely.

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ORIGINAL: Wolfspet
Rather that the Mistress inferred that was the intent in a humorous remark.  It may well have been bad humor, in a familiar environment, or it may have indeed be a bitchy remark because the woman genuinely does not like the others, and her Owner may be aware of that fact.

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ORIGINAL: PhoenixLM

The first situation was while the dominant was giving a thank you speech  at a munch yes while the munch is informal one should never sit and interrupt a speaker with snide remarks or even in jest. While the second was an informal gathering, her words were not meant in jest, she was quite serious.