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What catches your interest? - 4/21/2010 11:02:51 PM

SexySea

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I'm curious. What does it take for you to look at a subs profile? Screen name? Picture? Age? Something else? And what does it take for you to make that first contact? What is it that really gets your attention? SS

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/21/2010 11:39:57 PM

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I look for submission, SS. I look for women who are serious about being trained and being obedient.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 12:31:02 AM

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To be honest, I just scroll through randomly and click. It's funner for me that way and has yielded good results. I've found myself getting to talk to interesting people that way.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 12:36:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: warlock1935

I look for submission, SS. I look for women who are serious about being trained and being obedient.

how can you possibly know that until you meet them - im curious, not being snarky at all.

my profile doesnt project abject submission at all. it describes me up to a point and what i hope to find in someone, but theres nothing in there about how obedient im going to be or how submissive because im just not prepared to make that promise until i meet a person and feel the vibe.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 1:05:39 AM

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Excellent question, SexySea. i'm also very interested in the answers. :)

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 4:46:39 AM

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Numero Uno is location - I ain't doing LDR's again....

For me to make first contact, it'd probably be a matter of the general overview of her personal details and profile. Little phrases like "a no limits pain slut" or "there's nothing I won't try at least twice" etc are major turnoffs. I like my women soft and feminine with a dash of girly girl - for those who have it, it has a way of showing in their general presentation....

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 4:50:44 AM

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Depends on what I want from them.

If I think that they'd be fun to chat with and banter with, I'll generally respond to a good posting in the forums. Or a good journal entry if I'm browsing journals.

If I like their picture, I'll check them out as well.

If I'm interested in an actual relationship, they must be local or willing to relocate, intelligent, attractive, and something in their profile must make me think that we'd mesh. Their interests, kink and otherwise must align with mine.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 4:59:11 AM

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I never noticed his profile because he never had a picture. Yes, I'm shallow.
I started noticing him because of his posts. So I guess he caught my mind before my eyes.
Lucky for me he's fucking hot as well as intelligent, funny, sarcastic, talented, creative, rational, sadistic, spur of the moment, wild, adventurous, etc. etc. etc.

But overall....it was his words that caught my interest and the other stuff that kept it.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 5:03:22 AM

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I noticed his pictures first, yep shallow I am. Glad he turned out to be funny, smart, caring, considerate and an overall awesome guy. I got lucky meeting him!

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 5:56:50 AM

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#1 attractive nude picture (or sexy pic semi clothed)
#2 attractive picture
#3 right age bracket
#4 screen name with a key word in it

Nudity works to pretty much gets anyone's attention. This is a dating site. We are selling ourselves. If the sub is not shy or sexually hung up, it shows in body language. Nothing like a nude and sexy pose to convey your own healthy ego and attitude.

Everyone can find a pose that is attractive. No matter what size or shape, even the big girls can cock their shoulders forward and push their tits up for a girly pic!

< Message edited by ResidentSadist -- 4/22/2010 5:58:10 AM >

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 6:00:57 AM

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I look for submission, too!!! See must type very softly and I look for a certain font size that screams I am submissive and can deep throat as well!!!

I like intelligence. There is nothing without that as a foundation. Then she has to display that she is relatively level headed (good for resting a beer) and is not totally socially inept. I also dig a sub that possesses a great sense of humor, an over all positive outlook on life and loves to get down with her identical twin sister. Sweet!!!

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 7:04:40 AM

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*makes a note.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 7:28:55 AM

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I've come to the conclusion that merely the remote possibility that you may have female parts is enough to get numerous identicals cut and paste emails from a few select self styled "Masters". Being online generates a plethora of chat requests from people all over the country who are frequentely in your area for business. Hav ing a pulse is an optional bonus.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/22/2010 4:54:31 PM

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quote:

how can you possibly know that until you meet them - im curious, not being snarky at all.

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ORIGINAL: lally2

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ORIGINAL: warlock1935

I look for submission, SS. I look for women who are serious about being trained and being obedient.

I've just been reading profiles so long that I nowadays don't often start conversations, test them, and have them fail the tests. Instead, almost all the conversations I start are with women who have the quality of submission I like. Even when they don't go into a lot of detail, I can usually get a feel for where they're at. It's an intuitive process, not a planned strategy; and it's working very well for me, frankly.

how can you possibly know that until you meet them - im curious, not being snarky at all.

my profile doesnt project abject submission at all. it describes me up to a point and what i hope to find in someone, but theres nothing in there about how obedient im going to be or how submissive because im just not prepared to make that promise until i meet a person and feel the vibe.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 6:21:54 AM

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A well presented and thought out profile that shows something about how the writers mind works and who they are.

That, and a gash shot so fantastic that it inspires me to immediately head to the local Taco Bell and order a 12 pack.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 8:03:12 AM

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~ Fast Profile ~

Back in the day - I would look for a person who represented in their profile a persona that I would like to get to know better. Their communication skills were the initial interest generator. Being able to convey a sense of self confidence about who they were superseded any lack of experience in what they desired, or thought they desired, concerning lifestyle activities.

I sought out an interesting person, who believed themselves to be 'submissive'. Their representation as 'submissive' or 'slave' was the only big hole sift that would bring them to my attention. I never took a second glance at their menu of desires. Being a skeptic, with first hand experience regarding misrepresented photos taken 5 years ago, 50 pounds ago, or what they hoped to look like AFTER their gender reassignment surgery, I didn't pay much attention to photos either.

My goal was to meet people. The next step in both interest and involvement, was contact, so I would set up a meeting. I had a personal 2 week limit of doing so, to test and determine if the profile poster was looking for on-line fantasy, of which I had no interest, or reality. This policy also eliminated investing any emotional equity with someone who only existed on-line.

Common definitions along with compatibility were determined from that real life meeting. You can become interested in a character portrayed by a profile but you can't have a real life relationship with it; for that you have to get off-line, up close & personal.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 8:53:46 AM

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Not that I'm actively looking here or expect to be, but I do peruse profiles. The things I'm looking for are:

Someone who presents as a real, 3-dimensional human being rather than a collection of sexual fetishes. This also rules out the "I exist only to serve" crowd.
Someone looking for a lifetime long relationship and seems to have a clue about how such things actually happen.
Someone who is not filled with anger towards all those crappy doms they seem to attract. That's an instant "reject" for me.
Someone who is socially submissive rather than sexually submissive. In general, if submitting "feels" like something to the person, then they are not for me.
General physical compatibility.

Lally2's profile is a good example of one that would attract me.

Note that I don't think I'm a particularly good example of "doms" in general because I'm not very attuned to the whole BDSM thing.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 8:58:19 AM

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More often then not, it's how they post and use words to convey what they have to say on the boards and importantly what they don't say which usually grabs my attention first. To which I will then check thier profile to try to gain a better sense of what they are about and if there's any commonalities that I may fee is enough to chance pursuing any further contact. Yes being a hot blooded human, sometimes it's the profile pic which will grab my interest enough so that I will go to the profile and check out any other pics they may have, (yes I do indulge my base desires to see a yummy nearly naked body shot).

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 10:42:58 AM

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I look at a lot of profiles simply because I enjoy looking. The act of looking has NOTHING to do with being interested 99.9% of the time. More often than not, I am either rolling my eyes at what I see, shuddering, or laughing.

On the rare occasion I find one interesting enough to want to write, it still does not mean I am interesting in anything other than communicating in a friendly way.

A decent profile is really not that difficult to write. Ongoing communication is what will tell me how well we might get along or not.

As for photos, I do enjoy seeing a photo of a person's face. It helps me put the words with an individual. But it certainly isn't necessary. Just something I like.

Two things will cause me to move away from a profile quickly, tasteless nakeditity and a strong focus on kink rather than service.

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 4/23/2010 10:45:08 AM >

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 12:04:20 PM

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originality, personality and humour, if I am to spend time with someone, I need to feel that they will bring more to the party than their genitalia or "submission"
If people are too serious I move on really quick, all this is about fun and good times.
Some people look to be as much fun as watching a dozen repeats of Lassie come home.

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