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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/23/2010 6:37:14 PM

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Don't be dissin on Lassie now!

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/25/2010 1:37:07 PM

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I looked for distance, picture, age, words, consistency, maturity and reality. In that order, though all had equal value, if one piece was not exactly what i wanted then there was no need to go further

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/25/2010 2:26:18 PM

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I'm assuming you're mostly looking at what catches interest as far as some kind of relationship goes, not with friends. So I'll answer it with that as the focus. Equally, I am only speaking for myself here. None of the stuff that personally puts me off is 'wrong' and I'm sure some dominants find it appealing. I generally notice things in this order:

Location. Outside the UK is out for anything other than internet friends. And generally I prefer it if we're not at opposite sides of the country.

Name. I'm not keen on usernames like "slut4u", "slave69", "urwhore" or anything along those lines. I'm also not overly fond of ones that contain the words "sub" or "submissive". I can read your orientation myself, so it tells me nothing significant about you. I like names with a bit of personality and character. Bonus points for a clever pun or a good pop culture reference.

Photos. I'm not entirely unsuperficial. While I might still write to someone who I don't find physically attractive, that's very much on a friends basis. I prefer 'arty' or 'quirky' userpics. And I lean heavily towards suggestive as opposed to explicit as far as my personal taste goes.

Profile. Anything more than a few typos will put me off entirely. I can't be bothered trying to talk to the semi-literate. Too many smileys annoys me. Wit, intelligence and individuality are the main things I look for. It's better for me if the focus is towards general personality traits and interests, as opposed to being mainly BDSM focused. That might be because what I generally am looking at is either full relationships or FWBs. If I was looking for casual play partners, BDSM interests would be more immediately relevant.

Journal. Which I always read in full. It's a good way of getting a more rounded picture then I can from the profile alone. Well written, interesting journals make me more attracted to someone. Shit erotica makes me want to break their fingers so they can never type again.

Interest list. Mainly looking for things in common and if there's any serious incompatibility issues. Vanilla interests are as important as BDSM interests here. And if someone only has BDSM interests listed I'm unlikely to message them.

Friends list. Mostly checking to see if they know any of my exes and if so which ones...

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/25/2010 2:43:27 PM

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I'm not looking so I don't scan profiles but I do have a default set of criteria set up in the search fields that produces a set of "hits" when I log in. It's usually a rotation of the same dozen or so profiles I see on a regular basis. Occasionally, a new one pops up. One did just that when I logged in a few minutes ago. To describe her profile as a bit on the angry and bitchy side would be kind and that context isn't really all that uncommon.

Someone mentioned earlier submissive profiles where they rail on about other doms who have contacted them. Does anyone really want to read all that venom and is anyone surprised that it only begets more of the same? Too many of the profiles I see here are more like warnings than profiles - warnings to stay away. If I was looking I'd look somewhere else that CM. I enjoy the forums but I don't view this as a viable way to meet people.

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/25/2010 2:46:00 PM

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RE: What catches your interest? - 4/25/2010 4:15:40 PM

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Hi,
I look for age (over 30) and interests. I am into humiliation and would have no common intersts with someone who is not into it. Experience is nice but I will train a sub if necessary. For me, looks are not very important, nor is weight, but I look for some athletic interests. I play online, so I do not need a glamorous sub, but intelligence and imagination helps.

Jeff

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