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Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 3:19:49 AM   
onmynees2u


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Greetings all, girl is a novice, she has played with Doms from other sites, is not underconsideration as such, yet has a verbal agreement from girls new Dom, that yes He will be girls 'Sir', but not a Master. Further He refers to girl as 'His' and so on, He gives permission for 'His ' girl to play with a dom He has never heard of, 'His' girl, an anal virgin was viciously and painfully anally raped by a male sadist.  girl said nothing, then informed her Dom for help, girl was told "...thats your own fault anyway, you want to play...". Novice girls alike, do you hear all the warning bells...a sadist is deaf to safe words, screams of pure agony inflame his mind, begging for genuine mercy: the sadist feels nothing. this girl respectfully urges all those with experience to elaborate safety and some sort of emergancy aftercare for those found experiencing my situation...yes this girl attempted suicide and admitted to hospital, girl never spoke about the issue. this was aprox 5 weeks ago, girl is now safe in the caring nurturing atomsphere of a exp soul, keeping a careful eye on girl, many are not so lucky. All feedback welcome, as this girl views this situation for tremendous growth, for others firstly, lest they be saved from the school of hard knocks.
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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 4:16:26 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Girl needs to take responsibility for her own choices and not rely on anyone else to make her decisions or protect her. If girl can't do this then girl should not be in a relationship until she learns to make healthy choices for herself.



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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 4:21:27 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Damn, you sure have gravitated toward some degenerates, starting with your 'Sir'...!

But I admire your attitude and positive outlook in trying to get past it. I sure do hope you learn something from this, most particularly the "dom" company you've chosen and wrongly trusted....

Good luck with your future choices - though I hope you're not counting purely on luck in making them.

Focus.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 4:46:52 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		OP, you're 40 years old.  Act like it.

Don't throw yourself at anyone who claims to be a Dom.  You have one disinterested man who you call Sir, who doesn't care if you sub to anyone and doesn't even control who the others are.  So you take up with anyone.

Aileen's right.  Act like an adult, take responsibility for your own choices, learn from your mistakes, and go forth. 

And ask yourself what you want from your relationships.  If you want to fuck and session with anyone, you're going about it right.  If you want something else, go for it.


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 6:11:35 AM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		OP do you feel you learnt anything from your last and most recent lesson

I am kind of thinking, especially given a suicide attempt a mere 5 weeks ago, that you would benefit from staying the hell away from bdsm for now and focusing on building resilience, learning to take your time before jumping into relationships and learning more about yourself and what submission means for you so that you can better understand exactly what you are wanting and needing in a dominant.

I wish you all the best


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 6:12:54 AM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		poor girl.

nine out of ten girls prefer that their anal rape be vicious and painful.

I see this girl attempted suicide five weeks ago but now is all better. Good for you!

It also seems that girls are lined up around the corner to gain admittance into the school of hard knocks. You were lucky in that you had a scholarship. Tuition for TSoHN went up to $32,000 for 2010.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 6:14:48 AM   
ResidentSadist


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and girls are lined up around the corner to gain admittance into my school of hard cocks . . . I mean hard knocks

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 6:25:31 AM   
Jeffff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Girl needs to take responsibility for her own choices and not rely on anyone else to make her decisions or protect her. If girl can't do this then girl should not be in a relationship until she learns to make healthy choices for herself.




If you are gonna start that shit, it is over between us!

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 6:35:05 AM   
divi


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ORIGINAL: onmynees2u

Greetings all, girl is a novice, she has played with Doms from other sites, is not underconsideration as such, yet has a verbal agreement from girls new Dom, that yes He will be girls 'Sir', but not a Master. Further He refers to girl as 'His' and so on, He gives permission for 'His ' girl to play with a dom He has never heard of, 'His' girl, an anal virgin was viciously and painfully anally raped by a male sadist.  girl said nothing, then informed her Dom for help, girl was told "...thats your own fault anyway, you want to play...". Novice girls alike, do you hear all the warning bells...a sadist is deaf to safe words, screams of pure agony inflame his mind, begging for genuine mercy: the sadist feels nothing. this girl respectfully urges all those with experience to elaborate safety and some sort of emergancy aftercare for those found experiencing my situation...yes this girl attempted suicide and admitted to hospital, girl never spoke about the issue. this was aprox 5 weeks ago, girl is now safe in the caring nurturing atomsphere of a exp soul, keeping a careful eye on girl, many are not so lucky. All feedback welcome, as this girl views this situation for tremendous growth, for others firstly, lest they be saved from the school of hard knocks.


Girl that was painful to read

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 6:36:49 AM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff


quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Girl needs to take responsibility for her own choices and not rely on anyone else to make her decisions or protect her. If girl can't do this then girl should not be in a relationship until she learns to make healthy choices for herself.




If you are gonna start that shit, it is over between us!


Girl is so sorry Mr. Protector.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 8:35:17 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		You are 40! Grow up, and grow some self-esteem. You might have been killed.

Thank you for the warning, but really- keeping yourself safe is very basic. For those like you, who don't care much about themselves, and so put themselves in harm's way: I don't think the warning will help much. We can't make people care about themselves, or take care of themselves. That desire and skill has to come from within each person. Its a nice thought, to send out a warning though. Maybe you will get through to one person, even if its only yourself.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 8:47:06 AM   
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Nor is that organ an anus.

That organ is a brain.


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 9:07:58 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

^ what he said

and girls are lined up around the corner to gain admittance into my school of hard cocks . . . I mean hard knocks



*applies for admission*





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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 12:38:31 PM   
IKaiya


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Status: offline 		Girl, use your brain.

And this sadist does hear and honour safewords, don't  think every dom/ sadist is anything like the person you used to call sir. Most of us are very different from him. We do feel.

Kaiya

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/22/2010 3:49:59 PM   
Aylee


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ORIGINAL: onmynees2u

 'His' girl, an anal virgin was viciously and painfully anally raped by a male sadist.  girl said nothing, then informed her Dom for help, girl was told "...thats your own fault anyway, you want to play...".
 
Girl is an idiot for going to the Dom for help instead of 911. 


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/23/2010 3:29:15 PM   
poshspice


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Status: offline 		No offence, but who posts such personal details on a public forum? I would hazard a guess at it being a total drama queen who is basking in the attention afterglow of her 'rape fantasy" and enjoying the victim status, either conciously or sub-conciously.

Real rape victims, rarely talk about it especially after 5 weeks and certainly dont post it for everyone to see and try and pass it off as a warning to all vunerable, weak newbies.

I take no more or less precautions than I did with vanilla men, its common bloody sense and when I am occaisionally stupid and led by my genitals and something bad happens then I take responsiblity for what happens. If you want a safeword, demand one and if he says no , you leave or you stay and then expect the worst or the best , depending on how you look at it. A sadist will not stop, dont deal with one if you are not expecting that. Thats their kink, they dont try and hide it. Its an informed decision to be with one.

You might have lost touch with reality but the police havent. I would suggest that until you are more mentally stable, engaging in BDSM not only renders you vunerable to further emotional damage but renders Dom men vunerable to prosecution.

This is not some sort of game. Rape is not a word to be tossed around on a public forum. Its deadly serious.

I am sorry to be so harsh, but I have seen so far too many women thriving on the drama of being a supposed victim in all manner of ways, this being the most dangerous. It makes me angry.

This sort of thing poses not just a threat to men in the lifestyle safely hoping to consensually practice their kink without redress but just as importantly to the validity of real rape victims.

If I am wrong I am sorry but I feel rather strongly about this and if I am right , go away and get some help and leave these men the hell alone.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/23/2010 4:37:38 PM   
rideemwet


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Status: offline 		Frankly I think the OP should consider consulting kink-friendly professional counseling. Addressing rape/suicide issues that appear, and perhaps underlying recklessness that got her there in the first place ...

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/23/2010 10:56:29 PM   
onmynees2u


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Thank you all for your expressions of your own views. When a safe word is willfully ignored, in the above mentioned situation, it becomes sexual assult, wether Y/you like it or not. The drama queen is conspiciously the female ranting on about the Police and protecting males. Age is merely a number. Yes, this is a serious subject matter, and one that this girl has noticed rearing it's ugly head on another site. Perhaps this topic should have been posted in the 'submissives' page, yet then again, one has to wonder how many would think twice, or, perhaps ditch the lifestyle forever.  Very interesting overall the sheer volume of vultures about, the majority, being females....this sub, prefers to be a 'girl'.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/23/2010 11:17:01 PM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		I read this thread with some consternation...

OP - you have now encountered two psycopaths purporting to be 'dominant men' - one masquerading as a 'sadistic Master', one masquerading as your 'Sir'.

Start behaving with an iota of common sense. Stop playing with people you don't know VERY well. In fact, stop playing full stop until you get some perspective on what has happened.

Get counselling for what happened. Keep going until you feel you need to stop.

Dump the twat you call 'Sir'. ANY human being who is supposedly in any kind of relationship with you who tells you it's your own fault for being raped is a shitty excuse for a human being - a total waste of skin and an oxygen thief. He's not dominant, he's a vile little prick.

Now, think about this. Any BDSM relationship should have the emphasis on the 'relationship' in the beginning, not the BDSM. It doesn't matter if it's a relationship built on love or service or friendship or whatever - get to know the PERSON first, then you can decide if you want to take things further.

Did I mention you should kick your asshole 'Sir' to the kerb?



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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 2:02:01 AM   
poshspice


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Status: offline 		Uh huh. Didnt quite get the reaction you were hoping for then. Must be a huge anti-climax. Did you go to the police with your rape accusation?

No is no, like you say, even within BDSM. What did the police do?

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