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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 2:28:06 AM   
jbcurious


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Status: offline 		I think you've gone way over the top with your accusations that this is a fantasy or fake... If it is, what harm has she done you? If it isn't what harm have your words done to her?

I don't think the OP is the only person who needs to grow up on this thread.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 2:47:17 AM   
sinandhoney


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Status: offline 		Actually I'm siding with the so-called Sir. He didn't care if she wanted to play or not, but she went ahead and got hurt. It was HER fault for not being a tad smarter about who it is she plays with. It's the SUB's responsibilty to keep themselves safe, not some man on the computer. Also I disagree on her assessment of a Sadist. What she encountered was an asshole and possible rapist, and does great disservice to those who are Sadist and take care of their play mates. I'd look at what your doing to qualify those you play with and switch things quickly.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 4:07:59 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Anybody else betting the rapist was the original sir who she only knew from online? What the girl should do is first don't get involved in any relationship until she's learned how to pick good guys from bad and second finished the court case suing the dude. But yes, this being five weeks only and she's on to guy number three, I also believe it's fake.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 4:09:14 AM   
she100


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quote:

ORIGINAL: onmynees2u

Greetings all, girl is a novice, she has played with Doms from other sites, is not underconsideration as such, yet has a verbal agreement from girls new Dom, that yes He will be girls 'Sir', but not a Master. Further He refers to girl as 'His' and so on, He gives permission for 'His ' girl to play with a dom He has never heard of, 'His' girl, an anal virgin was viciously and painfully anally raped by a male sadist.  girl said nothing, then informed her Dom for help, girl was told "...thats your own fault anyway, you want to play...". Novice girls alike, do you hear all the warning bells...a sadist is deaf to safe words, screams of pure agony inflame his mind, begging for genuine mercy: the sadist feels nothing. this girl respectfully urges all those with experience to elaborate safety and some sort of emergancy aftercare for those found experiencing my situation...yes this girl attempted suicide and admitted to hospital, girl never spoke about the issue. this was aprox 5 weeks ago, girl is now safe in the caring nurturing atomsphere of a exp soul, keeping a careful eye on girl, many are not so lucky. All feedback welcome, as this girl views this situation for tremendous growth, for others firstly, lest they be saved from the school of hard knocks.



Crikey was this your 1st real time experience? i am so sorry that you had to go through this and unfortunately any advice is too late. Pleased you are getting the care you need now.

(Remember being novice and believing that everyone who called themselves a Dom, Sir or Master was?! Luckily most of us learn quickly and without any real hurts. I am sorry that this wasn't the case for you).

Weather you are looking for play, long term or actually meeting your Master abroad for the 1st time, you gotta have a back up plan, 1st i'm assuming you have talked and established a connection and common ground on the phone then just meet for a coffee.

You have got to use your common sense, intuition ( i am not saying that OP didn't) meeting someone in the BDSM world is no different than the rules for meeting someone in the vanilla world.

It's still early days, give yourself time to heal from this one, gain trust again and please don't be a slave to just anyone that calls himself a master. Real Masters are few and far between but they do exist and you need to find one that compliments you and that you can TRUST with your life.

Good luck to all novices god i remember how green i was and how lucky i am that my 1st real time Sir was and is 100% Genuine, i kissed a few fakes online 1st though!

With love



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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 6:14:59 AM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: onmynees2u

Thank you all for your expressions of your own views. When a safe word is willfully ignored, in the above mentioned situation, it becomes sexual assult, wether Y/you like it or not. The drama queen is conspiciously the female ranting on about the Police and protecting males. Age is merely a number. Yes, this is a serious subject matter, and one that this girl has noticed rearing it's ugly head on another site. Perhaps this topic should have been posted in the 'submissives' page, yet then again, one has to wonder how many would think twice, or, perhaps ditch the lifestyle forever.  Very interesting overall the sheer volume of vultures about, the majority, being females....this sub, prefers to be a 'girl'.



You are the only common denominator in all of your relationships. You are the one responsible for the people you pick to be with. If you don't like the outcomes, then change your filtering methods. It really is that simple.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 6:23:06 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Girl thinks that 3rd person speak should be removed from TSoHK curriculum.

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 6:41:02 AM   
Jeffff


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girl is a vile whore


at least that's the word on the street

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 6:48:10 AM   
KatyLied


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 6:56:14 AM   
sunshinemiss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: onmynees2u

this sub, prefers to be a 'girl'.[/left]




Sugarplum,
Whether you like it or not, you are NOT a girl. You are a grown woman. you are a woman who chooses to be with men who are ... let's call them... not quite what you expected.


If your story is true, and frankly if it isn't, it would behoove you to seek some professional assistance. And slow the heck down. We have a saying over in the USA, it's time to put on your big girl panties. And that is what you need to do. Am I saying do it alone? No. I am saying that around you in your life (off the computer) there are always people that you can get help from. Those people can help you get the support you need.

Just because you want to be a girl and not a submissive woman, doesn't change the fact that you are the leader of your own life, you are the captain of your ship. Stop sailing it into the rocks, reefs, and icebergs.

Good luck,
sunshine

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 10:49:48 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I don't mean to be harsh and don't really want to try to decide who and what actually did what and what it all means. I'd rather the op look at herself, get some professional help and learn something in the situation rather than try to save the world based on her take of things, as her take was off to begin with.

Personally I don't limit how or what a victim feels or how they act after they feel they were or were victimized. We are all different. Having an unrealistic view of what we do or the lifestyle/bdsm to start with is going to create some problems. There was a problem before the problem. Seek some assistance with that and not from a new soul filled sir, unless he is a doctor.

My best to the op.


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 11:56:01 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

He refers to girl as 'His' and so on, He gives permission for 'His ' girl to play with a dom He has never heard of, 'His' girl, an anal virgin was viciously and painfully anally raped by a male sadist.


Why is girl unable or unwilling to make her own decisions?  Here is a lesson that girl needs to learn:  decisions = consequences.  By her age she should have learned this. 


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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/24/2010 1:20:56 PM   
PrimalConsonance


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Anybody else betting the rapist was the original sir who she only knew from online? What the girl should do is first don't get involved in any relationship until she's learned how to pick good guys from bad and second finished the court case suing the dude. But yes, this being five weeks only and she's on to guy number three, I also believe it's fake.


I'm not sure what she's talking about.  I was 10 posts in before I realized she was talking about herself in the third person and not talking about somebody else. 

< Message edited by PrimalConsonance -- 4/24/2010 1:22:30 PM >

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RE: Novice alike... read on - 4/25/2010 4:44:44 PM   
dragon200070


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Status: offline 		Safe, Sane, Consensual - this was NOT present. You should have taken stornger action. This guy is not a Dom but a pretender. Domming is a course that requires the Dom take care of the sub. This (taking care of sub) is a rigid requirement that's universal.

I'm delighted you found a protector.

Jeff

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