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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:13:05 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		She is a Sadist Domme.  And i dont know why She showed me interest to be honest because i have no experience of taking pain. i checked Her profile and it said sadist. like i say i dont think im compatible. And i dont know why a professed sadist would show interest in someone with no experience of taking pain only online service so far. i found it flattering but i think i would be a disappointment to Her as i would to most Women
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:21:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why on Earth do you believe you would be a disappointment to most women? And why do you think that should matter? You only want one at any one time I'm assuming, and you'd prefer her to appreciate you?

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:29:22 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		Because i am . i am thought of as lousy by a lot of people . And sometimes i feel am lousy and a failure. unemployed,, and utterly a failure
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:30:22 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		No one wants someone who is broke.  And i cant really blame them to be honest. i wouldnt want a broke person myself
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:31:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, if you've only ever done online play, you don't know if you might like some pain or not.  The only person shooting you in the foot here is you.


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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:33:15 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		The thought of it makes me scared. i havent been spanked since i was a kid which is over twenty years ago. That is why i think i would be unsuitable for Her
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:36:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		LadyEllen, there are quite a few Dominant and switch women who are married or in a serious relationship, but who have a submissive as well.

kevin, I have to agree that you probably shouldn't get involved with anyone until you get your life straighted out, and address some of the attitudes you have toward women in general and Dommes in particular.

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:37:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		We spoke about that type of feeling arising in long term unemployment before Kevin - if you have low self esteem to start with it can only have a worse effect.

No one can give you self esteem - only you can realise why you feel the way you do and take steps to resolve it so you understand that regardless of all else you know youre worthwhile. Its a matter of identifying why you start and maintain a negative self commentary, how that affects you in every way and how to break it.

The saddest thing about low self esteem is perhaps its self reinforcing nature - low self esteem is easily picked up on by others and its not attractive so they reject it - important; they reject your low self esteem not you - but of course your thinking will tell you that its because you are a lousy person.

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 3:39:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Why would a married Woman be interested in having a male servant? i am seeing this a lot on collarme. Just wondered.  Would it not compromise the relationship with husband?  Would husband not freak
kevin



No I don't believe it would compromise my relationship with my husband because if I had a male servant, he would be a male servant, not fetish object or sex partner.

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 4:43:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Thank you . Lady Angelika. im not going to pry . it would be rude. Whatever you do enjoy
kevin



kevin, there is nothing to pry about. You asked a question and so I gave you an answer.

That answer is actually useful when trying to answer just about any question.

Why do birds fly - Because they can
Why do bees sting - Because they can
Why would married Women be interested in having a male servant? - Because they can

What I'm trying to related to you is that people do things because they can, it is within the realm of things to do that within their abilities to do.

I mean, you really don't have that much more information to make a logical deduction, and even if you wrote to them, you'll probably find that they have different motivations, but in general, regardless of the motivation, they do it because they can.

Does that make sense?

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/24/2010 4:56:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

She is a Sadist Domme.  And i dont know why She showed me interest to be honest because i have no experience of taking pain. i checked Her profile and it said sadist. like i say i dont think im compatible. And i dont know why a professed sadist would show interest in someone with no experience of taking pain only online service so far. i found it flattering but i think i would be a disappointment to Her as i would to most Women
kevin



Ok now we have more details about your motivation from the OP.

First, there could be much appeal to a Sadist to meet a pain virgin who wants to try. It's like taking away their S&M virginity. I'm done this before and yes, there is a rush that one gets from being the first to do something to someone, to have them discover something and experience things for the first time. Since Sadists are empathic and feed off energy of the one they are torturing, this could be very sweet.

Now I agree wholeheartedly with LadyEllen's comments about self-esteem. A little bit less with Adalusite, only because I don't think that people need to have their lives in order before they get into a relationship. I do think they need to be honest about the person they are wanting to engage in a relationship with about their state of their lives.

And lastly, I don't know you and you might be a great guy, but so far, the only thing I've seen you post is that proDommes are too expensive which is actually a comment that is disrespectful to proDommes. Yes, you have the right to your opinion, but sometimes expressing your opinion over and over again if it's not generally accepted, can alienate you.

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 4:12:18 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		Yeah it does . im sorry for asking the question. it was a stupid question i suppose. its really silly of me. i need to get a life. But with few friends i see this board as a place to practice my social skills more than anything else. without this board and the BDSM group in Dublin i would be isolated and alone. i suppose it does indicate that i have low self esteem but its hard when i dont have any contacts outside the scene
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 5:15:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Yeah it does . im sorry for asking the question. it was a stupid question i suppose. its really silly of me. i need to get a life. But with few friends i see this board as a place to practice my social skills more than anything else. without this board and the BDSM group in Dublin i would be isolated and alone. i suppose it does indicate that i have low self esteem but its hard when i dont have any contacts outside the scene
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kevin



kevin,

I'm aware you posted the quoted part above to LadyAngelika but I wanted to comment on something. 

There's an old saying...the only stupid question is the unasked one.  I think your original post was a valid question and one I hope you've been able to find answers for.  What seems like a "no-brainer" for some people isn't an easy concept for others to grasp.  It's all part of learning and growing as an individual...in our own ways.

I find it helpful to think before I post to make sure what I'm saying makes sense. If I want to start a new topic or ask a new question, I have a look through older threads using the search feature to see if my question can be answered that way. 

Good luck.

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 10:14:29 AM   
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 1:01:11 PM   
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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 1:11:07 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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Polyamory.  Google it.


Polyamory is WRONG!

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 1:16:22 PM   
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Polyamory is WRONG!


Assertion is not the same thing as argument.

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 1:18:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle
Polyamory is WRONG!


Assertion is not the same thing as argument.


It should be "Multiamory" or "Polyphilia."  Mixing Greek and Latin is just plain WRONG!

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 1:19:04 PM   
Apocalypso


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It should be "Multiamory" or "Polyphilia."  Mixing Greek and Latin is just plain WRONG!

I believe I have been trolled. Nice work sir. *applauds*

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RE: Why would a married Woman want a male slave? - 4/25/2010 4:15:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Apocalypso


quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

It should be "Multiamory" or "Polyphilia."  Mixing Greek and Latin is just plain WRONG!

I believe I have been trolled. Nice work sir. *applauds*

Actually I think the proper term is "punked"

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