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seeking advice for new daddies - 4/24/2010 7:48:21 PM

babygirlsasha

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Hello! I'm fairly new to fetlife and am seeking some advice/opinion on the Daddy dynamic. My partner and I have been together for many years, and we have recently begun to experiment with BDSM. We both find this to be fun and exciting, and it has helped us grow as a couple and as individuals. As first this was mostly just bedroom play for us, but I soon realized that I wanted this dynamic to be a more structured and continuous part of our relationship. I've found that the Daddy dynamic seems to offer exactly what I want - the perfect mix of coddling and control, of discipline and nurturance...

I've discussed wanting more of a 24/7 relationship with my partner and he responded enthusiastically, however it has been difficult to integrate this into the very established patterns of our longstanding partnership. Also, while we have discussed why I find the Daddy dynamic appealing and I know that he gets the general idea, it's difficult for me to explain exactly how I want that to become a part of our relationship in tangible terms.

Does anyone out there have any advice for people who are new to this dynamic? I'd love to hear your thoughts on cultivating a D/s dynamic in a preexisting relationship. Advice/resources on learning about the Daddy dynamic and being a good Daddy would also be much appreciated. Thank you!!

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/24/2010 11:52:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: babygirlsasha

Hello! I'm fairly new to fetlife and am seeking some advice/opinion on the Daddy dynamic.

Perhaps you should ask the good folks at FetLife this question?

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/25/2010 12:37:15 AM

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Cut and paste can be your friend, but quite clearly not always.

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/25/2010 6:14:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: babygirlsasha

Hello! I'm fairly new to fetlife and am seeking some advice/opinion on the Daddy dynamic.

Perhaps you should ask the good folks at FetLife this question?

I was gonna say the exact same thing...

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/25/2010 7:02:18 AM

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I'm curious ... I don't frequent Fetlife or Bondage.com or Alt.com but two people here (out of three so far) recommended FetLife.

I don't really know the "difference" between these kink-aware web sites other than Alt isn't really free if you wish to converse (hence, I moved over from Alt to here).

Why do you guys recommend "Fetlife" over "Bondage.com" for "daddy" play?

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/25/2010 7:24:33 AM

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Hello Pompeii,
It's not that we recommend fet life so much as we are pointing out that she is saying she is new to fet life. We're pointing out that usually people say "I'm new to Collar Me" on the Collar me site. She might want to consider a little more attention to detail.

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/25/2010 8:09:13 AM

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we are pointing out that she is saying she is new to fet life.

Ah ... thanks. Much obliged.

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RE: seeking advice for new daddies - 4/25/2010 8:21:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: babygirlsasha
Hello! I'm fairly new to fetlife and am seeking some advice/opinion on the Daddy dynamic.

First....i'd like to say.....

Second, actually, this is Collarme.....remember to make necessary changes when you cut & paste.

Also, i'm also on fetlife and they have several groups that are dedicated to the DaddyDom/babygirl dynamic, and they would be great places to look. Just search "Daddy Doms" and you'll find them.

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