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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:08:32 AM

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I am beautiful inside and outside and I'm 40 yrs old, so I don't know what is the problem. If I don't fit him fine but explanations as to why are always helpful in a persons growth.

Good for you for recognizing your favourable traits. However, no one owes you an explanation as to why. "No" is a complete sentence.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:08:48 AM

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Apparantly Raven totally disagrees with a sub questioning something...Sorry but I too have an opinion and the right dom for me would allow me to have one!!!!! or ask a ?

So you you have an opinion but you think it so harsh if someone happens to disagree with you? I didn't say you had no right to an opinion, mearly that you where wrong! (From my PoV)

From here your statement about it 'not being right' was more that you can't handle rejection (Watch your attitude girl, else your going to get a lot of practice!) rather than it being about one reason. He only gave you one reason, it might have been more, either way it doesn't matter, he decided you wheren't what he was looking for, grow up, accept it and move on!

Sorry to come across (an I was) as having an attitude. I guess it's b/c he did not give me a specific reason for dissing me. You are right, I do need to move on from it and accept it. Thanks <head bows to you> Please accept my apology for being a sh.t!

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:16:22 AM

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Not how I would describe you dear, just try not to get over defencive on the forums when someone disagrees with you. We do it quite often and it doesn't mean anything other than two alternate opinions.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:24:18 AM

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acctonthelook:

Maybe this will clear it up, or at least put in in perspective for you, since you are relatively new to all this;

Have you ever met a vanilla guy at a club, landramat, etc, and had a nice convo.... and he asks for your number ? Then he never calls. OR gone out on one date and the guy never calls for a second date?
Assuming you have, did you put any effort into tracking him down to ask why he didn't call, or just let it lie and chalk it up to " life".

Things here are no different in that regards. If you put a whole lot of energy into finding out why some one rejected you, you are using up alot of good energy that could be spent getting to know some one more worthwhile/compatable.

What if he had given you reasons ? Let's say he told you : I'm not interested because you are too old, I don't like blondes and I am looking for some one with more experience. Would that really make you feel better ? And what could you even do to change it? What it boils down to, he wasn't interested and you were. The reasons he wasn't interested have no real bearing on anything. Let it go, and move on... it's a really big fishbowl.

Sometimes rejection is a wonderful stroke of luck.

Just my 2 cents worth.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:34:43 AM

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Doesn't even have to be anything of that nature. The last 'rejection' I sent there was absolutely nothing wrong with the lass, she was lovely, polite, submissive, inteligent.... however after a while of exchanging mails there was simply no spark developing between us, no feeling of wanting to move things further.... and thus no interest in doing so. She's a little sweetie, but simply not the girl I was looking for.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:36:01 AM

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Well, I was wondering about this new 20-40 thing, Myself, until I read the excerpt from his profile.

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"You should be 20-40 and attractive.

You are going to run into all sorts online and in r/l. We all have our quirks and expectations. It seems he can't get past the fact that you will be 41 sometime in the next year, so you have expired, in his eyes. *Smile*
Consider it your luck, his loss, and keep searching.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:36:28 AM

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420 was originally was and still is the police code for a marijuana bust. After that it became 4:20 as the time to light up, every day.... After that, 4/20 became the self proclaimed national pot day. Not that I know first hand. *giggle*

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I am new hear, so please what the heck is 420?

Not that this is what the thread is about, at all, but this isn't correct. From wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/420_%28cannabis_culture%29):

Urban legend claims, incorrectly, that 420 is or was a police code for a drug bust or for "marijuana smoking in progress".

In any case, no matter where it came from, people use both the date (April 20) and the time (4:20pm) as a reason to smoke pot.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 11:41:26 AM

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thank u Raven for your understanding.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 12:39:17 PM

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20-40 = -20 silly hehe, damn he coulda been the Dom of your dreams too, sorry you screwed that up *grin*

Well I will take you as joking with me b/c I'm new in the lifestyle, but I don't think it's "my fault" for not knowing everything.

I have sent him another email asking for his explanation as to why I don't fit with what he's looking for.

Just for everyone and to clarify here is an excerpt from his profile and the context in which he used it:

"You should be 20-40 and attractive. I want to see you as a work of art that I help shape into something even more beautiful on the inside and outside."

I am beautiful inside and outside and I'm 40 yrs old, so I don't know what is the problem. If I don't fit him fine but explanations as to why are always helpful in a persons growth.

You take it to hard. Most of these people are only responding to the image of you they have in their head. That is far from who you really are. Don't be that hard on yourself, plenty of people will be happy to help you with that here. I would stick with those willing to pick you up and move you along with the rest of us.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 12:47:45 PM

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Well I will take you as joking with me b/c I'm new in the lifestyle, but I don't think it's "my fault" for not knowing everything.

I have sent him another email asking for his explanation as to why I don't fit with what he's looking for.

Just for everyone and to clarify here is an excerpt from his profile and the context in which he used it:

"You should be 20-40 and attractive. I want to see you as a work of art that I help shape into something even more beautiful on the inside and outside."

I am beautiful inside and outside and I'm 40 yrs old, so I don't know what is the problem. If I don't fit him fine but explanations as to why are always helpful in a persons growth.

It is the age range..20-40.

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 4:08:22 PM

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Have to admit it makes me wonder how old he is, I don't know age has never really been a thing for me, my youngest Dom was 3 years older than me and the oldest 20 years older, I always go for the contents not the packaging

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 6:05:21 PM

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He's 42yrs old, but you know Raven and so many others are right. I've moved on mentally. Age is somewhat important to me also though it's not a breaking point for me to get to know someone.

I'm fine, went for a nice long walk, went swimming and feel great! Thanks again Everyone! Your support and different views and insight made a HUGE difference for me!

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 6:25:05 PM

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I've found in my short time here these forums are full of good advice :)

Good luck in your search, you are clear in your profile about what you seek which is always good, I hope you find it :)

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RE: What is - 20-40?? - 4/6/2006 8:38:20 PM

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i love much older men . . . and as i age . . . well . . . they become older. . .just five to ten years rather than the 20 of yesteryear.

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