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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/27/2010 8:52:25 PM

seekingOwnertoo

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in women who are doing the hunting.

Oh ... i knew what You meant ... LOL

Its the ... wording i was having trouble with. LOL

But You are so right ...

a clever trap works wonders ... we often walk right in. (See my flirting example above.)

Just like suckers in a candy store ... More LOL

Then again ... some of us just might want to be caught. You never know.

Lady Oddsworth ... i do agree on this ... well ... all but the wording of hunted and hunting! ;-)

But again ... You have to develop Your own style and approach ... Just Don't Be Shy

Because being shy is the biggest mistake You can make.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/27/2010 9:20:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dilseachd

Frankly...I want to be "hunted". I have alot to offer..and I want to see someone who has the tenacity to pursue and hunt me down. Just my opinion.

I wanna be seduced,
Let a woman talk to me suggestively;
Wanna know that she'd like me to be with her tomorrow morning
Drinkin' hot jasmine tea.
I want her to make me laugh (ha ha ha),
Make a point about touching me when she talks (uhhmm ho ho hmm),
Leaving all the jealous guys in the place to
mumble in their wine and gawk.
I know it only happens when I'm napping,
Nodding in a reverie,
That I find myself a woman that understands about seducing me.

I know it only happens when I'm napping,
Nodding in a reverie,
That I find myself a woman who understands about seducing,
I'll dream about the moon until she'll introduce herself,
I'm imagining a woman who understands seducing me.

I want to be seduced, I want a woman to take me out to dinner for two
I want to see her eyes gettin' moody,
Flirtin' with the thought of what flirtin' can lead to
I want to act real cool, have her think about gettin' little me in bed
Have a chat about Magna Charta, or Puerto Vallarta, or somethin' Gandhi said

I might demur politely, falter slightly, if she starts to fondle my knee,
But I'm relatively certain I'd compromise if I know me

I want to be seduced, I want a wom-an to talk to me suggestively
I want to hear her say she'll be with me tomorrow morning,
Drinking hot jasmine tea

I want her to make me laugh, make a point of touching me when she talks
Leaving all the jealous guys in the joint to mumble in their beer and gawk

I wanna be seduced,
I wanna a woman to take me out to dinner for two;
I'd like to see her eyes get moony
Flirting with the thought of what a little flirting outta to do.
I'd like to be real cool
Let her figure out what I really mean, instead
of havin' a chat about African genesis, psychokinesis
or something Stanislavsky said.

I might demure politely,
Or falter slightly
If she tries to fondle my knee,
But I'm relatively certain that I'd come across if I know me.

I know it only happens, when I'm napping, nodding in my reverie
That I ever find a woman who wouldn't mind seducing me
I know it only happens, when I'm napping, nodding in my reverie
That I ever find a woman who wouldn't mind seducing
Starting from the moment that we'd been introduced
That I ever find a woman who wouldn't mind seducing me

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/28/2010 12:54:40 AM

LadyOddsworth

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ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo

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in women who are doing the hunting.

Oh ... i knew what You meant ... LOL

Its the ... wording i was having trouble with. LOL

But You are so right ...

a clever trap works wonders ... we often walk right in. (See my flirting example above.)

Just like suckers in a candy store ... More LOL

Then again ... some of us just might want to be caught. You never know.

Lady Oddsworth ... i do agree on this ... well ... all but the wording of hunted and hunting! ;-)

But again ... You have to develop Your own style and approach ... Just Don't Be Shy

Because being shy is the biggest mistake You can make.
.

Being shy has never been a problem for me, ever! I let a man know when I'm interested, then the ball is in his court. My main struggle is knowing just how hard to serve..

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/28/2010 4:49:14 AM

LadyAngelika

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Being shy has never been a problem for me, ever! I let a man know when I'm interested, then the ball is in his court. My main struggle is knowing just how hard to serve..

You know, when I talk with my guy friends (kinky and vanilla) the main issue they have is knowing whether a woman is interested or not. Most men don't want to make fools of themselves by striking out. So giving a green light is very important. I don't give a lot of signs, but rather, I give one really evident yet tactful one. Works quite well. If they are interested, they will go for it.

And be rest assured that, whether they are dominant, submissive or vanilla, any man who wants to be with a woman will do what it takes to be with her. You do not need to make the path easier. If you carve him out a nice little easy path, he might only go there because it's easy to go there. You do not need to turn the path into an obstacle course. That will surely only lead to frustration on his end and he'll realise you are playing mind games. If he wants to be by our side, he will do what it takes to make it there. All you need to do is let him know there is a place there for him.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/28/2010 7:16:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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Being shy has never been a problem for me, ever! I let a man know when I'm interested, then the ball is in his court. My main struggle is knowing just how hard to serve..

You know, when I talk with my guy friends (kinky and vanilla) the main issue they have is knowing whether a woman is interested or not. Most men don't want to make fools of themselves by striking out. So giving a green light is very important. I don't give a lot of signs, but rather, I give one really evident yet tactful one. Works quite well. If they are interested, they will go for it.

And be rest assured that, whether they are dominant, submissive or vanilla, any man who wants to be with a woman will do what it takes to be with her. You do not need to make the path easier. If you carve him out a nice little easy path, he might only go there because it's easy to go there. You do not need to turn the path into an obstacle course. That will surely only lead to frustration on his end and he'll realise you are playing mind games. If he wants to be by our side, he will do what it takes to make it there. All you need to do is let him know there is a place there for him.

- LA

Describes me ... pretty well

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/28/2010 8:31:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyOddsworth
you meet a sub you are really taken with? Or, do you let him know of your interest and let it be? Personally, I don't like to pursue men, it doesn't feel right, but being the D, maybe I should take a more proactive approach with some of them.

Speaking as a male dom, I'm going to go with VC here. I don't "pursue" people. My relationships develop organically. Anyone I need to "pursue", I don't know well enough to be interested in the final results should I "capture" them. At most, I can say it'd probably be me who nudged things along. For instance, after substantial conversation on whatever topic(s) sparked the original interest, it'd probably be me who said, "Let's go out for coffee" sometime. By the time I said that, I'd be very surprised if the other person declined.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/29/2010 3:24:32 AM

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I think many males early on go to any length to satisfy their lust but there comes a point where that changes.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/29/2010 4:12:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: Dilseachd

Frankly...I want to be "hunted". I have alot to offer..and I want to see someone who has the tenacity to pursue and hunt me down. Just my opinion.

Good luck with that.

It does happen Lushy. And no, the ones that persued me were not stalkers either

so there -gives lushy a rasberry-

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/29/2010 4:13:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: JhonDean

I think many males early on go to any length to satisfy their lust but there comes a point where that changes.

You are right. And there is no point trying to pursue a man who wants to keep playing the field. But let me tell you something about most players I know, when they fall in love, they fall hard. The danger is to see if it's a passing thing or just another strong emotion.

That said, I've known some men who never really wanted to play the field. I don't consider them lesser men, just more mature, earlier on.

Now relating this back to the OP and my last response, this is a key reason why I don't pursue. What Leadership and VC contributed is another great way to weed out the thrill seekers from the serious people.

- LA

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/29/2010 7:12:43 AM

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I have done both. But what works for me the best is if I am just straight up honest with him. I tell him I am interested and would like to pursue it to the next level. However, I kind of like the idea of a real take down and capture too. Once I know the feelings of interests are mutual, then it could be very hot to go after what I want.

The thought of setting traps and waiting for him to fall into it, does not appeal to me at all, unless he is aware it is part of my pursuit of him <s> Kind of like she chase him til he caught her scenerio. I wish more submissives were just as honest about what it is that they want, it would make it more easier to communicate with them.

MoGa

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/30/2010 4:02:29 AM

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It is a weeding out process on both sides. We should not lose sight of the fact we are bombarded with opportunities every day. That expression of interest come in many different forms. That chemistry drives both men and women. That often chemistry and opportunity fall to the wayside as time and priority become the mandate.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 4/30/2010 4:21:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: JhonDean

It is a weeding out process on both sides. We should not lose sight of the fact we are bombarded with opportunities every day. That expression of interest come in many different forms. That chemistry drives both men and women. That often chemistry and opportunity fall to the wayside as time and priority become the mandate.

Gosh, do you always use MBA speak when talking about matters of the heart? My my...

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/1/2010 5:06:56 AM

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Gosh, do you always use MBA speak when talking about matters of the heart? My my...

No, but I am a shy unassuming homely little fellow not so skilled in matters of the heart.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/1/2010 2:44:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: JhonDean

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Gosh, do you always use MBA speak when talking about matters of the heart? My my...

No, but I am a shy unassuming homely little fellow not so skilled in matters of the heart.

Matters of the heart are all about letting ourselves feel :-)

- LA

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/2/2010 12:26:08 PM

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When I was single, I preferred almost exclusively to be in the predatory/seductive mode. I tended to take charge of flirtation and the pace of intimacy and relationships/dating all on my own, and I was drawn toward men that fell in line with this kind of approach. Shy but strong, inexperienced, smart but introverted, classy yet playful. With men who were more traditional, I'd like to initiate flirtation and then basically leave the door open for them to adopt the traditional male role of courtship, but that led to some angst down the road if they were not going to be open to not being in charge, so those were more infrequent.

Nowadays the dynamic is different since I'm already partnered. When I see a man I want/like, I still enjoy being predatory and seductive and initiating control early on. At the same time, if a man takes interest in me, I expect him to be the one pursuing, or making the effort. There seems to be a weird kind of dynaminc in femdom circles online and at fetish events where it goes something like this:

Sub: Hello miss. I am interested in getting to know you, I think we may be a good match.
Femdom: Hello, thank you.
Sub: So what do you want to know about me? What do you want me to do next?

Or:

Sub: Hello miss, I am interested in getting to know you, I think we may be a good match.
Femdom: Hello, thank you.
(silence)
(silence)
(silence)
Sub: Oh well. I guess you aren't interested.

In other words, the sub initiates contact, but then expects the femdom to basically take control of the flirtation or "getting to know you" stage - totally. I have no problem doing this - *when I am attracted to a man* If he's just a random guy I have never talked to, I don't just automatically want to exert all the effort.

It ties into another pet peeve - the sub that starts initiating contact, then really makes no effort to ask questions or be engaging. He more waits to be questioned. On a place like CM, it's an email stream with her just asking, him answering, and then him asking nothing. After about three emails like this, I usually end contact. Unfortunately when I explain why I am no longer interested sometimes subs say "Oh I thought it was inappropriate for me to ask anything." It's as if they are already "in sub mode" just during a "get to know you phase."

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/2/2010 12:29:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
There seems to be a weird kind of dynaminc in femdom circles online and at fetish events where it goes something like this:

Sub: Hello miss. I am interested in getting to know you, I think we may be a good match.
Femdom: Hello, thank you.
Sub: So what do you want to know about me? What do you want me to do next?

Or:

Sub: Hello miss, I am interested in getting to know you, I think we may be a good match.
Femdom: Hello, thank you.
(silence)
(silence)
(silence)
Sub: Oh well. I guess you aren't interested.

Indeed. I got a generic one today:

Hello, Maam!

I have had the honor of serving a Domme before and have been trained to embrace the submissive side of the lifestyle. I am aware of the commitment and devotion it takes to please the demanding woman.

I seek a special Domme for caring servitude. I am emotionally secure. I am fully willing of relocating myself to the Mistress where I can spoil, pamper and make all of her lifestyle dreams come true. I am capable of serving within loving limits. I am honest and loyal in all respects. Please state your interests and what you seek of me.

I'm sure he won't be pleased with my one word answer: Nothing.

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/4/2010 10:54:12 PM

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I find that most that pursue me are more interested in my toy bag's contents than me as a person. LOL

I am old fashioned and prefer slaves to pursue me. Although I may like a slave by "looks" as they walk around near me and could spark that desire to 'possess,' however; I rather give subtle signs that I am interested and approachable. From there I can see if he is worthwhile to continue on with. But, most times I just chat politely and excuse myself when asked to help here and there with whip/cane skills. I don't want to work hard to hold onto someone to whom had to be followed. I much rather work to keep someone to whom comes forward and wishes to enter into my personal space. Once in my personal space, that person is the most important person in my whole world at that moment. Being old fashioned and "old" -- I don't attract many skirt chasers so, most who approach are welcomed and from there the established status as well as the hopes can be known.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/5/2010 1:57:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

I have done both. But what works for me the best is if I am just straight up honest with him. I tell him I am interested and would like to pursue it to the next level. However, I kind of like the idea of a real take down and capture too. Once I know the feelings of interests are mutual, then it could be very hot to go after what I want.

The thought of setting traps and waiting for him to fall into it, does not appeal to me at all, unless he is aware it is part of my pursuit of him <s> Kind of like she chase him til he caught her scenerio. I wish more submissives were just as honest about what it is that they want, it would make it more easier to communicate with them.

MoGa

As a sub i love the idea of being pursued by a dominant woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid of going after it & claiming it.
But i agree with MoGa, life will be much easier if everyone was honest about what they like & want.

@ladyA... i drool at the idea of being lured into one of your "little trap" and being all "caught up in your net!" ;-)
Lucky man who gets it...

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/6/2010 1:10:12 AM

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It's nice to see this thread is still alive

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RE: Do You Pursue if ... - 5/6/2010 1:14:12 AM

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I recently had one sub come on really strong. We got to know each other via the computer a bit. I really started liking him then "poof" he completely changes. Players come in all forms. It was fun for him to pursue until I got interested, then game over.

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