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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 8:18:54 AM

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Some of the local guys occasionally ask questions like "Whatever happened to that really hot chick with the long black hair?"

I trust that you do not mention the dumpster while answering.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 8:33:04 AM

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Out here in the sticks........you just need to know the local hog farmers...

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 8:38:45 AM

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Hi Domig--

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 9:55:09 AM

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The only friends of mine that know are the ones who were snoopy and went into my bedroom and accidentally saw my kinky "accoutrements." They asked what they were for and i simply said "for bdsm." When they asked what that was, i said to google it. One banished me from her life, one laughed and said "Wow, i'm kinky too, thank God i have another sub to talk to now!" and the rest said "I love you just the same as before I knew." As for family, only my sister found out because she kept badgering me about what personals site i was on and i reluctantly told her "Collarme," and she freaked out at first but now she just doesn't mention it & we've gone on with out lives as we did before.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 4:11:21 PM

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My friends know I like rough, kinky sex. They know i like dominant personality, controlling type of men.

They just shake their heads and shrug and we all go about our lives.

I also don't go around flaunting it either though and rarely comes up in conversation.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 7:13:59 PM

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Because my best friend works for the local sheriff's department I made sure she knew just in case I ended up injured accidentally at a party. She thought it was intriguing but didn't really *get* it. Now, she just figures I'm weird that way but she likes me anyway. Another friend thinks it's cool she can discuss that aspect of her life with me and my adult kids, my kids just don't want to have her discuss it with me if they are present. (We got the "She's *MOM*!" last night when we were discussing Leather Pride while they were there.)

No one else really needs to know how I choose to live in a relationship. While I enjoy a little kink, I'm really more interested in the day-to-day living in a D/s or M/s relationship. Very few people actually notice how I behaved with Santa, though there was the famous water bottle incident that they described away as us being "newly dating". Very few people really want to know that much detail about someone else's life even if they are involved in "the lifestyle".

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 7:22:57 PM

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I am very private and my friends and familly dont know exept one girlfriend ,
i would not risk anything to to shock them,, i dont need their approval,, it is just me ,, and i just dont need to tell
it wont change who i am

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 7:23:26 PM

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As WyldHrt can verify, there is no banner hung above the gate saying 'Submissive Masochistic Slut Lives Here'; our welcome mat doesn't say - 'Warning Sadist Inside - Enter At Your Own Risk'.

Ooooh, can we put those up the next time I visit?

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Family, especially our 22 year old professional 'students', get told; "there is going to be old naked people in the pool/jacuzzi running around with floggers and whips here on Saturday night, you may want to take in a movie."

He's really not kidding, y'all

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We were knida hoping they'd be disgusted and move out as more about the way we live became apparent to them; however, we made a terrible mistake in raising them - they actually don't care. [snip][/snip] Yeah - they're STILL living here, even after we added 'karaoke' to the weird stuff our parents and their friends do when they come over to party.

Did you really think that would work? LOL!

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We really don't know who has "found out", but "friends" don't react at all.

.... and good friends ask to borrow your dungeon

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 8:03:00 PM

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My sex life has never been anyones concern .. other than those involved in it.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/3/2010 10:08:00 PM

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My family knows nothing more about my sex life than I know about theirs--which is to say they know nothing. My sister knows that I defer more to Master than I did to my ex-husband, but she rarely says anything about it.

A couple of my friends know that I met Master by placing an ad looking for kinky sex on craigslist, but that's all they know. They are fine with the kinky sex part, but I suspect that they would be alarmed if they knew how deep my submission is, so I don't mention it. There's no reason to mention it except to cause a lot of drama.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/4/2010 6:04:10 PM

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I haven't told anyone yet.

Although my flatmate has decided I am kinky because I said I would totally tap Michael Jackson in the Thriller video. And I don't mean just the cute red outfit. I mean the entire zombie makeup and everything.

She wouldn't be greatly surprised if I told her.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/5/2010 8:03:17 AM

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That is if you have revealed it to them of course.

Were the reactions positive or negative? Did you lose any friends over it?

I am coming in late to this thread, but I wanted to answer it *Big smile*

Everyone in my family knows about me and wiitid. My former subs have all been YEARS younger than myself, and my family has either met them or know of them. They accept me for who I am, without judgement. I am blessed that way *smile*

So my first answer, answers your second question. There was no reaction one way or the other. They worry as most family's do, but they also know that I practice safely, sanely and consentually. They understand the basics of wiitid, but they don't ask and I don't parade it in front of them. With the exception of bringing my former subs (30 years my junior) to family get-togethers. They accepted them as they would anyone I have brought around for them to meet. They understood what their roles were in my life, and didn't think twice about seeing them sitting on the floor at my feet (Nothing kinky about that). My subs have enjoyed themselves around my sisters, in fact one of my sisters held a birthday party for my former when he turned 19. The other took my other out to karaoke and welcomed him into her home. Of course, her boyfriend is 20 years her junior, so that helps lol

Have I lost friends because of wiitid? Strangely enough, the friends I have lost have been lifestyle friends, because they couldn't accept my dynamic with my boy. They say that those in this lifestyle (shudders) are more patient and tolerant? Not on your life. I have met more judgemental people within this life, than outside of it.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/5/2010 8:08:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: BerryDelicious

That is if you have revealed it to them of course.

Were the reactions positive or negative? Did you lose any friends over it?

Most of my friends who I hold close know of my kinky appetites. Any who deem it is their place to condone me on my personal life are quick to find they are permanently excluded from my life...no second chances.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/7/2010 8:09:07 AM

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After all the whacky shit I have pulled in my life, nothing I do surprises either family or close friends at this point.
I've always been adventurous in most areas of my life, that I have been, and continue to be in the bedroom would shock no one who knows me at all.
And that I like control, being in charge, getting shit done, abhor excuses and believe in immediate consequences, yeah, that'll knock em over with a feather....

Really, domination is not what I do, it's an extension of who I am, which makes all the difference.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/7/2010 9:29:47 AM

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I never officially revealed anything, but it is kind of obvious. Nobody was all that surprised.

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/7/2010 11:20:31 AM

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yes some things need to remain private .. but also .. i think this country is too conservative in europe they show naked women on tv with no problems

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/7/2010 11:34:34 AM

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Parents, not so much, but my mom and I do talk about sex, and our sex lives and stuff to a small degree, but friends, and that covers coworkers too, but not in the work enviroment, that juicy lil talk needs to wait till off the clock, if we're close enough for that topic , Sure.

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Do you really want to know in detail, a blow by blow description as it were, of what your coworker did the previous night? Or your parents?

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/7/2010 12:08:31 PM

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Don't ask, don't tell :) cheers

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/8/2010 4:04:47 AM

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Only time i talked to my friends about stuff like bdsm and other kinks was when we were all drunk and talking way too much and making too much noise. By the morning no one knew what we talked about or even where we were or how we got here.
God bless massive amounts of booze!

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RE: How did your friends react to finding out you are k... - 5/8/2010 3:28:23 PM

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Any friend of mine still haven't found out that I was kinky , but I have found out two close friends of mine were kinky.

Once I have discovered a blog that was written by a Turkish girl (me and my friends are from Turkey, by the way) about the kinky things she had done with her switch boyfriend and many other things that belong to a diary. Of course her real ID was hidden, unfortunately we aren't living in a society that a girl can talk about those things in comfort. The strange part about this blog was the events being perfectly parallel to what was lived by a certain friend of mine, a girl again who likes blogging. I had been following my friend's personal journal and knew the exact dates of the events like her breraking up with her girlfriend or ordering a coffee with nuts in Starbucks, which were also mentioned in the kinky blog at the exact dates, as well.

I was surprised to see my two close friends, who used to be a couple, are actually switches. So she was, when I revealed my kinky side to her. Then we discussed BDSM and how we got involved, etc. We were closer friends now with our new secrets.

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