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RE: A question about collars - 3/27/2004 8:53:39 PM

MistressDREAD

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You are right ~smiles~ in My Opinion....

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You are right in these words as well ~smiles~ in My Opinion.....
When I felt it was time, I collared her.
It was not a question. It was not an offering.
It was a claiming. It is done in a somewhat
ritualistic setting.

Alternate Lifestyles are diverse and so is the ways that the different types of Alternates practice that which They Live.......slavery is concensual and must be desired and begged for in order for the slave to feel enslaved to be free. submission is the act of submitting to sumthing and the act of claiming of the sub makes clear the wants of the Dominant at the moment and the choice left up to the sub to either accept or decline the claim or collar if You will...................a slave only chooses once to become a slave and then becomes enslaved, and a sub chooses every day what they will submit to or not.

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RE: A question about collars - 3/27/2004 9:30:23 PM

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I have been in and out of the lifestyle since 17 and I have lived as sub and as slave. I don't think there is a rule set in stone when it comes to collars and what they represent.

If a Dom/Master expresses his wishes as to how he desires to have the question of collaring handled then I respect his wishes and do it in a a way that pleases him. However, if he does not express his opinion on the issue and I want to wear his collar I follow the protocol that I was taught a long time ago. And that is to write what I have always heard called a Vow of Acceptance which is a request to be collared submitted by the sub/slave to the Dom/Master.

If anyone has aninterest in this I will send a copy of one I sent to my Master asking that he accept me as his slave.
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RE: A question about collars - 3/28/2004 2:23:57 AM

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MixSuz,

The most current is the CB-3000. They also make something called the curve for well endowed men or those with high balls. (A picture of a curve is on my profile, if you can ever find it.

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RE: A question about collars - 3/29/2004 9:58:00 AM

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dear Katarina,

as a submissive, it was my Master who purchased the collar for me and put it on. He called it my "training collar". I still have it and wear it when with Him. He told me that it was to be treated with untmost respect as it signifies and reminds of His ownership.

He told me that there are degrees of collaring too. i.e., the statement, 'my training collar'.

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RE: A question about collars - 4/3/2004 2:17:24 PM

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I use a choke chain collar as a rule for play.I think that a collar in itself is a symbol of ownership but when you think of how many people have not outed themselves as a sub or slave in our society is tremedous.Kinda reminds me of a secret society. But that is entirely up to the individual and I would not push a person to "out" themselves because of my ego.Idealistically I would love to see any of mine wear a symbol of my ownership but I think knowing that sub's mind soul and body is already mine is enough for me.I would much rather prefer them wear my mark such as in a tattoo of my design if I choose to keep that sub indefinitely but alas I have not yet found that sub that I would mark...sigh..so in my situation a collar is something I use only for "play".But then again every Dom/me thinks differently,this is just my opinion on the subject..

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RE: A question about collars - 4/10/2004 8:26:29 PM

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I see the collar as the equivalent of a wedding band, but in the BDSM lifestyle. I see it as two separate types of commitment.

My question to all of you is this...what about removing collars? Do any of you have any specific rituals for collar removal? I know, not the best subject, but I have seen some overly dramatic rituals and some feel it is not that important. Any thoughts on this?

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RE: A question about collars - 4/12/2004 9:08:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressKiss
My question to all of you is this...what about removing collars? Do any of you have any specific rituals for collar removal? I know, not the best subject, but I have seen some overly dramatic rituals and some feel it is not that important. Any thoughts on this?

While the "removal ritual" does not need to be overly dramatic, I do think it adds a good bit of closure. It is the end of one thing and the beginning of another. There is much to be said for such a well defined, clean, break. If done right it leaves no doubt in the minds of the pair involved as to the status of the relationship. Which should help them move on to other things.

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RE: A question about collars - 12/24/2004 2:59:00 AM

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so many names here in the beginning now blatently absent......

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RE: A question about collars - 12/24/2004 7:41:17 PM

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i've only worn one collar (a necklace with mini goldhandcuffs on it). Except for a brief period after spinal surgery i wore it 24/7, for 3 years. After my Master's unexpected death, i ended up having to remove it myself. It was the hardest thing i've ever done...far more difficult than when i had removed my (ex's) wedding ring 4 years before.

Since then i've had several relationships, although none reached the collar stage. However, those that ended without even a goodbye were hard -- not because i had been madly in love, or even lust, nor because i felt this deep calling to serve him, but because there was no closure, no chance to ask why, to grow. It seems to me that a collar that has been given out of love or respect or any of the other thousand reasons, should be removed, imho, the same way.

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ORIGINAL: MistressKiss
My question to all of you is this...what about removing collars? Do any of you have any specific rituals for collar removal? I know, not the best subject, but I have seen some overly dramatic rituals and some feel it is not that important. Any thoughts on this?

While the "removal ritual" does not need to be overly dramatic, I do think it adds a good bit of closure. It is the end of one thing and the beginning of another. There is much to be said for such a well defined, clean, break. If done right it leaves no doubt in the minds of the pair involved as to the status of the relationship. Which should help them move on to other things.

Just my .02
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RE: A question about collars - 12/24/2004 8:36:24 PM

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I know some don't think a collar is required but for my slave she not only recognizes the spirit of the commitment it offers or symbolizes but she also uses it as a source of strength by tugging on it herself sometimes when I am not around and she is in stressful situations. That rather impressed me and really showed me the value a collar can have for someone even if it is a material item.

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