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ORIGINAL: pompeii
That's the game. If anyone in the Silicon Valley wishes to improve this recipe, please do (I could use the help too!). :)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
You skipped mentioning Edges.  They have a number of events during the month that are tailor made for new folks starting out.

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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Ad-hoc recipe for a San Jose Dom looking for a slave:

Step 1: You're in San Jose. There are three munches here in the south bay. Google "Southern Cross Munch" which meets this Friday at 6pm and show up. If you're there, I can talk to you there. Likewise, try the San Jose Munch on Mondays, and the so-called Palo Alto Munch on Wednesdays. That's a start. If you don't know what a munch is, google it. Go to one or more of these munches periodically; and, if you're worth it, a slave will come to you (see, easy!).

Step 2:  At the same time, get some practice being a Dom. Take $150 out of your pocket and drive up 101 to Mountainview. Next to the Costco should be the backdrop club (www.backdrop.net). Pick a lovely winsome gal and have your way with her for an hour. Tie her up. Slap her ass. Clamp her tits. Have her on her knees blindfolded in front of you - whatever you like, she'll do (within reason).

Step 3: Get some more experience. This time hike out to Oakland across the Bay Bridge and head over to the Victorian house called www.thegatessm.com. Plop $160 (you're in graduate school now), and again choose a winsome lass to have your way with. They will be very accommodating. They'll interview you first, to see what you want to do, and then they'll choose a room which contains all the equipment you could want for stringing her up and having your way with her. She'll obey your every command (again, within reason). Ask me how I know.

Step 4: The penultimate step is to join Fetlife, Bondage.com, Alt.com, and/or Collarme.com. Be active. Be reactive. Add a profile but, as noted, learn to spell and use grammar properly; even learn to use a semicolon - the slave gals love when you complete a sentence properly w/o making any grammatical mistakes. Leave the mistakes to the subs.

Step 5. Point your browser to sfbay.craigslist.com and post an ad or two. Say who you are and what you want. You'll get plenty of action, trust me. You will have to deal with spammers and scammers but that's life. You'll have to meet them and talk to them and take them to lunches and dinner, but, again, that's all the fun isn't it? You will meet plenty of flakes and fakes; but, if you persist, you WILL find yourself a willingly submissive and compatible slave to your needs (bearing in mind that you'll be providing her far more, in then end, than she will be providing you), by way of attention and thought and effort.

That's the game. If anyone in the Silicon Valley wishes to improve this recipe, please do (I could use the help too!). :)

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ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Find a literacy programme in your area.

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ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Find a literacy programme in your area.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Hi Focus,
Just to clarify.... I didn't think you were mean spirited. I think you made a point with humor. That seems pretty positive.

Best,
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Philip,
There are a lot of jerks in the world. Sadly, you have encountered some of them here already. Don't worry about it.

I'm thinking you speak at least one other language (tonal perhaps? Like.... Chinese?) and perhaps even a third. I wonder how many of the critics here can do that. You are gracious and open minded!

And remember... this stuff is supposed to be fun!

best,
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Find a literacy programme in your area.