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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 4:30:28 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Because I am--after years of wondering, thinking I was perverse--I am like GoddessDusty and Lordandmaster said---It allows Me to be Me--and in My life--I rule--but I dont rule as well without the "kink"--<smiles>.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 4:34:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me I am in control of everything in my life. I like to give up all control even if for just a few hours. Have someone else make all of the decissions. I like the pain. I love the mind F*** aspects. ahhh there is so much that draws me in.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 4:38:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou
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ORIGINAL: fastlane
What is the main attraction of BDSM...? 

*No-nonsense kink. 
*What keeps me interested is the, in concept idea of breaking both parties down into the raw components of who they are.
*I've tried to force unknowingly Dom/Sub style relationships in vanilla world, but it doesn't work at least I never got it to.  I guess I'm attracted because this is the obvious place to find a counterpart who feels the same way about a relationship dynamic and has already come to terms with it. 
*Kink to me  is  a small  part really, as far as  importance goes. 
*Do, I want kink, yes, but it doesn't appear as much so as others do. But ultimately to me it's really about finding someone who gets what I am, and I get what she is, and being comfortable and content with it, and world be damned.
*Ah, what can I say I'm a romantic Now where's that whip.


Totally on the same page as you!  This lifestyle allows freedom in ways the vanilla does not.  I like the raw honesty of the human soul and needs.  I enjoy the control and dominance.  I enjoy the caring and true love the can develop btwn a Dom/Sub or Master/Sub.  It's raw, honest, true, upfront.  There's not a hidden agenda if the relationship is based on that.  I am more into be able to find a D/s relationship with all these qualities with some vanilla mixed in b/c we still have to live life.  It just gives me the comfort zone I have been so frustrated with in the vanilla.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 4:50:31 AM   
catize


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Status: offline 		The intensity, the dichotomy, the bite of the whip, sub-space, to feel connected, to feel I am where I belong. 

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 4:55:28 AM   
foxnotinsox


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ORIGINAL: fastlane
What is the main attraction of BDSM...? 
For me it is the fact I'm kinky, what about you all?


Ummmmmmmm that fact that you're kinky holds no attraction to BDSM for me at all! heheheheh .... and I don't think I could pinpoint one thing that attracts me ... rather, it is EVERYTHING =)

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 5:04:04 AM   
SirLordTrainer


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Status: offline 		To Me personally after picking up that first book and reading.. it was My calling in life, the consensual control, the mutual respect, the whole D/s power exchange dynamic.. That was 12 years ago. And the journey continues ....

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 5:23:33 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I love the TPE and the way I feel so free to be me. I love the pain I receive especially from spankings and the floggers. Haven't broke out the canes yet! I love being a little girl and ordered to be sponteanous and play. I love being his slut that will do anything he ask me to do. So far it's all been groovy!!

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 5:59:48 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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attraction of BDSM...?
For me it is the fact I'm kinky, what about you all?

I have no idea.

Some things just turn me on.  I've got lots of things that turn me on- some of which are completely vanilla, and some of which aren't vanilla but aren't part of the "standard" kink set.

And I see no reason to limit what turns me on.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 6:34:09 AM   
MochaMistress


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Status: offline 		Like its has been previously said. It lets me be me. I too tried to fit D/s in to a vanilla relationship. It doesnt work if you dont have a like minded person to be the Peanut butter for your jelly. 

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 8:00:35 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello All,
For me it's the releasing of my control to someone that I trust to take me on an incredible journey. It's having a way to rest in someone elses control and not have to make decisions. It's being permitted to mirror the energy someone else shines on me freely as a gift. And it's the affection, time, skill and attention that washes over me in sensation play of all kinds.

It's much like a wolf needing to howl. It's a naural instinct from deep in me that I need to express to feel whole.
Suzanne

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 8:20:35 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: amayos

Power, pleasure, primality and animalism. Beyond the cuffs, latex, fur and feathers, such structure is a gateway to merging with the atlantean portions of a more visceral and hardwired human psyche. It's magnificently mammalian and reptilian at once. At least, that's how I feel it to be.
   Gotta say this Amayos..I really love your vocabulary! At times when you write you practically make me taste your words.Ach!..I wish I could adequately explain what I mean...but there it is..be well..tempting

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 8:58:42 PM   
UtopianRanger


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ORIGINAL: fastlane

What is the main attraction of BDSM...? 
For me it is the fact I'm kinky, what about you all?


Kevin..... besides the fact that I love adrenalin, I have the same outlook.


 - R


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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 9:42:05 PM   
CERCKL


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Status: offline 		Kinky??? So-o-o-o-o-o that's what I've been doing wrong.

Creation. I create...that is who I am. In relationships which are not D/s that aspect of control is both a draw and a resentment...this allows that to be recognized as a positive. As for the BDSM the exchange, intensity, discovery which can be derived from the stimuli...activities.

Now what was that about kink?

C


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RE: I was wondering? - 4/7/2006 10:19:19 PM   
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Happy Easter Y'all!!  i'm headed out of town on 4/8 and won't be bac until 4/20.  Take care... and may all your easter egs be sweet, plastic and yummy!!!!!!!  

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Hugs and kisses for all who wants 'em. :)
bye y'all....

love, jimini


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RE: I was wondering? - 4/8/2006 9:31:33 AM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		I find it highly erotic. The attention to detail. The look on his face. Heightened sexual tension. His need, my need...If I go much further here, I'll end up writing porn.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/8/2006 9:55:30 AM   
ShibariJon


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Status: offline 		I am deviant , for many years this disturbed me and I resisted the dark desires that clutched at me. It was not until I admited my fantasy / desire to another that I found relief.
Before , I was vanilla who was afraid of my kink , now I am  merely masquerading as a vanilla to those who do not know who I am.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/8/2006 10:26:14 AM   
saltygoodness27


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Status: offline 		For me it's the lose of control.  I've always kind of loved that moment in life when you either make a decision or the situation is taken out of your hands, and you no longer *have* to have control.  But it's even better when someone takes that control from me.

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RE: I was wondering? - 4/8/2006 1:23:17 PM   
mongo44


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Status: offline 		It's the control.  To take my sub through waves of pain and pleasure, to tease her, see her desperate for sexual release,  to be in absolute control of her senses.



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