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Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:05:46 PM   
kuppykake


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Status: offline 		Isn't my new word awesome?  Vanillers haha...  Okay I don't know if this may sound silly to some, but here goes.   To just about everybody around us, my relationship with my Master is completely vanilla.  The main reason for this is because I have a business which requires me to uphold a reputation, and unfortunately the lifestyle I live is considered taboo to most.  I have this fear that one day I am going to slip up and call him Master in front of someone I shouldn't.  What on earth would I do if that happened?  What the heck should I say??  I am getting so used to calling him Master, I just know it's gonna happen...ugh!
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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:12:21 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		If it happens, just act like nothing happened at all.  Whoever overheard will wonder what the heck you said, but won't ask about it.  And so it will rest.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:12:26 PM   
jfarb88


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Status: offline 		I had an ex that made this slip up.

I just laughed and said it was an inside joke. That personally worked for me.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:13:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think about the only thing you could do if it happened is to pass it off as an inside joke.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:30:01 PM   
pompeii


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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:32:58 PM   
WyldHrt


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Status: offline 		Tell them you called him "bastard". That should work. 

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 10:56:35 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		With the diversity of names different people adress me as, one more will make no difference. One bloke used to call me "Colonel Sanders" and when asked I used to say the the Colonel was accurate but the name Sanders is not and has never been part of my name and I do not speak with a southern drawl. Just make a joke of it and tell them it is your personal pet name for him.. That may even raise his image in the eyes of some too. 

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 11:22:33 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I agree, fob it off as an inside joke.  Or maybe say you have a philosphy in life, where he is master and you are student, like as in a dojo setting, or martial arts.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 11:34:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		If this is all you have to be concerned about.... you live a charmed life.  Most ppl I know worry about kids, work, money, how there gonna put the kid thru school.  But nooooooooo your worried about???  geez get your priorities right

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 11:52:03 PM   
AquaticSub


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Either laugh, say it's an inside joke from a long time ago that isn't worth explaining or don't call him master. Come up with a new term that is unique to you both that won't cause stress.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/6/2010 11:55:03 PM   
reynardfox


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Status: offline 		Tell them you secretly train ninjas.

Actually the term Vanillers lacks the venom of a Lady fetishist I know from Liverpool who coined the word "Frigginillas" that always cracks me up when said with sufficient scorn, and the 'nillas never get it.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 12:10:36 AM   
kuppykake


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii

Have you been diagnosed with anxiety disorder yet?


haha...that along with adhd and intermittent explosive disorder muahahaha...I am one crazy bitch lol


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

If this is all you have to be concerned about.... you live a charmed life.  Most ppl I know worry about kids, work, money, how there gonna put the kid thru school.  But nooooooooo your worried about???  geez get your priorities right

BadOne



who said that was all I worry about??  To be honest though, right now, yes my life is quite charmed thank you.  I try not to let stress and worrying play a big part in my life.  Perhaps you should try it.



As for everyone else, thank you for the advice, I guess passing it off as a joke will have to work, although telling them I secretly train ninjas sounds so much more awesome  :P

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 12:18:16 AM   
dvart


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Status: offline 		The problem is that you were with your Master for such a long time in a vanilla relationship before he became your Master.
Have your vanilla friends remarked on any difference in the last year ?
It is easy to imagine that vanilla people will read significance into just one word.
But they have probably already picked up on more subtle hints such as a difference in body language or the way you dress.
No reason to tell your vanilla friends any more than you want to, but I suspect that you are proud of your Master and your slavery and really wish you could share it a bit with your vanilla friends.
But again you can afford to be relaxed, you could for example say that your friend/husband has become more "masterful" of late without revealing more than you want.
Good luck and try to relax.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 12:20:10 AM   
aldompdx


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Status: offline 		Tell the truth -- that sometimes he is a total slave driver. People perceive things within the scope of their own life experience. So, let them do just that.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 12:26:03 AM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		yep yep  yep kuppy obviously you are concerned about it ...after all you did bring it up not me.  I never meant to imply I dont have a charmed life. ThankYouVeryMuch.  After all I spend my summers sailing the great lakes.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 12:39:11 AM   
kuppykake


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Status: offline 		Well I was just saying that just because I brought it up doesn't mean it's the ONLY thing that concerns me..  I asked for advice, and there are ways to give genuine advice without being a smartass....ThankYouVeryMuch..

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 3:40:40 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Yep, ditto you just fob it off as a private joke from when he was acting all bossy and controlling.... And later you get the stare of disapproval and stern words for forgetting - which helps your future memory. Or you would from me.

Fobbing off smartarse strangers works quite well, too. Just don't give the obnoxious the cheap thrill of a reaction. If you were a big bad Dom like moi, you'd know that completely ignoring the irrelevant is a compelling response in its own right.

Focus.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 5:31:39 AM   
GraciousLady


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ORIGINAL: aldompdx

Tell the truth -- that sometimes he is a total slave driver. People perceive things within the scope of their own life experience. So, let them do just that.


This is the way the world works. people generally stay very much on the surface of things so will not delve deeper unless you aggresivly prompt them. Also, kuppykake I see no reason to laugh at the nilla people. Their lifestyle is as valid as yours.

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 5:39:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Tell them you secretly train ninjas.

Actually the term Vanillers lacks the venom of a Lady fetishist I know from Liverpool who coined the word "Frigginillas" that always cracks me up when said with sufficient scorn, and the 'nillas never get it.


^ jUST EPIC

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RE: Calling him Master in front of vanillers - 5/7/2010 5:47:08 AM   
divi


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Status: offline 		Without sounding like a smartass...

Seriously you really need advice on this one. You are a business woman ?



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