Mercnbeth
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I'm so glad you knew my maturity level at age 15. Things happen, instead of dragging the OPs friend thru the mud for being fooled, showing little support like in the other thread is what I ment. Or as someone else has been known to say on here, not a single person on here can not claim to of ever not been fooled, or done some fooling themselves.
tears,
I don't see anyone not supporting the duped person, but if she considered any of the advise given in response to this thread or the countless others referencing cyber misrepresentations she could have avoided this. Consider the "dragging through the mud" isn't necessarily directed at the OP's friend but the many more still in situations like the OP's friend but don't know it.
It seems pretty basic, but prevention is relatively easy. If you plan on meeting the person you are chatting with on-line, don't cyber. At least don't cyber until you've established and verified exactly who they are. The second relates to the first; meet as soon as possible. Whether you use my own "two weeks" rule or two months get off the computer. For a $30 background check to work you have to have the correct information to check. In this case if you got the mothers info or even an older sisters the charade would have continued. What may work is just asking for the verification in the first place. If they provide it, maybe they are properly representing themselves.
Don't know if this comes into the "dragging"; but the other issue is we are living in the age of entrapment. If this person's adults found the correspondence we may be reading about the OP's friend in a different medium than this site. If for no other reason it should but fear in those playing on-line without knowing exactly who is on the other side of the keyboard.
This goes beyond arguing the legitimacy of any cyber versus real time debate. It's not even worth interjecting the marital status of the cyber players. This incident illustrates that it may be as dangerous or maybe even more dangerous to be playing on line versus meeting. Guess what? No matter who contacted who first, and who said what to whom, the adolescent "domme" would never be subjected to the consequences incurred by the OP's friend. Just something else to think about the next time you have an "intense" session with a newly met on-line player.
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