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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 7:38:07 AM   
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I have to say I did find it strange that someone might contact the aforementioned mistress, unless of course, they know her, in that case, I would expect nothing less.
As far a privacy goes, that went out the window with the OP's posting of her name.


I agree with you.  I just think this is a good example of why you shouldn't post names - and the OP was very inconsiderate doing so.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 7:43:02 AM   
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FR

Her profile turns up on my homepage pretty regularly-she's one of a few Dommes on my mental 'I reckon the pictures genuinely belong to the person' list, so I was surprised to read the OP. I was being nosey, I freely admit that-I make no claims about being nice to everyone.

As for privacy: this thread has had 1150 hits so far-this isn't someone telling a few white lies about this Domme to a couple of friends, this is someone broadcasting in a public place where she is searching for relationships that she's agreed to do something that she hasn't. I don't much value his privacy after that.

Edited cause I got some digits the wrong way round.



Like I said to blushes, I believe that the OP was inconsiderate to name her.  But equally, I don't see why someone would contact someone they don't know and ask personal questions.  That said, she responded - that's her loss.  I would have told you to mind your own business, unless you had only contacted me to make me aware that I was being written about - even then I would have found that odd if I had never had contact with you before and it would have made me question your motives.  Regardless, it's not HIS privacy that was the point, but hers.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 7:57:24 AM   
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I would have told you to mind your own business, unless you had only contacted me to make me aware that I was being written about - even then I would have found that odd if I had never had contact with you before and it would have made me question your motives.  Regardless, it's not HIS privacy that was the point, but hers.
I told her first, and was clear about my motives-that I'd always assumed she was real, but that I was wondering about him and was curious to know if  he actually had anything to do with her.

I didn't pretend to have any other motive than sheer darned nosiness-no questioning needed, and she was free to tell me to shove it if she wanted to.


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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 8:07:56 AM   
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I would have told you to mind your own business, unless you had only contacted me to make me aware that I was being written about - even then I would have found that odd if I had never had contact with you before and it would have made me question your motives.  Regardless, it's not HIS privacy that was the point, but hers.
I told her first, and was clear about my motives-that I'd always assumed she was real, but that I was wondering about him and was curious to know if  he actually had anything to do with her.

I didn't pretend to have any other motive than sheer darned nosiness-no questioning needed, and she was free to tell me to shove it if she wanted to.



As I said, if you told her you were going to post about her for discussion on the boards, then that is up to her.  You are just fortunate she was kind enough to respond.  If that were me, I would have told you to mind your own business so fair enough, I don't see why you felt compelled to interfere with someone who had not posted, but we are just different people.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 10:21:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 10:28:12 AM   
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I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*


Since you are under the protection of my chocolate 'tribute' collar - they better let me know too!

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 10:34:43 AM   
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I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*

I was thinking the same thing.  Especially if it was someone I hadn't even met.


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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 12:06:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		The only difference between the op's antics and what others routinely do is mentioning the person by name. Aside from this, it is commonplace to see active discussions about interactions that have never been cemented through in person meetings. For what its worth, I wouldn't be writing her or calling her by name either. But to each his own.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 12:07:39 PM   
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I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*


Hello Wyldone
Telling you about it I can understand - letting a person know, with no other agenda is cool enough like I said before.  Wanting someone to discuss my choices with me and asking questions when I have never spoken to them before would have my red flags flying, regardless, it's just freaky to me.  Some stranger on the net writing and asking personal questions?  Don't we get posts moaning about that all the time and the usual response is that they are a troll and to block/ignore/delete.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 12:15:55 PM   
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I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*

I was thinking the same thing.  Especially if it was someone I hadn't even met.



Master sends his regards Lady Pact - Hope you and yours are well!
If someone messaged me and said 'Just thought you might want to know that someone wrote about you on the forums and you might like to check it out' then I agree if someone was just doing it to be kind, but as I said before, with the caveat of being told they were just being nosey and asking about it and then posting about it on the same thread just doesn't dig for me.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 1:16:00 PM   
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Hi All,
I am a slave who is owned by Mistress Lucylon and will soon be going to live with her 24/7 in a cage. I am an extreme slave who has served a Mistress for 3 years in a liv in slave position. She kept me in confinment once for 6 months chained up and only using me for her pleasure. I am now hoping to get this for life with my Mistress. I hope she will be able to break me completely to the point where i am nothing, does anyone know of any Mistresses who have ever done anything like this and also if this can be done?
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You can't break someone with self-worth....yeah you may piss them off....and you may have them doubting themselves as that's pretty normal....but anyone with self-worth will get it together and walk away from you at some point.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 1:16:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		No offence, .dark, but is 'is this guy genuine?' (my words in the memo) *really* that personal a question?


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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 2:33:55 PM   
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No offence, .dark, but is 'is this guy genuine?' (my words in the memo) *really* that personal a question?



Er yeah.
It's creepy in itself.  And honestly - were you some random person who wasn't a regular participant in these forums, you would get berated to hell for it and be called a troll.  But because people 'kinda' think they know you, no one is really saying much.

If you had written to me - and this is ME and MY feelings on this - and said;
"Hi, you don't know me and we've never emailed, but I just wanted to give you the heads up on the fact that your profiles been mentioned on the forums and it was a bit of a weird post - do what you like with it but I felt if it were me, I'd like to know"
That wouldn't concern me and it would be all cool and I'd think - that's was kind.

But if you've just written someone randomly and just said - 'This guys written about you on the forum and I was just wanting to know, Seriously, is this guy genuine?' I'd be like - what the fuck is it to do with you? 

And then to top it all, to come onto the forum and report back what was said?  Well, unless shes ok'd that (which she might of, I don't know and you haven't been open with that info) as well, then yeah - I define it as creepy and way beyond the norm.  If she has ok'd you to discuss it on the forums, then frankly - for me - you are all participating in doofuss drama.

I mean honestly, what right do you have, other than some freedom of speach notion, to come on here and just ridicule some guy, who sure, might be a fantasist, but in doing so - take some other profile along for the ride?

I know that what is posted on here is free meat, I'm not that naive.  But to start airing some conversation you had, with permission or without (we don't know) is just tasteless - it's like fucking chinese whispers.  But like I said, that is my opinion and not everyones going to agree with me.  All I have is one side of the explaination and even that is fairly fragmented.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 4:52:30 PM   
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Master sends his regards Lady Pact - Hope you and yours are well!
If someone messaged me and said 'Just thought you might want to know that someone wrote about you on the forums and you might like to check it out' then I agree if someone was just doing it to be kind, but as I said before, with the caveat of being told they were just being nosey and asking about it and then posting about it on the same thread just doesn't dig for me.

the.dark.

Thank you, the.dark.  Please give Mine to him and for yourself as well.

I think I see this from the other way around because I've had folks try to use My name as a reference when I had never even met them before.  It ticks Me off each time it happens.  (Which is why I now have a standard policy of sending an email any time I give someone information on how to find a private group, etc and whether I've met that person or not.)  I'd be even more displeased if someone was calling themselves My sub on some message board when that wasn't the case.

If I was the Dominant that was named in the original post, I doubt I would have anything to do with the writer after presenting a falsehood about Me on a public message board.

I hope you are well.  I love the new avatar.


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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 4:59:24 PM   
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I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*


Oh gosh, if someone came on the boards saying they were in a relationship with me (and wasn't), they'd be blocked, after of course getting not such a Ladylike letter.

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 5:02:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		In the spirit of this thread, I'd just like to take this moment to announce that the relationship between myself and VaguelyCurious is about to enter a new phase where she moves to Colorado and becomes my submissive.

No fair informing her of this.


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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 5:10:56 PM   
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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 5:26:18 PM   
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Edited to capitalize ME, now that I'm gonna be a Domme I can use big letters

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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 5:36:24 PM   
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RE: Breaking a Slave - 5/14/2010 6:39:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

I dunno, .dark, if I wasn't on the boards and someone came here writing that they were in a relationship with me, I'd kind of hope someone would tell me about it. *shrug*


I would as well. But that's what makes the world so interesting; we all see things in different ways.

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