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LadyAngelika -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/13/2010 8:48:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

This statement will be true for any woman who has authentic charm. But I'd say persuade or influence rather than control, but that's me.

- LA



Just occasionally, men can do that to women, too. But it does indeed feel like persuading or influencing rather than controlling.


Absolutely. I know some very charming men who have women doing all sorts of nice things for them. That is why I say it is about charm. If if is fake charm, it will eventually exposed, but authentic charm will last.

- LA




LadyAngelika -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/13/2010 8:50:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Men aren't ruled by women, silly! [8|]

They're ruled by their hormones. Their (generally) high levels of testosterone make them want to fuck everything in sight. What disturbs me the most about this, is that a lot of them seem pretty clueless about that, and a lot of the the ones that have some self-awareness about it don't seem to use the knowledge to their advantage.


Really? Funny, I read about this all the time, but when I think of the amazing men I have close to me in my life, none of this meet this definition. I'm talking about healthy, heterosexual, good looking, successful, intelligent men who have high standards and would not fuck just anything in sight.

I feel privileged.

- LA




MarcEsadrian -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/13/2010 9:01:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Men aren't ruled by women, silly! [8|]

They're ruled by their hormones.


Aren't we all ruled by our hormones and genes? Some male spiders risk and often become victims of cannibalization a la mating. While it could be said it is their need to replicate their genes that is really at play, it still doesn't mean she isn't making a tasty after-sex snack of him.




LadyAngelika -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/13/2010 9:07:31 PM)

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Aren't we all ruled by our hormones and genes?


Influenced, yes. Ruled, no, not all of us.

- LA




hardbodysub -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/13/2010 9:08:27 PM)

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I'd have to wonder what the working relationship between the two individuals you spoke of was


Ummm...I thought it was pretty clear. He was the pizza delivery guy.




cloudboy -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/13/2010 9:31:38 PM)

The attractive always has power over the attracted. The trouble is, the attractive is often repulsed by what it attracted.

So what seems like power to a man (I can't stop thinking about her) might feel more like a curse to a woman (why can't these creeps leave me alone.)




JhonDean -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 3:01:34 AM)

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Really? Funny, I read about this all the time, but when I think of the amazing men I have close to me in my life, none of this meet this definition. I'm talking about healthy, heterosexual, good looking, successful, intelligent men who have high standards and would not fuck just anything in sight.

I feel privileged.


Those men you have allowed within your periphery are of a caliber that I suspect is far more widespread than is generally perceived and all too often misperceived. A dashing charismatic man invests endless hours working on his mind and body, seeks out challenge and views diversity as opportunity. He simply does not have the time to waste on frivolous encounters.




VaguelyCurious -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 3:20:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

If if is fake charm, it will eventually exposed, but authentic charm will last.
What's the difference? I can be intensely charming to people I absolutely despise (I learnt from my mother). The fact that I don't mean it doesn't make me any less charming.

The verb 'to charm' is transitive-it requires an object. What makes charm effective or ineffective is the effect it has on the object-not the 'authenticity' of the source.




slavekal -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 4:06:43 AM)

That power is so real.  Many women don't realize what they have.  And I have noticed that some can't wait to give away that power.  They are uncomfortable wielding it.  The women who recognize and consciously use that power are the best dommes.  They enjoy the fact that men's desire for women makes us weak.




LadyAngelika -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 4:19:44 AM)


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ORIGINAL: JhonDean

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Really? Funny, I read about this all the time, but when I think of the amazing men I have close to me in my life, none of this meet this definition. I'm talking about healthy, heterosexual, good looking, successful, intelligent men who have high standards and would not fuck just anything in sight.

I feel privileged.


Those men you have allowed within your periphery are of a caliber that I suspect is far more widespread than is generally perceived and all too often misperceived. A dashing charismatic man invests endless hours working on his mind and body, seeks out challenge and views diversity as opportunity. He simply does not have the time to waste on frivolous encounters.


You have just described the men that I chose to associate with. And for the record, I was well aware of this and really, with my post, attempting to make the same point as you ;-)

- LA




LadyAngelika -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 4:27:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

If if is fake charm, it will eventually exposed, but authentic charm will last.
What's the difference? I can be intensely charming to people I absolutely despise (I learnt from my mother). The fact that I don't mean it doesn't make me any less charming.

The verb 'to charm' is transitive-it requires an object. What makes charm effective or ineffective is the effect it has on the object-not the 'authenticity' of the source.



The difference is in the statement you quoted. I agree on the surface it can all be the same—though some of us have better bullshit detectors than others, my boss being one of the best I've ever seen—and in a short encounter, the one being charmed may very well never know the difference. However, if you spend enough time around someone who uses fake charm, there are good chances that the falseness becomes exposed and obvious.

Authentic charm however only gains mileage. I like our associates that I deal with every day and I don't use fake charm with any of them. The charm I use is not flirty, but it is authentic. My reputation for being someone incredibly pleasant to deal with precedes me.

I've seen people use fake charm—and be good at it initially— and over two years, people start seeing through the crack and start considering them two-faced and hypocrites.

Does that answer your question?

- LA




dreamerdreaming -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 5:48:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

That power is so real.  Many women don't realize what they have.  And I have noticed that some can't wait to give away that power.  They are uncomfortable wielding it.  The women who recognize and consciously use that power are the best dommes.  They enjoy the fact that men's desire for women makes us weak.



Voila. A perfect example. Thank you for proving my points.


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PeonForHer -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 6:04:47 AM)

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I think, at best, one woman in about a hundred that I come across has that 'power' over me. Put it this way: Margaret Thatcher never had it, nor does the cleaning lady at my local pub.




VaguelyCurious -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 7:25:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

The difference is in the statement you quoted. I agree on the surface it can all be the same—though some of us have better bullshit detectors than others, my boss being one of the best I've ever seen—and in a short encounter, the one being charmed may very well never know the difference. However, if you spend enough time around someone who uses fake charm, there are good chances that the falseness becomes exposed and obvious.

Authentic charm however only gains mileage. I like our associates that I deal with every day and I don't use fake charm with any of them. The charm I use is not flirty, but it is authentic. My reputation for being someone incredibly pleasant to deal with precedes me.

I've seen people use fake charm—and be good at it initially— and over two years, people start seeing through the crack and start considering them two-faced and hypocrites.

Does that answer your question?

- LA

I can see what you're saying, but I'm not sure I agree with you. I've watched my mum and my grandma function for years, and I've rarely seen either of them caught out.




PeonForHer -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 7:57:33 AM)


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
- LA[/font]
I can see what you're saying, but I'm not sure I agree with you. I've watched my mum and my grandma function for years, and I've rarely seen either of them caught out.



Even *I've* been doing that for years without being caught out. [;)]

Pfft. 'Feminine power' just makes me think of the wives of certain Republican senators: ghastly, withered old crones with faces that could curdle the milk and make small children cry, stinking of perfume and wearing far too much make-up. They'll witter on about their mysterious feminine powers - with their husbands' smilingly indulgent support. . . right up to the time when they discover said husbands in the sack porking their secretaries.




LaTigresse -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 8:01:01 AM)

I think the difference can be in mindset.

If I want to, I can create a mindset within myself to be utterly delightful company to people I don't much care for at all. Considering I don't really like very many people, it's become second nature.





VaguelyCurious -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 8:02:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I think the difference can be in mindset.

If I want to, I can create a mindset within myself to be utterly delightful company to people I don't much care for at all. Considering I don't really like very many people, it's become second nature.
Tell me, how much Iraqi Jewish heritage do you have? :P




LaTigresse -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 8:04:48 AM)

Sadly none, as far as I know. I am as boring, white bread middle america, as you can find.




VaguelyCurious -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 8:11:44 AM)

And yet you have our devious, manipulating ways down pat...;-)




PeonForHer -> RE: The natural power that women have over men... (5/14/2010 8:11:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I think the difference can be in mindset.

If I want to, I can create a mindset within myself to be utterly delightful company to people I don't much care for at all. Considering I don't really like very many people, it's become second nature.




Ditto that. [;)]




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