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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/19/2010 2:54:27 AM   
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I met BSB.



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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/19/2010 1:08:31 PM   
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It's amazing the effects that shows like Batman and the Avengers seem to have had on so many of us.

As kids we used to roleplay scenes from our favorite shows. I remember one boy who used to want to play the Batman/Catwoman scene where Catwoman would make Batman dance...as Catwoman I had to take charge of Batman and I always hated that scene, but did it to keep him happy, what a good little sub I was... but I always got my payoff when Batman turned the tables.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/19/2010 1:14:59 PM   
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"The old pretend-roasting-over-the-fire-trick, ay?"

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/19/2010 5:48:46 PM   
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I was in the military, stationed in Great Lakes, IL..
I went out on a double date with a very nice couple. My date was intense. He showered me with his attention. He catered to my every need. He made me melt by the way he looked at me. I knew.. I just -knew- that I was going to be with him that night.

Until the bedroom door closed, and his Dominant side definitely came out.
And all I wanted to do was to please him.

It was at that point I knew that I am, indeed, submissive/slave. But not slave to everyone that crosses my path. I feel that slavery is a very special gift. That's just my opinion.
Is it a kink? I didn't think so at the time. I just knew it was a way of life.
The way of life that I was now going to lead.

I was 20 back then, I'm 40 now.

Thank you for bringing up this topic. It brought back some very nice memories for me.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/19/2010 6:20:18 PM   
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I blame the TV.  No, but seriously I found a penthouse forum under my brother's bad when I was a pre-teen and then felt a stirring in my loin after reading the more "racy" stories, and the rest as they say is history.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/20/2010 7:31:37 AM   
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The lady asked me to tie her up and use her and I liked it. A simple beginning. It's gotten more complicated - and more interesting - since then.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/20/2010 8:51:09 AM   
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I met a man on a vanilla dating site. He bit me, pulled my hair, pinned me to the bed and I really liked it. It wasn't until several months after I moved away from him that I discovered a name for this sort of behavior. I found CM and a whole new world opened to me.



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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/21/2010 4:57:10 PM   
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Sorry (Slightly off topic)

To subjim201.

Regarding your avatar picture...

"Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?"

He has.


Oh how I laughed hahaha.


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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/21/2010 6:14:22 PM   
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What fascinates me is other peoples stories of self discovery. realising that you were a Dom/sub/slave/switch and your journey to it and from that initial point.

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i dont actually see being submissive as kinky - the BDSM activities are for sure ill grant you that

from an fairly early age i used to have this on going day dream of being controlled/ruled/answerable to a dominant male figure - i used to think it was after my dad left, but you know, im damn sure it was before he left because i remember a holiday in cornwall when dad was still around and i was away with the fairies walking across the beach at crantoc.

the kinky spanking thing developed from that, wanting to be controlled and humiliated in that way.

the odd thing is that i accidentally ended up in a Ds relationship in my early twenties without knowing what Ds was at all and whilst i submitted to much of it, the control/being ruled and answerable to the guy was only partly successful -

then about ten years later i found all of this out on an aol discussion board and thought 'blimey thats what the guy was doing!' and i recognised myself in the descriptions i read about submissives and realised there was a whole load of people just like me and more importantly there were a whole load of guys who were actively looking for someone like me to live the life id dreamt about all of my life - it was a pretty amazing moment as i recall.

the BDSM kinky side developed the more i settled into submission



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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/21/2010 6:16:46 PM   
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Phoenix,

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What fascinates me is other peoples stories of self discovery. realising that you were a Dom/sub/slave/switch and your journey to it and from that initial point.


In no particular order: Mum's closet, friends, porn

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/21/2010 10:42:08 PM   
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To be honest I don't even remember. But I have always been very specific on the kind of man I was looking for. I've always been straight but really had no interest in a relationship. Shitting out babies, running from the lounge to the kitchen to get shit for a husband that does nothing, cleaning non stop and cooking and cooking and basically working to the point of committing suicide while husband actually EARNS money, comes home, does nothing. Sure, all that seems worth wasting my life over.
I had there random fantasies of hurting someone or tying them up. I thought it was just mine and mine alone.
Then I discovered that it was physically possible to do the things I wanted to do! And people actually DID them! And that there were actually men that actually LIKED being treated like that!
Did you know there are men that actually like that stuff I want to do to them?

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/22/2010 1:58:30 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jbcurious
It's amazing the effects that shows like Batman and the Avengers seem to have had on so many of us.

As kids we used to roleplay scenes from our favorite shows. I remember one boy who used to want to play the Batman/Catwoman scene where Catwoman would make Batman dance...

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I blame the TV.


What a delightfully timely thread, in that I've had a couple of accidental 'flashbacks' into my own kinky history just in the last day or so!  I blame the TV... sorta.  I can reach back to some foggy memory at age 3 when I enjoyed playing in the basement and doing strange things.  I distinctly remember tying myself up using ropes and belts at a very early age, even suspended upside down!  (A psychiatrist speculated this and some other personality traits are clear evidence of early molestation which I may have repressed... I dunno about all that!) But to the point... many of the TV shows and toys really made me realize what I was.

I've since gone on to write in a Word document about two pages, single-spaced, tracing every media influence I can remember from the sixties to the 'oughties' that influenced me or resonated with me in some way in a BDSM or Femdom kind of way.  While it's entertaining, I'm sure it's far too long for a posting here, so I'll hit the highlights.  I'll leave some detail from the sixties, since these were early childhood encounters for me (uh... I mean, I saw them as a child as RERUNS on TV Land... yeah... that's it! ).

Sixties:  Early on, when I was just four or five, I was enamored of Morticia Addams, all decked out in black and sitting on her high-backed chair, and liked the way Gomez fawned over her and knelt to kiss her hand.  Later, as several others have mentioned, there was Catwoman (my personal fave was Julie Newmar).  In the late sixties there was "The Man From U.N.C.L.E." wherein there was always some hot female THRUSH agent capturing male agents Solo or Kuryakin and doing dreadful things to them.  In particular, I still recall even the title of one episode which impacted me greatly as a boy:  “The Gazebo in the Maze Affair.”  It included a torture chamber complete with wall chains and a rack.  You can read the episode synopsis and do the math (or check out a few of the photos HERE):

Episode 27, "The Gazebo In The Maze Affair" Synopsis: Solo, Illya and Mr. Waverly are held captive in the private torture chamber of a former THRUSH agent.

Star Trek: TOS – I’ve heard Gene Rodenberry was in the lifestyle, and several of these had strong BDSM themes, notably “The Gamesters of Triskelion” (Triskelion? Hint-hint!) and “Plato’s Stepchildren,” and then there was perhaps the worst episode ever, “Spock’s Brain,“ its only redeeming quality being that it featured a planet ruled by women.  The women lived in safety and comfort underground, forcing the men to survive on the surface and only taking them below ground to serve as slaves or breed.  The women controlled the men with remote-controlled shock belts, and the men described the women as "the givers of pain… and delight."  Sound familiar?  [wink]   Oh, and let’s not forget Jane Fonda as “Barbarella!”

A few others down through the years:

Then in the seventies, there was Charlie’s Angels, The Bionic Woman… and Wonderwoman, the Amazon woman with her crown, bustier, boots, and golden lasso of truth (Lynda Carter was SO hot!)

The eighties brought us Eurythmics “Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This)” which informed us (as if we didn’t already know), “Some of them want to use you; some of them want to get used by you; some of them want to abuse you; some of them want to be abused.”  And it brought us Elvira, Mistress of the Dark.

In the nineties, USA Network treated us footboys to Rhonda Shear, who kept us “UP All Night.” Really.
Star Trek: The Next Generation reprised the idea of a FemDom planet with its episode “Angel One,” with the guys basically filling the role of housewives, right down to effeminate looks and clothing.  Riker comes in and tries to spoil everything by encouraging them to stand up against those evil dommes and fight for their rights!

Yep, blame it on the TV.  But then there were the TOYS. 

My favorite was the 1971 Aurora “Monster Scenes” (interesting name, huh?) model kits:  No. 635 “The Pain Parlor,” No. 636 “The Pendulum,” No. 637  “The Hanging Cage,” and No. 638 “Vampirella.”  Oh, then there was No. 632 “The Victim” (female in this case).  I’ve since found out that these were so widely protested by various groups that they were yanked from the market and brought down Aurora’s empire.  The toys are now rare, and are bringing about $100 each on eBay.  I had them all, well-maintained and complete, and I’m kinda pissed at my mom for making me clean out the basement and give them away (not to mention amazed I was allowed to buy them and play with them in the first place!)  But I’ll never forget my older cousin coming to pick up some of my leavings for her innocent darlings… for some odd reason, she didn’t want this wonderful set of snap-together models!  Here’s one description from a website:

“First released in 1971, the Monster Scenes provided kids with a plastic “Victim”—a nubile young 70s hottie in torn halter top and cut-offs who looked like she stepped straight out of Creedence Clearwater Revival’s “Sweet Hitchhiker” or any rock group’s gaggle of groupies—to presumably be tortured or experimented upon in a snap-together torture chamber, handsomely decked out with immortal horror trappings like Edgar Allan Poe’s Pendulum, The Hanging Cage (replete with brazier of red hot coals and pokers), and the subtly-titled Pain Parlor playset. Presiding over this deviltry were the loathsome Dr. Deadly and, like a plastic dominatrix, the scantily-clad Vampirella kit, the most un-loathsome sight imaginable.
Yep, that was my favorite of them all!






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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/22/2010 10:48:18 PM   
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Man, where were those female teachers in my school? 

Although, there was that one young and hot English teacher junior year, but all my awkward flirtations were for not.  Well that was wasted effort, which could have probably been spent writing better papers.  Then again she did provide some inspirational material for those nights trying to… ahem… write about T.S. Elliot and "The Waste Land".
 

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/23/2010 5:23:23 AM   
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Seems my reply was deleted because I told how old I was at the time.  Let's just say I was MUCH younger than I am now.  I saw Catwoman on the old Batman series abusing her minions who knelt before her throne.  She used a whip to keep discipline.  And she would tie up and torture Batman and Robin.  I was hooked.

Seems rather arbitrary that my post was deleted.  This thread contains many posts of people relating their experiences and feelings from childhood.  Yet mine was removed.


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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/23/2010 6:27:38 AM   
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Like many others have mentioned, my interest was aroused at a very early age. Sneaking around watching anything I could and scouring through all the Penthouse forums and true confessions stories I could find. I went through all the usual ins and outs of dating and such, but unlike many of my other friends, I had to be in control, not the guy. I remember a particular instance when I was about 18 and I had just shut this guy down that had his own agenda for "the evening's entertainment". When he got on his knees and begged me to let him stay, I was hooked! The rush I got was wild. Just knowing I had that much control over him.

Being from a small town, I tried to conform to the idea of what was considered normal, (you know, settle down and be a good submitting wife) but that just didnt fit for me and ended in divorce. When I started dating again, I opted to hit the internet and hopefully find men out there with views more like my own. I met a guy and we immediately clicked. I wasn't sure what it was about him, but there was something there that felt right. After a couple months of fairly vanilla sex, we were talking one day about his fantasies and my own and found we liked the same things. We decided to explore our kink together. I was a bit hesitant to let him know the extent of my 'perviness' at first, but the deeper we got into it, the more free I felt to just be myself and do what came naturally.

The power rush is still a huge turn on for me.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/23/2010 4:19:34 PM   
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I'm completely in sync with AtHerHeels1...take The Addams Family in afternoon reruns + the many "bondage" scenes in the old Batman tv series. Add a dash with the second season Gilligan's Island episode where the mad doctor took the castaways to his mysterious island with all of the medieval torture devices...those images touched something deep inside me.

For years I thought I was the only person who remembered the old Aurora toys, but I do remember the cover of the Vampirella, Pain Parlor and Victim kits. But even as a child, there was also something inside my mind that knew I shouldn't ask for any of those model kits...not that I would have been given any of them anyway.

The Roger Corman versions of "Pit & the Pendulum" and "Cask of Amontillado" shown on afternoon tv at Halloween and the afternoon Gothic soap opera Dark Shadows fueled my love for wanting to be the victim (or object of attention, if you prefer) of some Master.

Thanks for the memories, AtHerHeels1!

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/23/2010 4:37:09 PM   
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It was when I was a teen. I was one of those Wedsnday Adams type goth girls and begged and pleaded with a store I discovered sold more than motorcycle jackets to hire me. They put me in a show I started modeling for them and after I was legal started doing live BDSM shows. Nothing made me happier than inflicting pain on a male and making them do as I say. The rest is history.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/31/2010 7:46:50 AM   
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Barbie....loved to tied up Barbie.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 5/31/2010 7:29:54 PM   
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Like many people here, the interest started when I was very young. I remember getting in trouble with dad for bookmarking and re-reading punishment scenes in the children's versions of, "Mutiny on the Bounty," and, "The Prince and the Pauper." I started school shortly afterwards and quickly learned to keep my interests well hidden.

I became aware of BDSM by accident through some voluntary work in my teens, but what I saw there put me off for a long, long time. I eventually realised that it couldn't always go that badly wrong, so I started reading and researching, and eventually arrived here.

I'm still coming to terms with this and trying to convince myself that it's not "wrong". These forums are really helpful: knowing that I'm not alone is a huge comfort.

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RE: Tell your story... How did you discover you were ki... - 6/1/2010 4:35:00 PM   
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My Barbies got tied up; and branded with bent paper clips heated over a cigaretter lighter.  And I would steal the neighbor boys' GI Joes.  The GI Joes kept the enslaved Barbies on a remote and secret island.  Ahhh, the innocent fancies of the young.  

And then, when I grew up, I became kinky. 


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