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SirsJewel -> RE: Does Surrender Require Mutual Consent? (7/28/2010 4:38:11 AM)
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My guess based on your thread shandra is this person didnt want to "play the game" any longer. My advice would be hang in there,be of "service". No longer "play back" as in submit to every request willingly until the problem is fixed,and oh of course move out.
If my guess is wrong and you both haven't communicated,maybe the dominant has run out of steam or interest or ideas or is testing,any number of things could be going on. Do what feels right to you to do. Best wishes to you during this dificulty~
Comment to topic/When i met my previous owner,early on in our visits as my mentor/teacher,he used a lesson in speaking without words to tell a story. This made me very nervous as i need communication as a rule,so i tried very poorly and he took over. My answer first was "you are in control" by his actions, he replied yes somewhat but there's more. My next answer was "you own me", he did not answer but other things/actions ensued. When i got home i thought over and over if maybe just maybe i got the second incorrectly and it was not my place to say such a thing,i didn't sleep,i felt sick with fear i had pushed something misunderstood in my own direction somehow. When he spoke to me he knew i was very troubled almost pannicked,and said i need to call i need to hear your voice. i said i couldn't i was emotional i had done something very terrible and had weilded power in my direction and ruined things. He told me what i said was fine,if it wasn't he would tell me,but from then onward i was always wary id submit without consent,and preferred from then on to be prompted and directed. It effected me to the point i did not ask for things i needed well,or begged properly,it developed a trust issue that i couldn't relax or be "Me".
It is chemistry at times and it is eagerness to serve and be pleasing. i had been submissive with slave tendencies and would consider myself that now had i been told i was otherwise natrually with the proper dominant/owner. i will ever be careful how much i want to submit without guidance,but the need is there always to be a good slave and serve joyfully. i have been this way all my life but until recently had many take advantage of that trait,giving away far too much of myself without being asked or acknowledged. It feels good to be of service,but not to anyones detriment or loss. i am not taught in all the forms written by the Op,but in my case it is engrained in me somewhat and needs balanced out by my over eagerness to please and be well liked ~ jewels
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