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EStrict -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/18/2004 11:28:47 PM)
quote: Let me point out that a profile at Collarme implicitly is a "solicitation" for responses, unless the profiler explicitly states that he or she is "not looking right now". Therefore, responses are not "unsolicited" mail, as you suggest in your reply. Yes, but the rude email you sent me in response to my public comments was unsolicited. And the childishness of blocking a response speaks volumes. They say the first thing any dominant must learn is self control. If your immediate response to any who disagree with you is rude emails, or gender slaps (like your one at Mod Trey), I would hazard a guess that your emails may not appear as nice as you think, and it is little wonder that you get few responses.

GoddessJules -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/18/2004 11:53:21 PM)
quote: Let me point out that a profile at Collarme implicitly is a "solicitation" for responses, unless the profiler explicitly states that he or she is "not looking right now". Therefore, responses are not "unsolicited" mail, as you suggest in your reply. Actually, YOU are the one putting an "implicit" meaning into a profile. Some people may just have one so that they can show people they might encounter on mesage boards and such who they are. I don't make ANY assumptions about why a person does or doesn't have a profile up. There could be 100,000 reasons that I'm not privy to that they have one up. ~Jules~

happypervert -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/19/2004 9:40:08 AM)
Though the ads are looking for responses, they do have target audiences in mind and of course will respond to those that fit what they're looking for. I use the analogy of a company with a help wanted ad -- if they are looking for experienced engineers, there is no reason to respond to recent graduates, janitors, lumberjack or anyone else that isn't a fit. But they will call the ones they want to interview. Now after reading your posts, it looks to me like sending a compliment to gals is a really a test of your own charm; getting a reply lets you measure your success. And since you didn't get the thoughtful replies to give yourself a warm and fuzzy feeling, you got upset enough to start this discussion framing the situation as a lack of courtesy in the girls. Let's face it -- if it wasn't about getting your ego stroked, you wouldn't care at all whether they replied or not. But as others have stated, there's no reason at all for them to reply. As a matter of fact, there is a disincentive to sending a even quick "Thanks, but no thanks", because that would just encourage a lot of bozos to reply again to try to build upon her politeness to eventually weasel their way into her pants.

MrStrapwell -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/20/2004 12:55:51 AM)
quote: Just a small comment. I personally don't feel gratitude that someone writes me... to me that comment makes you (btw, this is a general you, even it if it applies to you personally in this instance) sound weak and pathetic. It is one thing to appreciate the efforts of someone else, it is another to feel grateful that someone notices you enough to chose to correspond. Dear E-Strict, In order to not make this a forum in which individual members strike blows against one another, let me point out that your remarks above speak volumes about yourself. Regarding you being blocked, isn't that the prerogative of each and every member at Collarme.com, both male and female? And to GoddessJules, Some people worship an "Angry God". Apparently you believe that it logically follows that there are those who wish to worship an "Angry Goddess". And there are those who believe that "Love will prevail". They are the ones whom I stand with. Todd

MrStrapwell -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/20/2004 1:14:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: happypervert Though the ads are looking for responses, they do have target audiences in mind and of course will respond to those that fit what they're looking for. I use the analogy of a company with a help wanted ad -- if they are looking for experienced engineers, there is no reason to respond to recent graduates, janitors, lumberjack or anyone else that isn't a fit. But they will call the ones they want to interview. Now after reading your posts, it looks to me like sending a compliment to gals is a really a test of your own charm; getting a reply lets you measure your success. And since you didn't get the thoughtful replies to give yourself a warm and fuzzy feeling, you got upset enough to start this discussion framing the situation as a lack of courtesy in the girls. Let's face it -- if it wasn't about getting your ego stroked, you wouldn't care at all whether they replied or not. But as others have stated, there's no reason at all for them to reply. As a matter of fact, there is a disincentive to sending a even quick "Thanks, but no thanks", because that would just encourage a lot of bozos to reply again to try to build upon her politeness to eventually weasel their way into her pants. Regarding happypervert's comments, Actually, if trying to meet people and have a positive verbal interchange is derided as a sinister means to gaining a "warm and fuzzy feeling" and "stroking one's ego", then the one suggesting such has a cynical view of humanity. And I don't think that it helps to refer to men on this site as "bozos", nor to refer to the seduction of a woman as an attempt to "weasel their way into her pants". After all, there are many gentlemen, myself included, who seek a monogamous relationship. Mr. Strapwell

ModeratorThree -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/20/2004 1:35:54 AM)
Might I say it is one thing to block another user, it is a different issue when you send email to them - then block them not allowing for a response. It shows immaturity and a one sided personality. Why did you email in the first place? To get a rant off then block them so they cannot respond? A bit childish- the more you post the more apparant the underlying issues become. If you abuse the email privlage you can and will lose it. Might I suggest to you that you take that into consideration. Further harrassing, rude, or childish behaviors and misuse of the email afforded to you will result in loss. Consider this a warning. This might be a good time for you to rethink you position and your actions. Mod3

mousiemae10126 -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 2:38:46 AM)
RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs. I am a sub, who is Extremely new to this site. With in minutes of my first posting at all, i recieved Entirely Too many postingies to aswer their Q's. quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSnowBeard MrStrapwell Well I have found always being a Gentleman is a good thing when contacting a submissive here on the board or in real life. But I believe from your post that you are a Gentleman. You mentioned being direct in your first email... I do not know what all that includes for you... but as for Myself my first email to someone is more of a greeting and do not get into specifics of what I might have as desires or wants about that person. I will save that till I know that there is some interest created first from the person responding favorably to my first message. But also I know that not all ladies will be attracted to Me.... and don't take it personal when someone does not reply .... as everyone has their own tastes in what they are looking for in a partner. That doesn't make you any less attractive though. I also know ladies here sometimes become overwhelmed with the massive amount of email they recieve and sometimes do not have time to respond to all. I have not read your profile yet ... so don't know what you say or what kind of mental image of yourself you paint. But I do suggest putting a little fire in your profile if there isn't. Something that makes a lady who is attracted have to stop and think about you and what you have written. And does not have to be sexual. Just the energy and aura you project and create will draw ladies to you. I have many ladies contact Me ...that I have not contacted, because the see something in my eyes in my picture. They can sense something by what they have r Just the energy and aura you project and create will draw ladies to you; or Repell from You....

subbiejenn -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 7:55:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mousiemae10126 RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs. I am a sub, who is Extremely new to this site. With in minutes of my first posting at all, i recieved Entirely Too many postingies to aswer their Q's. It will slow down, the first few days a "newbie" lights up they all e-mail rather quickly smiles Welcome to collarme, it's great to have Y/you here! good luck in Y/your search ~jenn~

Estring -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 9:38:06 AM)
I have emailed a few subs/slaves since I have been on this site. Some have responded, some have not. The ones who didn't respond to me, I just assumed they were not interested. No big deal. I don't dwell on the reasons why. And I certainly don't take it personally. Mr Strapwell, your posts here have done more to explain who you really are than any profile could have. What was probably implied in your profile and emails has been exposed in your posts here. Good luck. You will need it.

GoddessJules -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 9:59:44 AM)
quote: I have emailed a few subs/slaves since I have been on this site. Some have responded, some have not. The ones who didn't respond to me, I just assumed they were not interested. No big deal. I don't dwell on the reasons why. And I certainly don't take it personally. That is because you are a mature adult with a firm grasp of the realities of who things work. Some just don't get it and all the "help" in the world won't open their eyes. The original poster was hit upside the head with the reality cinder block. . .and look where he is. . .still blaming EVERYONE else for his behavior and lack of a slave/sub. We are all evil, angry, and spiteful miscreants trying to foil his plans to own someone. MAHAHAHAHA!!!! ~evil grin~ And Estring, it saddens me to hear that he pulled a stunt like that with you. . .not because you "aren't man enough to take it" (I'm sure you didn't lose a WINK of sleep over it) but the fact that it was just such a low down thing for someone to do. It's ironic how MrStrapwell went on and on about etiquette, ethics, morality, et al. . .and still pulled some crap like that. A-fucking-mazing. ~Jules~

EStrict -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 11:13:50 AM)
quote: And Estring, it saddens me to hear that he pulled a stunt like that with you. . .not because you "aren't man enough to take it" ::laughing:: Sandy,,, EStrict,,, but don't worry, you are in good company, lots of people have called me Estring. I wonder if he posted on how he got that name? I'll have to look. You are right though. I didn't lose any sleep. I deal with a 2 year old every day, I'm use to them pouting, and running when they don't get their way :)

GoddessJules -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 12:06:50 PM)
eSTRICT, OH MY GOSH! MEA CULPA!!!!! It was a total oversight on my part. . .no disrespect intended! (I'm sure Estring is a great guy too.) Since I'm never at fault, (as my boys) I'll just chalk it up to the fact that collarme.com accidentally transposed the letters on my screen and I saw Estring. I pinky promise you that it won't happen again [;)] ~Jules~

January -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 12:38:58 PM)
Sandy, I'm glad you posted. Strapwell messaged me too. But with your warning, I deleted it unread. Do you suppose to delete a message unread is ruder than merely not replying? Do you know why a person who wants an "articulate" woman would react so poorly to articulate women? By the way, Estring did post about his name--it has to do with his second favorite guitar string! I think G-string is his favorite string :) January P.S. to Goddess Jules, in case Sandy (EStrict) doesn't have time to reply soon: EStrict is a female slave. She is not Estring's slave. His slave's name is slaveofEstring. Confused yet?

GoddessJules -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 12:45:04 PM)
I do appreciate the info January!!! Okay, I feel like a fucktard. . .first I mess up her name. . .then I think she is a guy. . .DOH!!!!! My apologies! star date 32454.767, Jules needs to read profiles before assuming a gender Scotty, beam up one. ~Jules~

EStrict -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/20/2004 1:31:28 PM)
His name has to do with music,, just one more thing to like about him :) Don't worry Jules, with Strict as part of my name and my forthright style, I have often been mistaken for being a dominant too. Estring and I have been mistaken on these boards many times. Here is the basics: Him: Male dominant from CA. Owner of slaveofEstring. Great at one liners. Bald, VERY nice looking (IMO), intelligent, articulate, good head on his shoulders. Me: Female slave from NV. Live with my owner, but he is not on the boards at all. I am far from bald, but am intelligent, articulate and considered to have a good head on my shoulders. ::Laughing:: I'm guessing it's those last three qualities combined with the similar names is why we have been mixed up on these boards since the first week they were open :)

compes -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/21/2004 12:58:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: compes I do hope you do well – your apology impressed me. From what I’ve seen in the BDSM community, some Doms feel as if they have no need to apologize, which is something I disagree with. After further reading your replys Strapwell, I'm now unimpressed with you. However, I do think the second half of my statement stands. I'm no longer puzzled at your lack of submissive responses. Compes.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/21/2004 4:39:58 AM)
Ok… so I’ve been away from these boards a few days and… whoa! MrStrapwell! Shame on you. Seriously. Do you have any idea how sad & pathetic you are being? Not to mention passive aggressive? And the gender dichotomy… well don’t even get me started on this one. You have some serious issues to deal with on this topic. The submissive girls on this site are not your own private little spankable chicks catalogue! They are real, live women with needs, desires, dreams, pride, not to mention brave women who also more then likely have a list of deal makers and deal breakers. You might not fit into their ideal schema and they may not feel comfortable responding to you. And seeing how passive aggressive you are being here, they were probably wise to delete your note and not engage you. A word in your ear dear man: you are not God’s gift to women, so don’t expect them to treat your little solicitations like gold plated treasures from heaven! As for you going around insulting the women and men that have graciously paid a little attention to you in this thread and tried to help you out, well… Estring said it best. We learned so much from you this way. I just hope you change your ways before some poor unsuspecting girl gets in your grasp. - LA

MrStrapwell -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/21/2004 6:08:28 PM)
To any casual passers by who have read this thread and have felt like a war has transpired, please note all of the wise, friendly and helpful responses, which seem to have been overwhelmed at the end by the Haters. And a special note to January. My email to you was a Thank You note. Your first message on the thread is wonderful. What else can I say, but Thank You to the beautiful people who posted such wonderful and positive advice and opinions. (Comment reserved on those espousing hatred on Page 3)

LadyShoshin -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/21/2004 6:20:39 PM)
Mr Strapwell, I see you took my adivice in how to change your profile, but the t-shirt & Bambi in the headlights pic has got to go. A sports hirt and slacks, a casual suit, all would look good. What is this I hear about you sending cranky emails to people and not giving them a chance to respond? Not the sign of a gentleman for sure!

MrStrapwell -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/21/2004 6:42:53 PM)
Hi Lady Shoshin, It's wonderful of you to rejoin the discussion. Yes, that photo of mine must be nuked. A replacement is needed, and your advice, as always, is outstanding. Regarding Ms. "Estrict", I didn't want to air out my complaints with her in public, realizing that the thread was getting clogged with unpleasantries, so I therefore sent her my regards via an email. I'll include the text of my email to "Estrict" here, so that you can see it's not so bad: Dear Sandy, Rather than respond to your comment on the message board, I will respond here. I happen to like people, and I welcome the opportunity to meet with, and chat with, nice people. And yes, I am grateful to have the opportunity to chat with people who happen to have taken a liking to my profile. Now, some other people (without naming names) may have a more cynical response to getting email. That is, surely, your right. -------- Not so bad after all.

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