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realophelia -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (9/30/2005 3:24:53 PM)

Hi :) One of things that was always important to me in emails or ads was approachability. If someone seemed cold or stiff I wasn't likely to feel especially interested in them. I don't know what your emails are like but in terms of your ad I would try to make it a little more conversational. You might want to lose the term wherein for example, and also take out the part about subs being permitted to contact you. It would just be a little more friendly, IMO.

You might also want to consider dropping the requirement that anyone who writes to you be cultured. My Master is more experienced than I am -- culturally, politically and in many other ways -- but he enjoys exposing me to new ideas and experiences. People don't always have to be alike to be compatible. And you could be excluding someone you might really like.

The same might be true of your education requirement. Perhaps openess and a willingness to learn are really just as important to you as a degree.

Also the pic is important. It should be flattering. It should also be current and representational. I have to admit that liking someone's pic was probably just as important to me as the quality of their writing and approachability.

Best of luck in your search,
Ophelia





AbstractSavant -> RE: Elegant and enlightening responses from a bland topic (9/30/2005 7:08:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MrStrapwell

The elegant and enlightening responses to what was my initially "bland" topic have revealed so much from both sides of the fence, male and female regarding the nature of online (and online D/S) dating. How reassuring that human kindness is alive and well at Collarme.com as so many of you have given your time, and your wisdom to expound upon the interworkings of online seduction, and the protocol for initiating a relationship.

I apologize for lashing out. It is inappropriate to act out negatively at any time, especially during a discussion, and therefore I was way out of line.

What I should have said was that I am saddened (angered?) at the apparent "sense of entitlement" which seems to exist among members of the fair sex on this, and other online dating websites, due to females recieving so much attention from members of the less-fair sex, otherwise known as men. As a man, I personally view each and every email I receive at Collarme as a compliment, and in return for this compliment, I send a response, and usually a very polite one. I wouldn't think of returning a compliment with silence and indifference. Gratitute is of paramount value in my code of moral conduct. I now see that many others each have their own perspective on this issue of silence as an acceptable response to emails. The general concensus is that while we are responsible for our own actions, there's not much we can do about the actions of others, and if another member of the Collarme community to whom one is attracted is unresponsive, so be it. It is the nature of the online beast (I now accept this).

Peace and love to all of you. You are truly gracious and loving human beings.

Todd


Similar to the sense of entitlement you seem to feel.

Are you really entitled to a response to an e-mail you sent unsolicited?

Think about it.

Regards,
Miss Savant




AbstractSavant -> RE: Things are getting interesting ... (9/30/2005 7:14:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ModeratorSix

I for one am not inclined to delete your post, NewFlowers, however, ladies, you have probably spanked our man Strapwell soundly enough unless he makes the mistake of putting his foot more deeply into his mouth here. Waddaya say we call it a day on this thread?

Mod6


Oops. Just saw this.

Good day, everyone!




realophelia -> RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs (10/1/2005 7:20:09 AM)

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Edited to add-- oops! I skimmed through most of this thread, but had not seen the "let it die" posts. Sorry! I won't delete this, since I find it rude to delete posts, but I don't expect any replies to it in this thread.


I skimmed the thread also. Might not have replied above if I had read it all. Ophelia




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