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sweetsub1957 -> RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter (5/23/2010 3:19:53 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum
Backstory: Very recently, i met a member from this site for some coffee in an attempt for us to get to know each other better. We both had made it very clear through messages and phone conversation that this was a vanilla meeting, and no play and/or talking about play of would take place.
Upon getting to the Starbucks- he was very polite and respectful. He gave me a firm handshake, paid for my coffee even though i planned on paying for it myself. While we were sitting down and talking about our vanilla lives, the conversation went smoothly.Then out of nowhere, while i was in mid-sentance, he said, "I'm sorry, this isnt working for me. You aren't a domme, you're too nice."
Not the first time i've heard that [8|]. I told him "i am a human first, so forgive me if i like to have nice, meaningful conversation." with it seeming like i had said nothing, he replied in a VERY snarky and LOUD manner, "You're not a domme! If you were, i'd be eating this fucking scone under the table like a dog! Am i? NO- YOU ARE A FUCKING FAKE!"
Mind you- this is in the middle of a crowded Starbucks in downtown Baltimore. I have no shame in what i am- but I'm not a fan of anybody causing a scene and having me involved.
If that wasnt enough- he yelled for me to give me the money he spent on my coffee and that he dosn't give freebies out to desperate and pathetic women. i didnt even drink any of it- it was too hot.
I got up, grabbed my bag- put the 5.38 in front of him, and i noticed he had a ragging erection. I assumed he was trying to get a rise out of me. Now what i did next was ill on my part, but since EVERYBODY was staring i saw no harm by giving them some additional entertainment. I took the lid off the coffee i had and dumped it all over his lap and left. No words or anything.
So my question is that is asserting my dominance during a vanilla meeting a must? I haven't met too many people just for conversation, so i really don't know if there is something i'm just not getting.
i see a few things happening here. First (1)he is a rude ass. Then (2)by being a rude ass he might have been trying to coerce You into (what he feels is) Dommely behavior by instigating it, and (3)if he really wanted to, he could have taken Your insistence that it be a vanilla conversation as Your Domming the tone of the conversation and been happy about it, but he didn't.
Personally, i'm tickled to death if a Dominant is nice at the first meet.
~sweetsub~
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