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RE: Dominant duties? - 4/9/2006 5:41:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

You can speak and label yourself as ... Jackass... But if you can't Demonstrate it ... it just becomes talk and soon after dead air.

Is that a challenge?? :)

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RE: Dominant duties? - 4/9/2006 6:27:11 PM

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From the perspective of the Mists house, we always interact with each other as dominant or submissive. Alandra and I have many standing orders and expectations of behavior that sets us apart from relationships that do not have a D/s structure. We do not have to be in a scene or to be receiving specific instructions to know that he has complete authority in our lives. Even when we are doing non lifestyle specific things there is always the undercurrent of D/s behaviors that we follow. Some examples of this are:

-         Alandra and I are not allowed to use his name; we address him as my Lord or my Love.
-         We sit or walk on specific sides
-         We use hand signals to obtain permission to speak
-         We ask permission to ask questions, give information or an opinion
-         We ask permission to leave his presence
-         If we are in arms reach of him we do not turn our back without permission
-         We do not enter a room or doorway before him without permission
-         We kneel before the bed and obtain permission to sleep there for the night

These things do not define who we are but they demonstrate who we are. We are intrinsically motivated to demonstrate these behaviors and they are done no matter where we are or who we are with.

Our Lord may have periods of low energy but it is these interactions the rejuvenate all of us and bring us back to our center. I am most at peace when I am interacting with my Lord because it is in these moments that I am demonstrating my authentic self in its entirety.

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RE: Dominant duties? - 4/11/2006 4:55:47 PM

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Not to quibble here but ....

One does not need to be a 'Dominant' to dominate someone. In this same vein, neither does one need to be a 'submissive' to submit to someone.

There are all forms of dynamics and relationships and some are not quite so cut and dried as one is the Dominant and the other is the submissive. In some cases people switch back and forth and thus for some time are dominant or submissive but in the long would be called a switch. In other cases the play is what is important and when the play is done both parties become equal and egalitarian.

Some folks are dominant people. These same people might prefer a submissive role in their intimate relationships or merely sexually. The same truth applies to some submissive folks who take on a Dominant role in the more personal areas of their lives.

As to the "Master" - master and "slave" - slave debate.....

"I am the master of my soul. I am the captian of my fate" - it's a great poem.

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RE: Dominant duties? - 4/11/2006 6:04:35 PM

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You guys are saying that Dominants have Duties??????????? Why wasn't that told to people at the "WeKnowItALL & YouDoAsYouAreTold School for Dominants"?????

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RE: Dominant duties? - 4/11/2006 6:31:07 PM

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Because of Master's health He is often not feeling up to par - in fact right now He is asleep but I have orders to wake Him for lunch. It doesn't affect the D/s part of our relationship, in fact it seems to enhance it because I have so many more opportunities to serve

The love and the respect is there no matter what.

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RE: Dominant duties? - 4/11/2006 7:01:42 PM

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You guys are saying that Dominants have Duties???????????

That's where I got confused...I thought they said "Doo-dee" and I was going to ask for it to be cleaned up.

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